I still don't know if i ended it for the right reason or not

[pfuentesv]

I ended my relationship with my ex he still has about 3 years left. I still don't know if i ended it for the right reason or not. We've always had problems. We just always end up together anyway but this time i felt like i wouldn't have to be doing this bid if he had just listened to me. I know i do love him and want to be with him but i feel he just wants me around cuz i deal with him. I started seeing someone and i ended up pregnant. I told him about everything and he just doesn't understand that its exactly what he did except not him doing it. I know i was wrong about getting pregnant but I'm ok with it. I love babies so I'm happy. I guess I'm just confused.

[hisbabygurl2014]

I am sorry this is going on with you. But you also cannot blame him for everything, you can only allow how people can you treat you. He didnt listen you because he is not a child and is a grown a@@ man and he chose to make that choice. If you want to move on because he messed up and you feel as if thats what you want to be with other people than go for it. Dont second guess your choice mama. If you want to be free away from him and move on with your life than do your thing

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by pfuentesv

I ended my relationship with my ex he still has about 3 years left. I still don't know if i ended it for the right reason or not. We've always had problems. We just always end up together anyway but this time i felt like i wouldn't have to be doing this bid if he had just listened to me. I know i do love him and want to be with him but i feel he just wants me around cuz i deal with him. I started seeing someone and i ended up pregnant. I told him about everything and he just doesn't understand that its exactly what he did except not him doing it. I know i was wrong about getting pregnant but I'm ok with it. I love babies so I'm happy. I guess I'm just confused.

Sorry to be so blunt....but everyones knows about muah.

It sounds to me like you went from one man to another, which if you are okay with, then so be it. Interesting that you say you were wrong for getting pregnant, makes it sound like you had no choice....?

If you have always had problems than perhaps you are not meant to be together. Unless the two of you get off on having an unhealthy relationship? Is this how you want to live the rest of your life, and how does he feel about raising another mans child?

I suggest you take some time out and focus on your pregnancy, and not worry about being with a man. You do seem confused and that is never a good reason to act out or make major decisions. Get clear in your mind and in your heart, that way you can make healthier decisions, because now, you will have a child as your priority.

Hope everything works out for you

Peace~

[Hakimu-Rosetta]

Originally Posted by pfuentesv

I ended my relationship with my ex he still has about 3 years left. I still don't know if i ended it for the right reason or not. We've always had problems. We just always end up together anyway but this time i felt like i wouldn't have to be doing this bid if he had just listened to me. I know i do love him and want to be with him but i feel he just wants me around cuz i deal with him. I started seeing someone and i ended up pregnant. I told him about everything and he just doesn't understand that its exactly what he did except not him doing it. I know i was wrong about getting pregnant but I'm ok with it. I love babies so I'm happy. I guess I'm just confused.

I know you are happy about having a baby..but it's just how you made it to where you are. It kind of sounds like you two don't communicate properly.

Going back and forth/ he said, she said, in a relationship is unhealthy and thats what gave you an opportunity to get pregnant, in my opinion. Sorry to sound blunt.

If he still does not understand any of it..then maybe you shouldn't lead him on and just stop responding to his advances.

Best Of Luck

[pfuentesv]

Thanks for the advice I'm just gonna worry about being pregnant. Thanks again.

[pisces317]

Originally Posted by pfuentesv

I ended my relationship with my ex he still has about 3 years left. I still don't know if i ended it for the right reason or not. We've always had problems. We just always end up together anyway but this time i felt like i wouldn't have to be doing this bid if he had just listened to me. I know i do love him and want to be with him but i feel he just wants me around cuz i deal with him. I started seeing someone and i ended up pregnant. I told him about everything and he just doesn't understand that its exactly what he did except not him doing it. I know i was wrong about getting pregnant but I'm ok with it. I love babies so I'm happy. I guess I'm just confused.

yes if your pregnant and he's not with it then you did the best thing,am confused you sound happy to be pregnant by someone else not showing any type of emotion for hurting the guy in prison and breaking it off like its his fault your pregnant,i would just take care of my baby try and make it work with the baby-dad and move forward closing the chapter on the relationship you gave up to be a mom

[shibbz]

Originally Posted by pfuentesv

I ended my relationship with my ex he still has about 3 years left. I still don't know if i ended it for the right reason or not. We've always had problems. We just always end up together anyway but this time i felt like i wouldn't have to be doing this bid if he had just listened to me. I know i do love him and want to be with him but i feel he just wants me around cuz i deal with him. I started seeing someone and i ended up pregnant. I told him about everything and he just doesn't understand that its exactly what he did except not him doing it. I know i was wrong about getting pregnant but I'm ok with it. I love babies so I'm happy. I guess I'm just confused.

Don't be confused, obviously you weren't happy and you did the right thing for yourself by ending it. I feel like once a man is incarcerated he lowers his standards: he will take anyone who will ride out his bid or put up with him. This is not always the case but because of that you have to be absolutely sure he is in love with you and wants your best interest and won't leave you in the long run.

If the bad times/problems outweight the good than you did the right thing.

I really have no comment on the pregnancy, I think because I don't understand what you mean by 'him not doing it'... do you have a child by him already?

But like others have said you don't seem too bothered by his emotions, so I really do think this is for the best.

Whatever your decision I wish you the best of luck.

[shaunna]

Sounds as if you need to take some time out for yourself... every couple has their differences but to have it constantly isn't healthy for any relationship.