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COMPLETElyhis · #26 06-06-2012, 07:37 AM

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Originally Posted by hiswife1014

This happened to me and i cut the bitch offf! And send his ass to hell. Well he came back from hell. Lol begged,cried and the whole 9 yards! It hurt more because shes who u run to when he cheats on you??? But it kinda left me no where to run!!! If it would have been some one else i didnt know then diff story! He cut all ties with negative friends, no going out no drinking unless i was around( i mean he showed me he changed, and made a dumbass move, they only "kissed" but still!) i still to this day dont talk to get and i havent ran into her, god only knows why, cuz MAN it would be on and poppin with that hoe!!! Loyalty and Respect is what I gave her but obviously she dont know about that. I believe in karma, maybe she already got hers or it coming... Idk it aint my job.

But see how far hes willing to go for you trust back you know?? Good luck

So did you and him get back together??

Peace and blessings...

COMPLETElyhis · #27 06-06-2012, 07:38 AM

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Originally Posted by GuerosMama

I believe in forgiving people all the time. But forgiveness doesn't always mean staying friends or together. It comes down to you and what you can handle to risk emotionally.

I wouldn't be friends with her anymore. That's the ultimate betrayal from a friend in my mind

But what about him?

Peace and blessings...

GuerosMama · #28 06-06-2012, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by COMPLETElyhis

But what about him?

Peace and blessings...

To be honest, if I could handle it emotionally I'd probably try to work things out if he was genuine about it. If he wasn't then I'd walk away. But doing that, would be hard as hell, even.if he had ripped my heart out of my chest.

abdisgurl · #29 06-06-2012, 05:24 PM

I would forgive them but I wouldn't be able to be friends or even be with him because its disrespectful on both of their part. I have had that happen to me before and I never looked back to either one. She helped me see what he was truely like

Mrs. Marshall · #30 06-06-2012, 06:08 PM

I probably wouldn't have time in or room in my life for either of them. Drunk or not.

HardHeadedWoman · #31 06-06-2012, 06:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Brooklyn721

Realistically, I would forgive them both, try to work it out w my man, but never speak to my girlfriend again. It's double standard, I know. But the only girlfriends that I have are 'ride or die'.. I can count my friends on one hand, and I keep it that way. If they don't have my back 110%, then I dont want them around me at all. I'll never put a man on that same level of trust that id give a girlfriend. So to have a girl do that to me wouldn't be something I'd bounce back from enough to keep her around.

shouldnt your man have your back more than the friend?? I mean you trust and love him enough to share your goodies with that you dont share with your friend. why should she get the boot and not him?? he was more disrespectful than she was because he was the one in the relationship and committment to you!

I couldnt vote because I wouldnt believe either one of them. Neither one of them had no respect for me when they did it. why would they respect me afterwards? I never have been the one to buy into the one drunken night story. Im no where near a alcoholic but I love my beer and shots. There have been times I was so drunk I had to have help being put to bed and my clothes never fell off of me without me knowing it.

BrandonsBabe · #32 06-06-2012, 07:50 PM

If it's already been stated that they've had sex, it sounds like the truth is already out and they aren't opposing each other. If my boyfriend and best friend had sex, I would drop them both. If my guy disrespects me that way, he doesn't deserve me, and if my friend had sex with my guy, she isn't a friend.

**Patty** · #33 06-07-2012, 11:54 AM

Since I've never been in this position, I can only guess at what I might do. The problem I am having with the hypothetical situation is if my best friend and man did me wrong like that then the two people I would naturally go to when I am in a bad situation are taken out of the equation. I can't get past that aspect, the cheating I suppose is almost secondary to that even though it would be the impetus. I hope never to find myself in such a dilemma.

lil peep · #34 06-07-2012, 05:54 PM

It would take some work for my man and my best friend to have sex since they've never met and are in totally different states. But imagining they were somehow in the same place, drinking together and had sex...I'd be extremely hurt to say the least. We made a promise to each other to work through anything though, so I would talk to my man and go from there. My friend, I'm not sure about.

Geauxin'KraZee · #35 06-08-2012, 02:48 AM

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Originally Posted by COMPLETElyhis

A man that you've been with for five years sleeps with your best friend. They gave you the story of we were both drunk and it just happened. Who do you believe/forgive first?

Peace and blessings...

I believe both of them, forgive both of them, but will NEVER FORGET ABOUT IT and I'd leave his ass and end my so called friendship with her as well. Drunkedness is no excuse for what they did, either!

locdwnluv4meNu2 · #36 06-08-2012, 05:49 PM

Who needs enemies

Quite frankly, I would not believe either of 'em. He would no longer be my man and she is not someone who should ever be consider a friend, much less my "best friend".

Most of us at some time or another have been highly intoxicated.

Whatever the occasion.... If we didn't wake up in the bed next to our best friend's man or woman, why would that ever be an acceptable excuse from two people to whom we consider ourselves the closest??? No Way!!! Hit the road JACK(and don't ya come back no more no more no MORE!!!)

ShonCupcake · #37 06-08-2012, 06:50 PM

Girl please I would give her a drive thru (since she luvin it like McDonalds) and chunk him the dueces!!! How dare both of them take my kindness for weakness but I would forgive them afterwards just need some time and ALOT of space. Still kicking them out my life tho

hiswife1014 · #38 06-09-2012, 01:31 AM

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Originally Posted by COMPLETElyhis

So did you and him get back together??

Peace and blessings...

Yeah we did

Southernsun · #39 06-09-2012, 05:59 AM

This poll should had ' neither' button. Cause id say " see ya" to both.. this actually happened to me 10 yrs ago and I haven't spoke to them sense ( well except for handing him the key to the storage building where I took his stuff )

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

Mrs.taylor2011 · #40 06-09-2012, 01:07 PM

i dont get why some are saying they'll get back with the man & not the friend ?? why forgive the man & NOT the friend ..he should get the same treatment the friend getting..i dont get it i used to think it was kick the man to the curb and keep the friend.

Scotties_Girl21 · #41 06-09-2012, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

i dont get why some are saying they'll get back with the man & not the friend ?? why forgive the man & NOT the friend ..he should get the same treatment the friend getting..i dont get it i used to think it was kick the man to the curb and keep the friend.

Thas what I'm saying. Cheating is one thing but with your "best friend"? Ah hell nah I'd chuck up the deuces on both of em. But to each her own I guess.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

Mrs.taylor2011 · #42 06-09-2012, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

Thas what I'm saying. Cheating is one thing but with your "best friend"? Ah hell nah I'd chuck up the deuces on both of em. But to each her own I guess.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

lmao im with you on that one..whew lord knows ill be in jail my DAMN self.if that EVER happens to me!!

**Nieves915** · #43 06-16-2012, 08:36 AM

I forgave them both,,, why,,, Cuz i refuse to let anyone have power over my emotions, neither are in my life anymore,,, but i had to let it go,,, life is short,,, to harbor that kind of anger and pain in your soul is destructive..... Forgive but never forget, and if you stay keep an eye out for signs,,,,, there are always signs.....

Temeron0926 · #44 06-17-2012, 02:23 AM

IT JUST HAPPENED is not, has never been and never will be an excuse for cheating........not to me. I wouldn't believe either and I wouldn't forgive either.....I would walk away...........from both of them! (I have done it before).

24chesney · #45 06-18-2012, 03:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

lmao im with you on that one..whew lord knows ill be in jail my DAMN self.if that EVER happens to me!!

i have to agree with ya, my temper would get me in trouble. I'd say cut your losses and move on. also easier said than done, i know. was this something he confessed to you after being in prison?

SpicaRigel · #46 06-18-2012, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

I will forgive them and drop both of them like a bad habit.

Thats interesting you said that because bad habits are the hardest to drop.
Addictions of all kinds...drugs, alcohol, food...Smoking...ach, that one is a tough one... they are NOT easy to drop.
And as much as alot of us will say that cheating is a deal breaker...just how many of us would REALLY drop them?
I see alot of women forgiving their men over and over and over all the time.
When you are truly in love and your man cheats on you its not as easy as shutting the door and saying goodbye.

Geauxin'KraZee · #47 06-21-2012, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

i dont get why some are saying they'll get back with the man & not the friend ?? why forgive the man & NOT the friend ..he should get the same treatment the friend getting..i dont get it i used to think it was kick the man to the curb and keep the friend.

Ex sister in law caught her husband cheating with her best friend. She whipped her " best friends " ass and said," well she KNEW he was married " ! I replied to her with," well shit, HE KNEW he was married! Why didn't you whip his ass! ?! " I would NEVER fight with a woman over ANY MAN!

MYpatL · #48 06-28-2012, 05:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

my horns would come out and I would lose my self control.... then after that I will forgive them and drop both of them like a bad habit. never speaking to either one of them again.....

You said my horns would come out..lmao...I told my man I would choke his a@@ or put a bullet between those beautiful eyes of his you choose? I know I did..he said that all spanish woman are jealous-please. He is afraid I'd kill him-but with all due respect my best friend is his ma....so As far as Karma ...I believe in that.