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AwaitingForHim7 · #1 06-16-2012, 07:37 PM

Well, me & My ex(who is in jail) was together for a year. He was nice, loyal, respectful & helpful. He babysat My son when i needed him, played with My son, loved My son, took My son to his dr appt, he went to My dr appt wit me, loved & cared for me. But i betrayed him not once did i cheat, but i continued to lie to him over & over about crazy things! Til one day he got tired and broke Up with me completly, i was devasted, and he said we will never get back together and he didnt want anything else to do with me. weeks after we broke it off which was in january i was put in the hospital for 2,weeks, and found out i had bipolar depression disorder and i was put on medicine a,week after that i jumped into a new relationship which didnt last at all. My ex got locked Up in march wrote me the same month, i didnt respond so he wrote a second letter, telling me his feelings. He said he wasnt trying to get back together but he at least still want to be friends. I still love him he thinks i have another bf but i told him i dont in My letter. do u think its a chance i can win him back?

TonysBoo2008 · #2 06-16-2012, 10:10 PM

I think there is always a chance if both people are willing to work out their issues with each other and take it slow. You need to tell him how you feel. But you also need to take it very slow. If you kept lying to him over and over it might have something to do with being bipolar. I am not saying that lying to him was the right thing. But bipolar affects how you behave and the choices you make. I am a nurse and worked at a Psych Hospital and I know how you feel!

**sidewalker** · #3 06-17-2012, 06:50 AM

Sure its possible that you guys could get back together, but for right now, I'd focus on your health and your son.
I'd write him, and take it slow. He wants to be *friends* and maybe that is a good place to start. It might not ever progress to more than that, but everyone needs friends.

InmateLover67 · #4 06-17-2012, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by AwaitingForHim7

Well, me & My ex(who is in jail) was together for a year. He was nice, loyal, respectful & helpful. He babysat My son when i needed him, played with My son, loved My son, took My son to his dr appt, he went to My dr appt wit me, loved & cared for me. But i betrayed him not once did i cheat, but i continued to lie to him over & over about crazy things! Til one day he got tired and broke Up with me completly, i was devasted, and he said we will never get back together and he didnt want anything else to do with me. weeks after we broke it off which was in january i was put in the hospital for 2,weeks, and found out i had bipolar depression disorder and i was put on medicine a,week after that i jumped into a new relationship which didnt last at all. My ex got locked Up in march wrote me the same month, i didnt respond so he wrote a second letter, telling me his feelings. He said he wasnt trying to get back together but he at least still want to be friends. I still love him he thinks i have another bf but i told him i dont in My letter. do u think its a chance i can win him back?

At this point, you should focus on being thankful he even wants to be friends. He took the initiative to contact you, so take everything one day at a time. Do not worry about whether you "win" him back or not. If the two of you are meant to have an intimate relationship, you will.

Again, be thankful for his friendship, keep taking care of yourself and let this relationship grow on it's own terms.

Peace~

Jootje · #5 06-17-2012, 07:12 AM

walking on eggshels or forcing feelings are never healthy in a relationship. He reached out to you as a friend and in my opinion I would first see how that goes and progresses, maybe there is nothing more in store than friends and maybe there is, only time will tell but take things slow and a day at a time and enjoy and feel blesed with what the two of you will build together.

**Nieves915** · #6 06-17-2012, 07:36 AM

Sounds to me like he still has feelings for you and just feels betrayed,, the fact that he wrote you two letters sounds like he is missing you,,, friends to start is great,,, he didnt shut you out of his life completly... take it slow,,,, dont rush into any other relationships and try your best to stay honest with him. if you show him that he can trust you im sure he will accept you back into his heart full force,, But he has to work through forgiving you,, which he will in time... good luck...
and stay on your meds,, your going to get to a point where you feel fine and feel like your healed,,, you can never be healed from bi polar disorder, you will be on meds for the rest of your life. but thats okay, at least you know now where all that crazy behavior came from...... the meds really do help, and also seek some therapy,,,,, that helps too. good luck to you,

AwaitingForHim7 · #7 06-17-2012, 09:00 AM

Yeah, i been focused on me & My son. I been going to therapy and couseling for My disorder, as of now i been doing good without My meds but idk how long. I take My son walking everyday, to the park sometimes, and even to the library on tues and wed for activity and interact with other kids. I wrote him back, sent it off thurs. I told him how i was doing, and told him how i felt. I even told him we can still be friends, and take things extra slow. so im waiting on a response

thisfamily · #8 06-17-2012, 09:08 AM

OP, you sound like a great person who kept making mistakes and now are owning up to them. I think your ex would be proud to know this person. It's not easy at all to take complete ownership... and for that I commend you.
Being friends is a great start... and it could build to more with time, if both of you are interested in that direction.

**shaunna** · #9 06-17-2012, 05:05 PM

I think you are making a good start by taking care of yourself and your son. Just take things slow day by day and let things progress naturally

canadiangirl098 · #10 06-17-2012, 05:16 PM

friends are better than being nothing at all as others have said take things slow and be friends and if there is love on both sides and it is meant to be it will happen if not at least you 2 can be friends

soalone17 · #11 06-17-2012, 05:23 PM

IMO you need to be friends first..that makes the best relationship. just take it slow and see where it leads. But remember to take care of you and your son first.

JazzyJFL · #12 06-23-2012, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by InmateLover67

At this point, you should focus on being thankful he even wants to be friends. He took the initiative to contact you, so take everything one day at a time. Do not worry about whether you "win" him back or not. If the two of you are meant to have an intimate relationship, you will.

Again, be thankful for his friendship, keep taking care of yourself and let this relationship grow on it's own terms.

Peace~

What great Advice! So many times we worry about whether we will get back with someone. Your number one priority is you and your child/children. We can't give love to others until we learn to love ourselves. If the relationship is meant to be it will be. But for now focus on you and being the best YOU can be. Be Blessed!