Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

Bubbasgone · #26 06-01-2012, 12:15 PM

It is human nature to want someone to pay for their part in feeding your man's addiction. Let it go. Turning him in might make you feel better initially, but the relief you might feel afterwards won't last long. That relief will be replaced by fear and it's not a good feeling.

waiting4shawn · #27 06-02-2012, 12:42 PM

I'm a former addict myself. It's a different world then I ever expected to learn. My fiance is away for the bad choice we made to use. Trust me...it is too risky to report him. His time will come. Just focus on supporting your man in his recovery.
Good luck to you both!

Jimbo111_2 · #28 06-04-2012, 08:29 AM

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Originally Posted by MP1204

Hello everyone. I'm new here and basically joined for some advice. My boyfriend of three years has been a heroin addict for the past year. He has been through treatment and even almost went to jail. I understand that his addiction is a disease, and that isn't really what I am here to talk about. My question is that I know a lot of information on his dealer. Names, locations he would meet them, type of car, all that. One part of me wants to submit this information but I'm afraid of the possible repercussions. My conscious is telling me that knowing this information I should report it, but as I said I don't know if this is just a selfish side of me or the part that was always told to report things such as this or even a combination of the two. I am just confused and would really appreciate anyones thoughts or opinions. Thank you.

I would ask myself a question, what would I do if my boyfriend wasn't involved?

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Jimbo111_2 · #29 06-04-2012, 08:54 AM

After reading this and one reply made me think. If your neighbor is selling drugs, say nothing.

Does this belief hold for any crime?

What about the neighbor who beats the crap out of his wife?
What about the neighbor who beats the crap out of his children?
What about the neighbor who breaks into homes?
What about the neighbor who is making bombs in his basement?
What about the neighbor who supply beer to the neighborhood kids?

It seems crime is ok.

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Jimbo111_2 · #30 06-04-2012, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by SusanWayward

Here is the difference between rapists, serial or otherwise.

In a drug transaction, both parties agreed and consented to the transaction.

In a rape transaction, there is no consent and force is involved.

So you believe the addict has the power to say "No"

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only1love · #31 06-04-2012, 04:30 PM

I got sick and tired of watching dope deals go on in broad daylight on my elderly mother's front lawn. I called the police. Many times and in fact every time I went to my mother's home. I have no one in my family or friends who is an addict. I just hated the idea of doing that sort of business on her front lawn.

The police never showed up. Not even a drive by.

Don't kid yourself. Although illegal, this is not something the police are going to put down their donut for.
All you will be doing is making it known that you do not approve!

MrsCetina · #32 06-05-2012, 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Jimbo111_2

So you believe the addict has the power to say "No"

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As a recovering addict of meth and heroin, yes i absolutely do. I quit both because i decided i wanted better for myself. Of course its tough, but its possible to quit when you decide you dont want to live like that anymore. The thing is, you have to want to be clean more than you want the drugs. Its not a drug dealers responsibilty to stop selling drugs because you dont want to use anymore. Its the user's resonsibility to decide to stop and avoid the dealers.

MrsCetina · #33 06-05-2012, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Jimbo111_2

After reading this and one reply made me think. If your neighbor is selling drugs, say nothing.

Does this belief hold for any crime?

What about the neighbor who beats the crap out of his wife?
What about the neighbor who beats the crap out of his children?
What about the neighbor who breaks into homes?
What about the neighbor who is making bombs in his basement?
What about the neighbor who supply beer to the neighborhood kids?

It seems crime is ok.

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The first three are done to others against their will. Theres no valid reasons or excuses for those.
Im on the fence about the guy making bombs in his basement. Is he just experimenting, being a mad scientist, or does he have plans to use the bombs to blow something up?
And the neighbor providing, well i guess im just a troubled teen at heart, because i had neighbors and plenty of older friends providing me alcohol since the age of 13-14. Me and my friends at that age wanted to drink and get into trouble, no one was holding a gun to our heads and pouring booze down our throats. I think this example is just what normal teenagers do, find ways to get in trouble. I guess im on the fence about that as well

SusanWayward · #34 06-05-2012, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by SusanWayward http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/pto...s/viewpost.gif
Here is the difference between rapists, serial or otherwise.

In a drug transaction, both parties agreed and consented to the transaction.

In a rape transaction, there is no consent and force is involved.

So you believe the addict has the power to say "No"

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The addict always has choices. The forcible-rape victim never does.

One of the addict's choices, when he needs that fix and can't say no, is to enter a treatment program instead of continuing his relationship with his rapist, I mean, dealer.

I wonder how many rape victims on this board feel that their experience being violated was pretty much the same as the experience of an addict who contacts a dealer to obtain that much-needed and desired fix.

The trench-coated "candyman" who gets innocent kids hooked against their will or comes around forcing pills and dope on people, is a myth.

The reality for most heroin addicts is that they are well aware of the treatment programs that are out there, and may have even been thru a few, but they make a choice to continue or return to old, self-destructive behaviors.

This isn't like being raped at all.

Jimbo111_2 · #35 06-07-2012, 07:05 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsCetina

The first three are done to others against their will. Theres no valid reasons or excuses for those.
Im on the fence about the guy making bombs in his basement. Is he just experimenting, being a mad scientist, or does he have plans to use the bombs to blow something up?
And the neighbor providing, well i guess im just a troubled teen at heart, because i had neighbors and plenty of older friends providing me alcohol since the age of 13-14. Me and my friends at that age wanted to drink and get into trouble, no one was holding a gun to our heads and pouring booze down our throats. I think this example is just what normal teenagers do, find ways to get in trouble. I guess im on the fence about that as well

wow, so there shouldn't be any laws that don't fit what you want to do. I like the bomb making comment.

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jfs · #36 06-07-2012, 07:18 AM

My LO is a HA and now serving time. I was angry in the beginning and thought about 'dobbing' in the dealers. Decided that it wouldn't help the situation. Only he can fix himself! I did however accidentally loose his cell phone....ooops no numbers.

Sheryl P. · #37 06-07-2012, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by jfs

My LO is a HA and now serving time. I was angry in the beginning and thought about 'dobbing' in the dealers. Decided that it wouldn't help the situation. Only he can fix himself! I did however accidentally loose his cell phone....ooops no numbers.

You are twisted and evil,I like it