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starbright31 · #1 06-15-2012, 11:10 PM

What do you do when the relationship between you and his mom is distant even when the 2 of you do get along. What sort of things do you talk about with his mom? Does it make it harder to talk to her when he's locked up?

Purplegirl1008 · #2 06-15-2012, 11:47 PM

She and I mostly talk about how he's doing, what we're gonna do when he gets out, etc. I was supposed to meet her and his grandma but when it comes down to it they never call me to come over. But his family seems nice though.

Scotties_Girl21 · #3 06-15-2012, 11:55 PM

Me and my bf mom talk about EVERYTHING lol. His ex's, him when he was a baby, our future, her issues she's got going on and mine. I talked to her today while I was shopping for him to ask her about his size. She's the first mom of a bf that I've been close with. She helps us so much its amazing.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

**Patty** · #4 06-15-2012, 11:56 PM

His mom and I are very close, she's only nine months older than me so we have a lot in common besides the fact that we both love her son. Naturally we talk about him but we also talk about anything and everything as well: family matters, music, television, fashion, cooking, religion, politics. Yanno the things you'd talk about with anyone else. We are blessed to have one another in our lives.

Mrs.taylor2011 · #5 06-16-2012, 12:31 AM

Mostly things about him,we arent that close.

iLYD.R.E · #6 06-16-2012, 12:49 AM

im close with his mom we talk about it all she was there when i had our son lol she was holding one leg and my mom was holding the other. soo shes seen and heard it all. but mostly we talk about the bible to be honest its common ground for us and we talk about our favorite tv shows haha

lockedup abroad, criminal minds, i survived, and we both like couponing if she sees something in the sunday paper that i use she'll clip it and save it for me shes really nice and I'm blessed to have her she even watches my son so i can finish college, and teaches me all of daniels favorite recipes that she used to make him from when he was growing up lol .. great way to get to his heart his moms food. lol.

lar · #7 06-16-2012, 11:00 AM

Well, I lived with her for a year so I know her pretty well. We didn't always get along but she's very forgiving. She knew how I was before drugs and while I was on drugs she knew it wasnt really me. It was just how we were. And we screwed her over pretty bad. But she's used to her son being away so it's not hard for her. She just thinks he will listen to me more than her and she really wants him to do good in life, she sends him 75 or more every 2 weeks so she takes care of his stuff while i take care of the phone. I was scared to talk to her at first but now I call her every other week and give her an update.

Just Jen · #8 06-16-2012, 11:29 AM

His mom and I don't talk about much. I spent some time with her when I went up to visit him. I stayed at his aunt's house, and his mom came over and visited. All three of us went to visit him together, and I made sure that he hugged his mom first when I saw him making a beeline for me. LOL She is hard to talk to, but it's still pretty early in the "getting to know you" phase. Both my man and his aunt said that she pretty much keeps things to herself and is hard to get to know, so I know that her distance isn't personal... it's just the way she is. I hope after some time, she and I can become closer, but I think it's going to take a lot of effort on my part.

Isaacsweetie · #9 06-16-2012, 12:20 PM

We talk about a lot of stuff! We talk about him and how he is doing. We talk about our own lives and how things are going. We talk about just about everything. We talk at least once a week and hang out here and there! Its pretty cool. She is the first one of my boyfriends moms I talk to on a regular basis. Part of that is the situation bc we keep eachother informed of what is going on with him. Like one day she may talk to him and I hadnt or I may talk to him and she hasnt.

bdwell · #10 06-16-2012, 12:53 PM

His mom and I are friends first and in laws second. She and his step dad are holding down the fort for me when I'm not there since I work away for days at a time. We don't always agree on things but we always end it in good graces. We talk about any and every thing. His brother is doing time also. I feel for her and I'm grateful for her.

thisfamily · #11 06-16-2012, 12:57 PM

We have a baby girl together so his father is always trying to see her all the time. I get along with him just fine.. he's a handful so we don't see him as much as he would like. lol! We talk mostly about jailbird and often I have to remind him that jailbird needs to handle his own problems. He's in hospice care so I don't want him to be really stressed out about things that aren't his own making. I don't really get along with his brother and his mother since they have seen fit to disrespect me and my child, so we never talk.

MnNice · #12 06-16-2012, 03:19 PM

We talk about everything. My boyfriend is her first so that's her baby. Lol. We talk about her life, my life, what he has going on. We haven't always seen eye to eye, but we push past it. I even met her in person without him their, and we are going out their again this summer (she lives 4 hours west of us) but his grandma is right down the street from me and I talk to her sometimes and we've rode together for a few visits. I talk to almost everyone in his immediate family.

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Miss_Nique · #13 06-16-2012, 03:32 PM

Our relationship is good. We talk about once a week. We mainly talk about him, lol. And i had our son back n April so yea. Her first grandchild so we a lil close.

tinkerbaby · #14 06-16-2012, 05:52 PM

We had been real close "the daughter she never had" beyond amazing when my husband was struggling with drugs right before he went now its like wtf my husband's even at a loss o well

Tookie1132 · #15 06-16-2012, 06:36 PM

We never talk, just a quick text once or twice a month. I wish it was different.

krystal1985 · #16 06-16-2012, 06:43 PM

Our relationship has gotten better and we talk about everything now on a regular basis

DP's Girl · #17 06-16-2012, 06:44 PM

We talk about family mostly. We talk about Dee, the kids, my mom (they have known each other since elementary school), both grannies and our plans for when he's released. We basically talk about whatever comes to mind. She talks about another grandbaby, I DONT talk about that :-)

Aane · #18 06-16-2012, 10:33 PM

He has a few moms (3). I talk to two of them pretty often only about him. I am slightly closer to one of the two than the other the third one I hardly talk to but she is ill. I wish I was closer to them, but it is hard because I am a MWI so it's not like we knew eachother before I am just now meeting everyone. I gotta work on that.

Faith_2013 · #19 06-16-2012, 11:34 PM

His mom and I talk a lot. I can probably even say we have talked more since he has been in prison. Me and his mom talk about anything and everything.We talk about normal everyday things, ourselves and our lives and whats going on. We talk about him, her grandson ( my and his baby thats 19months old) Its like we are really good friends! We talk about anything that youd talk to your friends about. I can talk to her about problems quicker and easier than anyone else (even about her son) Shes one of those moms that know her son isnt perfect and doesnt defend everything he does. She keeps it pretty real, and I like that. I honestly feel I can talk to her more than my friends. She calls me her daughter. Not to get a big head but she loves me! lol I love her too and she cracks me up. Once when I was pregnant we were having some differences about the time she called, I dont remember what-- it wasnt anything serious but she told him if she has to shell come over and drop kick him in the throat! I was laughing so hard. Hes actually scared of his mom still at the age of 36 (Bday on Monday) Me and his sister are real close too, and talk all of the time. He respects his mom so much and i love that too. She said she loves me and Im the best person her son has ever been with and she tells him it doesnt get any better than me and that shes proud to have me and likes it because she can be close to me, that the others hardly ever even talked to her. I feel the same way because I didnt talk too much to my X'S mothers. I LOVE HER!!!

HisChevyBabe · #20 06-17-2012, 06:43 AM

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Originally Posted by starbright31

What do you do when the relationship between you and his mom is distant even when the 2 of you do get along. What sort of things do you talk about with his mom? Does it make it harder to talk to her when he's locked up?

I have yet to talk to his mom. He gave me her cell phone number in one of the first few letters when we first started talking and I called her but she never answered the phone and I left her a voice message to call me back and she never did. Now his grandma her and I talk at least once or twice a week! She loves me to pieces and she is a wonderful woman of God. I love her so much! we also talk about how he is doing and whats going to happen once he is released.

. I hope and pray his mom will come around sooner or later. I tried reaching out to her so I will back off and let her come to me. I understand she is a very loving mother just looking out for him.

sarbear831 · #21 06-17-2012, 12:03 PM

We talk about him, how we hope he stays out of trouble when he comes home. We have started making plans for the summer as he will be home in two weeks. We can go weeks with out talking. I try to reach out to her as often as possible, we get along but there are some roadblocks for us, which he will hopefully take care of when he comes home.

HisChevyBabe · #22 06-18-2012, 06:41 AM

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Originally Posted by sarbear831

We talk about him, how we hope he stays out of trouble when he comes home. We have started making plans for the summer as he will be home in two weeks. We can go weeks with out talking. I try to reach out to her as often as possible, we get along but there are some roadblocks for us, which he will hopefully take care of when he comes home.

Does it help trying to reach out to her? Because I have tried to reach out to his mom and I never heard a word back. me and him have only been together a couple months so I can see where she would think that I am not going to stay by his side. I have thought about hitting her up on Facebook. or I guess trying to call her again as he gave me her number. I don't know *sigh* I just want to get to know her I am going to have to eventually but I want us to start off on the right foot not the wrong one ya know

Timsgirl2011 · #23 06-18-2012, 08:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

Me and my bf mom talk about EVERYTHING lol. His ex's, him when he was a baby, our future, her issues she's got going on and mine. I talked to her today while I was shopping for him to ask her about his size. She's the first mom of a bf that I've been close with. She helps us so much its amazing.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

It almost sounds like we have the exact same Mother in law lol, SHe has pretty much become my best friend. We talk about everything, all of her kids, him all of them when they were little, what his ex's have been like and what they have done, Everything, when there is a storm she calls to make sure I'm safe, she is always very considerate of our needs, and I just love her to death. I could NOT ASK FOR A BETTER MOTHER IN LAW

starbright31 · #24 06-18-2012, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by HisChevyBabe

Does it help trying to reach out to her? Because I have tried to reach out to his mom and I never heard a word back. me and him have only been together a couple months so I can see where she would think that I am not going to stay by his side. I have thought about hitting her up on Facebook. or I guess trying to call her again as he gave me her number. I don't know *sigh* I just want to get to know her I am going to have to eventually but I want us to start off on the right foot not the wrong one ya know

yeah, she does respond when I reach out to her.