Babymama drama!!

[MsPrettiJackson]

Everyone is speaking for themselves and what's going on in their marriage or relationship. It ain't ALWAYS about the daddy trying to sleep with the BABY MOMMA and if that's the case normaly a crazy response tallys up to a BM that causes issues!!! People always tend to think that we're jealous wives or crazy girlfriend until the shoe is on your foot and in their mouth, then "woe is me". Everything I talk about on here on these threads is THE TRUTH and unless you know the situation then you can only base what is called an OPINION!!! We not downing these BM'z it is what it is and each situation is different. Why respond negatively you OBVIOUSLY DONT KNOW what the heck your talking about or don't have kids. Not everyone on here is gassing up on lies WHAT WOULD BE THE GAIN? EXACTLY!!!! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!! We are all here for support not pity parties and if your not going thru what we going through and don't have n e thing POSITIVE to say or a POSITIVE SOLUTION WHY EVEN RESPOND???!!!

[Mrs. Happy]

Originally Posted by nakeisha99

Well said, it's not always the baby mama's (though I hate that term) and we're not all crazy and jealous.

Yes I agree I'm a "baby momma" myself and I don't bring drama to my ex and his girlfriend.

[JAZZYJAZ]

i met my man when him n his baby mama were "friends" and went out with a group to a club me n him chilled the whole night and thats how we started talking - at 1st she was coo but then once she realized i didnt TRY to get to know her cause all his ex would call her for "advice" or to be cool with her cause shes babymama she started WANTING HIM BACK... so i left him... but then when she seen i left she didnt want him no more so we got back together... then when i got preggo she went crazy tryin to get him back even tho she was livin with another guy and textin me sayin that my baby is going to be her baby and what not lol and then her son was like my mommy has pictures of my baby brother (my son) on her phone and im like whaaaaat?! this crazy broad!! and finally i checked her, he checked her and she got the idea! lol i can just imagine what shes goin to be writing him when she finds out im preggo again and hes locked up! "OMG DID U KNOW SHES PREGGO I BET THATS NOT UR BABY!!" LOL i can see it now!! and yes, he got me preggo before he caught his case! lol

[DP's Girl]

Well I can speak from both sides of this issue because my sons' father and I are divorced so I'm technically a baby mama and my boyfriend has kids by other women. I personally am not into playing any games with anyone. I don't care who my ex is with. All I care about is him being sure of the woman's character before she is around my boys. One woman Dee has children by is immature and convinced when he comes home they'll be back together. But we don't have baby mama drama because we don't allow it. Whatever she says doesn't affect us. I don't buy into the need to kiss her butt to see his kids. If she doesn't want him to see his kids because they're not together then he goes to court to arrange visitation. You and your man decide how much you let other people interfere in your relationship. It doesn't matter if it's a baby mama, baby daddy, mil, or anyone else.

[MsPrettiJackson]

Originally Posted by Buttacup38

Thank u! U took the words right out of my mouth!

Thank you so much!!! I always speak my mind even in person. And I'm a wife and I'm do sick of the Baby Mommas thinking were downing them. Hell I don't give a da*n about you but what I do care about is my husband and HIS and our happiness and the fact he want to see his child. And any baby momma that is spiteful because he has moved is not always the case he's sleeping with her, sometimes the "B" just can't and don't want to move on. It's a lot of dads out here want to take care of their kids and have to deal with that foolishness WELL I'm not the one and her AZZ is going to court to get a blood test and we gone do everything through the courts she made it like that and I hit it like that do she can kiss my AZZ. I am not by far a jealous wife and I'm just sick of BMz thinking we are @ fault keeping the dad away from their child CLEARLY that is not the case!!! I told my husband BM I'm not keeping him away from his son YOU ARE and your Mad because WHAT I SAY GOES and I'm not putting up with your sh*t!!! And although she's pregnant again she still try to seem relevant when SHE's NOT!!!! I keep my distance and will let the courts hand it and that's how you do that.

[negretelove]

Originally Posted by MsPrettiJackson

Everyone is speaking for themselves and what's going on in their marriage or relationship. It ain't ALWAYS about the daddy trying to sleep with the BABY MOMMA and if that's the case normaly a crazy response tallys up to a BM that causes issues!!! People always tend to think that we're jealous wives or crazy girlfriend until the shoe is on your foot and in their mouth, then "woe is me". Everything I talk about on here on these threads is THE TRUTH and unless you know the situation then you can only base what is called an OPINION!!! We not downing these BM'z it is what it is and each situation is different. Why respond negatively you OBVIOUSLY DONT KNOW what the heck your talking about or don't have kids. Not everyone on here is gassing up on lies WHAT WOULD BE THE GAIN? EXACTLY!!!! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!! We are all here for support not pity parties and if your not going thru what we going through and don't have n e thing POSITIVE to say or a POSITIVE SOLUTION WHY EVEN RESPOND???!!!

Positive solution to the 'baby-momma' issue..which is really code for she is trying to ruin my new relationship or she won't let me see the kids.

Tell your man you will not deal with it and he needs to take it to court and let them figure it out. A mediator can be put in place for exchange of the children, restraining orders can be placed, they will put an order of visitation and an order for child support That way all is handled like mature adults

I am a mother of 4 with 2 baby-daddys that both had children before and after me...I am also the adoptive mother of a 5th child that I am no longer with that man...and the man that I am now married to has a son with another woman. believe me I have had to deal with every scenario imaginable and I sometimes dealt with it immaturely but I have found when it is drama dealing with it through the courts is the only way to go.

[negretelove]

For an example of how the new girl may think or cause the BM drama in her head.

My ex and I were friends before we got together and remained friends after. We shared a biological child and I adopted one of his children he also remained in my other childrens lives because they grew up with him always being around.

This new girl came along and everything changed. At first he would come get the kids he would call the kids went to his families parties, ect. Well all of a sudden when he would call it would have to be on speaker, my calls or the kids calls were denied, the kids were no longer allowed at family parties, and he did not go to his sons football games.

This new chick was so jealous she pulled him away from everyone even his kids. When his daughter or son did go to visit she would talk shit to them. He showed up to pick up my son from football and 5 minutes later my then 6yr old is walking across the field crying because she told his dad he was not allowed to visit because they had plans. She called his daughter (the one I adopted) a lazy bitch.

At that point I had enough and confronted her....she ran in the house and I stayed in the doorway she was saying how she knew I wanted him back and that I was causing issues in their relationship and that I needed to move on. LOL sweetie first off I left him...second I am married...and third the only person that can cause or put up with drama is the 2 people involved in the relationship.

She wanted me to stop having anything and everything to do with his family...uuummmm NO...I was friends with them and my children are family to them. I do not go around when they go around and I never ask about my ex or his relationship.

Well they have gone back and forth for a few years he has ended up with DV charges on him after she made up some crazy story and had her kid call the police. His family wants nothing to do with her because she brings me and the kids up thinking she is slick. OH and she has found him cheating with several different women which is why I left him and would never let him touch me again.

She made drama for herself...he figured if she was going to accuse he was going to do it...but it was not with this baby momma.

I am no longer using baby-momma or BM a BM in medical terms is bowel movement and baby-momma is just dis-respectful

[MsPrettiJackson]

Originally Posted by negretelove

For an example of how the new girl may think or cause the BM drama in her head.

My ex and I were friends before we got together and remained friends after. We shared a biological child and I adopted one of his children he also remained in my other childrens lives because they grew up with him always being around.

This new girl came along and everything changed. At first he would come get the kids he would call the kids went to his families parties, ect. Well all of a sudden when he would call it would have to be on speaker, my calls or the kids calls were denied, the kids were no longer allowed at family parties, and he did not go to his sons football games.

This new chick was so jealous she pulled him away from everyone even his kids. When his daughter or son did go to visit she would talk shit to them. He showed up to pick up my son from football and 5 minutes later my then 6yr old is walking across the field crying because she told his dad he was not allowed to visit because they had plans. She called his daughter (the one I adopted) a lazy bitch.

At that point I had enough and confronted her....she ran in the house and I stayed in the doorway she was saying how she knew I wanted him back and that I was causing issues in their relationship and that I needed to move on. LOL sweetie first off I left him...second I am married...and third the only person that can cause or put up with drama is the 2 people involved in the relationship.

She wanted me to stop having anything and everything to do with his family...uuummmm NO...I was friends with them and my children are family to them. I do not go around when they go around and I never ask about my ex or his relationship.

Well they have gone back and forth for a few years he has ended up with DV charges on him after she made up some crazy story and had her kid call the police. His family wants nothing to do with her because she brings me and the kids up thinking she is slick. OH and she has found him cheating with several different women which is why I left him and would never let him touch me again.

She made drama for herself...he figured if she was going to accuse he was going to do it...but it was not with this baby momma.

I am no longer using baby-momma or BM a BM in medical terms is bowel movement and baby-momma is just dis-respectful

**** BUT SOME GIRLS THINK BEING A BABY MOMMA IS A PRIZE, and that's cause their stupid and immature****. I been done with the situation!!! I don't call or try to get the son or nothing. She thought she was doing doing cause she filed child support days before we got married now mind you the Lil boy is 5 and he always had him. So you just decided to file CS because of what? Absolutely NOTHING!!! Papers were delivered in jail the day he turned himself in to where he couldn't defend himself but you want to say its MY responsibility to take care of your son as his wife NO it's not my responsibility it's MY CHOICE. My husband says don't get in all that just let the courts handle it and u just be my wife AND I DO JUST THAT! Now she wanna try to get my number so I can get him to see his daddy BITXCH PLEASE you stuck your foot in your mouth now chew it!!!!

[negretelove]

Originally Posted by MsPrettiJackson

**** BUT SOME GIRLS THINK BEING A BABY MOMMA IS A PRIZE, and that's cause their stupid and immature****. I been done with the situation!!! I don't call or try to get the son or nothing. She thought she was doing doing cause she filed child support days before we got married now mind you the Lil boy is 5 and he always had him. So you just decided to file CS because of what? Absolutely NOTHING!!! Papers were delivered in jail the day he turned himself in to where he couldn't defend himself but you want to say its MY responsibility to take care of your son as his wife NO it's not my responsibility it's MY CHOICE. My husband says don't get in all that just let the courts handle it and u just be my wife AND I DO JUST THAT! Now she wanna try to get my number so I can get him to see his daddy BITXCH PLEASE you stuck your foot in your mouth now chew it!!!!

I get where you are coming from and no none of this is your responsibility unless the court says because the 2 of you are married you are responsible for child support but most states do not do that. Your husband is right let the courts deal with it. As far as her filing CS that is her right and she may have done it at this time because it would be easy to have him served if he is in..I do not know the specifics so I do not know her motive on the CS but it is her right just like it is his right to ask for modifications and visitation which he can do from jail. If his childs mother wants the kids to visit then she can go through the same procedures as everyone else and figure out how to do it on her own.

I have chosen not to file CS on the fathers of my kids. I think when money is an issue situations get bitter. I would rather they have a relationship with their kids...in my situation neither bother to have a relationship anymore because they are doing them...oh well their loss.

[Mrs.taylor2011]

Originally Posted by MsPrettiJackson

Everyone is speaking for themselves and what's going on in their marriage or relationship. It ain't ALWAYS about the daddy trying to sleep with the BABY MOMMA and if that's the case normaly a crazy response tallys up to a BM that causes issues!!! People always tend to think that we're jealous wives or crazy girlfriend until the shoe is on your foot and in their mouth, then "woe is me". Everything I talk about on here on these threads is THE TRUTH and unless you know the situation then you can only base what is called an OPINION!!! We not downing these BM'z it is what it is and each situation is different. Why respond negatively you OBVIOUSLY DONT KNOW what the heck your talking about or don't have kids. Not everyone on here is gassing up on lies WHAT WOULD BE THE GAIN? EXACTLY!!!! ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!! We are all here for support not pity parties and if your not going thru what we going through and don't have n e thing POSITIVE to say or a POSITIVE SOLUTION WHY EVEN RESPOND???!!!

whats negative about what was posted?? its the truth & MANY women are in denial about it!!! yeah there are "crazy" babymama then they're the dudes who love playing both sides & STILL mess off with babymama .. this is coming from REAL life i have PLENTY friends that are baby mothers and i see the shit from both sides EVERYDAY..my bf has a babymama as-well never had any problems from her hell she even stayed across the street from him.but to me a woman wouldnt act out unless something going on !! thats just ME i been the "other" woman before so i know the game & know whatsup. why does a babymama get from trying to ruin your relationship?SHIT but half of the time these mens play sides and tells the bbymama what she wants to hear {i seen it}

[Scotties_Girl21]

Originally Posted by MsPrettiJackson

**** BUT SOME GIRLS THINK BEING A BABY MOMMA IS A PRIZE, and that's cause their stupid and immature****. I been done with the situation!!! I don't call or try to get the son or nothing. She thought she was doing doing cause she filed child support days before we got married now mind you the Lil boy is 5 and he always had him. So you just decided to file CS because of what? Absolutely NOTHING!!! Papers were delivered in jail the day he turned himself in to where he couldn't defend himself but you want to say its MY responsibility to take care of your son as his wife NO it's not my responsibility it's MY CHOICE. My husband says don't get in all that just let the courts handle it and u just be my wife AND I DO JUST THAT! Now she wanna try to get my number so I can get him to see his daddy BITXCH PLEASE you stuck your foot in your mouth now chew it!!!!

Wow....okay. I've chose to keep my mouth shut because I understand everyone's situations are different but I will say this BEING A BABY MAMA IS A PRIZE! that's a child your talking about! And you honestly think there's nothing to be said for a woman who carried your mans baby for 9 months and went through labor to bring that child in this world, and not to mention the fact she's now a single mother. That child should be more important than YOUR MAN AND YOU. Yes being a baby mama Imo is a prize and you downplaying it just makes you come off as bitter and jelouse.
jmo.

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[Mrs. Happy]

Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

whats negative about what was posted?? its the truth & MANY women are in denial about it!!! yeah there are "crazy" babymama then they're the dudes who love playing both sides & STILL mess off with babymama .. this is coming from REAL life i have PLENTY friends that are baby mothers and i see the shit from both sides EVERYDAY..my bf has a babymama as-well never had any problems from her hell she even stayed across the street from him.but to me a woman wouldnt act out unless something going on !! thats just ME i been the "other" woman before so i know the game & know whatsup. why does a babymama get from trying to ruin your relationship?SHIT but half of the time these mens play sides and tells the bbymama what she wants to hear {i seen it}

yeah you're right a lot of these men do tell the baby mamas what they wanna hear only because they want to see her kids and because they know that the baby mamas are spiteful and will keep your kids from them. doesn't mean that they mean anything they say. They just want to see their kids not realizing that it's going to cause their current relationship problems. It's not right that these men do this but it is what it is. so with that said if your baby daddy is telling you one thing, telling you what you wanna hear but yet he has a wife or girlfriend what does that tell you......

[Scotties_Girl21]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

yeah you're right a lot of these men do tell the baby mamas what they wanna hear only because they want to see her kids because they know that the baby mamas are spiteful and will keep your kids from them. doesn't mean that they mean anything they say. They just want to see their kids not realizing that it's going to cause their current relationship problems. so with that said if your baby daddy is telling you one thing telling you what you wanna hear but has a wife or girlfriend what does that tell you......

I assure you that's NOT always the situation. My baby's daddy is always around my daughter and can see her whenever he wants. I've NEVER held her over his head because I want him in her life but he still tries to get with me on the regular even though he has a girlfriend he promises the world too.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

[Mrs. Happy]

Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

I assure you that's NOT always the situation. My baby's daddy is always around my daughter and can see her whenever he wants. I've NEVER held her over his head because I want him in her life but he still tries to get with me on the regular even though he has a girlfriend he promises the world too.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

Because your not spiteful and don't keep his kid from him so this don't apply to you.

[Mrs.taylor2011]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

yeah you're right a lot of these men do tell the baby mamas what they wanna hear only because they want to see her kids because they know that the baby mamas are spiteful and will keep your kids from them. doesn't mean that they mean anything they say. They just want to see their kids not realizing that it's going to cause their current relationship problems. so with that said if your baby daddy is telling you one thing telling you what you wanna hear but has a wife or girlfriend what does that tell you......

thats what the courts are for in noway am i allowing my man to talk sweet things,tell another women the same stuff he tells me because he wants to see his child? thats an excuse ,i guess if he tells me he had sex with her to see his child thats okay too??hell no ..NOT all babymothers are like that,if they are spiteful its for a reason same thing goes with a ex. as far as a last statement are you okay with your man telling his baby mama i love your,wanna be with you married you?men cheat ALL DAY LONG with a wife so what difference does it make if he has a wife/gf?? he shouldnt be telling NO women what they want to hear if he has a girl PERIOD thats just saying your okay with it because he wants to see his kids,oh no that shit wouldnt slide with me PERIOD my bf has a babymama who wont allow him to see his child but he doesnt tell her stuff he should be telling his gf hes taking it into court matter . then we all wonder why babymamas are doing this & that .

[Mrs. Happy]

Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

thats what the courts are for in noway am i allowing my man to talk sweet things,tell another women the same stuff he tells me because he wants to see his child? thats an excuse ,i guess if he tells me he had sex with her to see his child thats okay too??hell no ..NOT all babymothers are like that,if they are spiteful its for a reason same thing goes with a ex. as far as a last statement are you okay with your man telling his baby mama i love your,wanna be with you married you?men cheat ALL DAY LONG with a wife so what difference does it make if he has a wife/gf?? he shouldnt be telling NO women what they want to hear if he has a girl PERIOD thats just saying your okay with it because he wants to see his kids,oh no that shit wouldnt slide with me PERIOD my bf has a babymama who wont allow him to see his child but he doesnt tell her stuff he should be telling his gf hes taking it into court matter . then we all wonder why babymamas are doing this & that .

Yeah I totaly agree shit hit the fan when he told me now he told her the truth set boundaries with her and bow he hasn't seen his son in over a year. Oh yeah I forgot to mention that she lied to the courts and had his parental rights taken..

[Scotties_Girl21]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

Because your not spiteful and don't keep his kid from him so this don't apply to you.

Yes but your comment was speaking in a generality of all baby mamas and its not true so that's why I said what I did, to show that your comment is not always how it is.

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[Mrs. Happy]

Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

Yes but your comment was speaking in a generality of all baby mamas and its not true so that's why I said what I did, to show that your comment is not always how it is.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

I'm talking about the baby mommas that come with the drama isn't that what this thread is about?

[Scotties_Girl21]

Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

I'm talking about the baby mommas that come with the drama isn't that what this is about?

Yea that's what the original post is about but is it not important to show all views, and perspectives on the subject? I think it is.

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[Scotties_Girl21]

I'm not trying to debate or argue with anyone, that's not my purpose for being here but I can't stand when someone thinks that being a mother of a man's child gives them no rights, and should mean nothing. Like it or not they have a baby together and he's tied to her for life in one way or another. If you don't like it maybe you shouldn't have gotten with a man with kids.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

[Mrs. Happy]

It is good to see all sides but this thread is suppose to be for women who need support in dealing with baby mama drama....at least that's what I thought....

[Scotties_Girl21]

Well it looks to me its turned into bashing baby mamas and talking about how they ain't shit.


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[Buttacup38]

Yes this thread is because of baby-mama drama! Now there is good baby-mama's out there, just like there is some good men. Than we have those tht refuse to grow the F up! Tht wanna keep playing games with ppl's minds. Those r the ones we need to let go! I would never stop my man from seeing his daughter!Wht I will stop is DRAMA!

[Mrs.taylor2011]

lol everytime its a topic about mothers its a bashing, smh sometimes you need to look at your man instead of the babymama

[Scotties_Girl21]

Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

lol everytime its a topic about mothers its a bashing, smh sometimes you need to look at your man instead of the babymama

Very true!.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3