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DJzGirl · #1 06-19-2012, 10:07 PM

I am still new here and not sure if this is the best place for this question. I have 5 kids and and am separated from my "husband" (in legal sense only). But my man and I are planning to get married soon. I wonder if my soon to be ex can sue me for custody of the kids bc I marry a felon. Does anyone have any experience with this?

DirtysAngel · #2 06-19-2012, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by DJzGirl

I am still new here and not sure if this is the best place for this question. I have 5 kids and and am separated from my "husband" (in legal sense only). But my man and I are planning to get married soon. I wonder if my soon to be ex can sue me for custody of the kids bc I marry a felon. Does anyone have any experience with this?

I just recently went through a custody thing. My daughter Bio dad went in and tried to use that and just told him he has never met a perfect person and as long as the person didn't have any charges against children he wasn't going to try and say who someone could or could not be with. I'm sure every judge is different. I would check around I. Your area but most importantly just be ready to say positive things about the situation.

DJzGirl · #3 06-19-2012, 10:33 PM

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Originally Posted by DirtysAngel

I just recently went through a custody thing. My daughter Bio dad went in and tried to use that and just told him he has never met a perfect person and as long as the person didn't have any charges against children he wasn't going to try and say who someone could or could not be with. I'm sure every judge is different. I would check around I. Your area but most importantly just be ready to say positive things about the situation.

Thanks for your reply. No crimes against kids. I am banking on the ex not wanting to have the kids. But you never know, right?

*SimplyMe123* · #4 06-19-2012, 10:35 PM

Hi there... I think you've already gotten some good advice, but I moved your thread to Raising Children with Parents in Prison so you can get some input from other members who have dealt with this. Good luck to you!

MnNice · #5 06-20-2012, 09:44 AM

My child's father tried using my ex against me in court, because he has domestics against me (never involving my child) and the judge and even attorneys never acknowledged it! As long as he has no crimes against your child, if he is on parole/probation and that's okay with the officer, your good! And if he doesn't have a PO , your still good.!

*love doesn't run, when things get tough*

nimuay · #6 06-20-2012, 09:52 AM

You've been given simple answers, but the real answers are a little more complex - no crimes against children, no violent crimes, no history of domestic violence, no sex crimes. Drug convictions can cast a shadow, too. . .

The judge will add up all the positives and negatives and make his/her decision solely based on the welfare of the children. CPS may also be asked to do a study and report to the Judge.

DJzGirl · #7 06-22-2012, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by nimuay

You've been given simple answers, but the real answers are a little more complex - no crimes against children, no violent crimes, no history of domestic violence, no sex crimes. Drug convictions can cast a shadow, too. . .

The judge will add up all the positives and negatives and make his/her decision solely based on the welfare of the children. CPS may also be asked to do a study and report to the Judge.

Thank you. I met with a lawyer a few days ago at a free legal session at a local women's center. I was asking about divorce proceedings, but also asked this question. She said violent crimes could be factor. I have to ask my Boo everything he has been convicted up. I know selling weed is one thing. I don't know all the details though. Fortunately, the lawyer said, the kids are with me and have been with me since we moved away from soon to be x-dh. He lives out of the country and won't be back for at least 2 years, unless he changes his mind. So by that point, my kids will have been with me only for over 2 years, and a judge would not want to move the kids out without good reason. She said, basically my soon to be ex would have the odds stacked against him and would use anything he could get in to make me look bad. Hopefully by that time, if it ever happens, my guy will not have had anything new! and a judge will take it into consideration.