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stockingman · #1 06-23-2012, 12:03 PM

I have a bf he's nice to me he's not the jealous type he's just simply normal. Well little do I know. My bf threatens all my friends behind my back now I know why nobody talks to me. If he finds out I've been kickin it with any guys hell go kick his butt and doesn't even tell me nothing, or ask me any questions.. Do u think he's creepy? Or is that normal

mandarose · #2 06-23-2012, 12:06 PM

He is nice to you but choked you and gave you a bloody nose??
Are you serious??

No he's not creepy, yet not normal......and well he has freakin issues!..
0__o

Cesarlove · #3 06-23-2012, 12:07 PM

Wow! How did u find out he is doing that? Well I know that not normal. Be careful, this might not be a good turn out. Wish you luck!

Jootje · #4 06-23-2012, 12:08 PM

No that is not normal, but maybe to him it may be so I would talk to him if I were you and tell him he does have a jealousy and a trust issue problem to say the least and tell him to stop it. If trust is not set in stone you are basically wasting your time (meaning these "problems" he is having are unhealthy in a relationship and are going to cost you a lot of (negative) energy) because at the end of the day you will be walking on egg shells to make sure there is nothing you do or say that may pop his top and than still he probably will.

InmateLover67 · #5 06-23-2012, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by stockingman

I have a bf he's nice to me he's not the jealous type he's just simply normal. Well little do I know. My bf threatens all my friends behind my back now I know why nobody talks to me. If he finds out I've been kickin it with any guys hell go kick his butt and doesn't even tell me nothing, or ask me any questions.. Do u think he's creepy? Or is that normal

I just responded to your other post. This man is NOT nice to you, he abuses you.

You need to get to a local DV shelter and make plans to get away from this guy, before he kills you.

GET HELP!

Peace~

stockingman · #6 06-23-2012, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by InmateLover67

I just responded to your other post. This man is NOT nice to you, he abuses you.

You need to get to a local DV shelter and make plans to get away from this guy, before he kills you.

GET HELP!

Peace~

I like reading other people's advice. Maybe sometimes I am in denial n can't accept the truth. It does help all the advice I get from u woman!! Thanks!

stockingman · #7 06-23-2012, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Jootje

No that is not normal, but maybe to him it may be so I would talk to him if I were you and tell him he does have a jealousy and a trust issue problem to say the least and tell him to stop it. If trust is not set in stone you are basically wasting your time (meaning these "problems" he is having are unhealthy in a relationship and are going to cost you a lot of (negative) energy) because at the end of the day you will be walking on egg shells to make sure there is nothing you do or say that may pop his top and than still he probably will.

I like ur respond! Thanks!!

LoveYourself1st · #8 06-23-2012, 05:34 PM

Very creepy.

stockingman · #9 06-23-2012, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Cesarlove

Wow! How did u find out he is doing that? Well I know that not normal. Be careful, this might not be a good turn out. Wish you luck!

When he went to jail. My friends started talking to me n they told me that he treathen them. Different. Friends of mine told me all the same. I had no idea

stockingman · #10 06-23-2012, 05:38 PM

Whether I wait or move on he's still gonna be in my life forever we have two kids together. I've been thinking of moving on. I just hope he don't hurt my new bf. cuz he did tell me I better not have any guy around he's kids n he would hurt whoever I'm with.

Jootje · #11 06-24-2012, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by stockingman

Whether I wait or move on he's still gonna be in my life forever we have two kids together. I've been thinking of moving on. I just hope he don't hurt my new bf. cuz he did tell me I better not have any guy around he's kids n he would hurt whoever I'm with.

So basically he is trying to control YOUR life by threatening you. Do not stay with him or keep your future on hold because of that.

Yeah he will be in your life forever because he is the father of your children BUT you are in control on HOW he will be in your life. Take over the control of your own life and set the ground rules, even if you need to go to court for it. If you decide to move forward without him as your boyfriend I would suggest to concentrate on YOU and YOUR CHILDREN first before even considering a new man, but if one day you do end up with a new boyfriend do not let the ex control your life or relationship

**Patty** · #12 06-24-2012, 01:16 AM

I've got two words for you: Restraining order

Free Again · #13 06-24-2012, 03:43 AM

First off, the behaviour you describe is Norman Bates Bats**t crazy IMO. Second, are we discussing two different men?. You are scared he will beat your bf?. I thought he was your bf. I also thought your bf was in prison for beating you, which is also creepy amongst many other nasty things.....

nimuay · #14 06-24-2012, 05:58 AM

Look, whoever raised your jail boyfriend taught him that love is nasty and abusive. That's what he knows, and that's how he'll live.

Just because you have children together doesn't mean he has to be in your life much at all. You can get a permanent restraining order keeping him away from you and the kids. You can file a letter with their schools that he is never permitted to take them out of there, you can go to family court and ask for full custody with limited, supervised visitation (which he would have to pay for) and you can get a psych evaluation done for your kids to find out just how damaged they are (oh yes they are - they've been living with all these bad vibes all their lives).

Do not let his threats keep you from living a full and gracious life. And don't start with a new boyfriend until you are fully done with the first! You haven't yet corrected any of the things that put you in the abusive relationship in the first place! There are things about how we make our choices of life partners that you need to know before trying to choose another one.

And, incidentally, his behavior is beyond creepy . . . it's very dangerous.

canadiangirl098 · #15 06-24-2012, 02:31 PM

i agree with all of the other responses...he is controlling plus an abuser..as patty said get a restraining order i wouldnt even trust him around the kids if he beats you up he could do the same to the kids...leave him and get counselling because of the abuse he has put you through

Eternal Sunshine · #16 06-24-2012, 02:52 PM

Creepy is not the word to use in this situation. He is abusive, controlling and dangerous! This is the same man you asked about in another post--asking if he is confused? He calls you names and hits you. Not creepy. Not confused. Abusive!

**LeBeau** · #17 06-25-2012, 09:12 AM

That's not "creepy"
"Creepy" implies a certain degree of harmlessness and this dude is not harmless, he's quite dangerous.
He's possessive, controlling, violent and a bit demented.

Get the restraining order, get full legal and physical custody of your kids, get counselling and get on with your life.

You watched your parents relationship.... do you really want the same for your children?

stockingman · #18 06-25-2012, 12:12 PM

So o no

nimuay · #19 06-25-2012, 12:15 PM

And the point of our answers was to answer. He's beyond creepy. He's dangerous. He's poisoning your children's souls. He's destroying you.

How much more do you want from us? We've tried to answer as well as we could.

Nicksmother · #20 06-26-2012, 03:29 PM

Use his time away to get your self together and away! You and your children deserve better. If you don't do it for yourself do it for your children. Break the cycle of abuse.

Free Again · #21 06-26-2012, 04:26 PM

This thread has been bugging me and confusing me but having reread it this morning I can clearly see that "Stockingman" has already moved on and has a new "bf".... Hence the fear that the original "bf" will beat the "bf". Lets just hope that the new one will make a better and safer option.......

yourself · #22 06-26-2012, 09:51 PM

No, such behavior is CRIMINAL.

Threats are threats, and can be criminal in and of themselves, not to mention harassing. Beating on your male friends is assault and battery each and every time.

Encourage your friends to come forward and sign complaints about him. From there, make sure that restraining order stays in effect. Make sure that restraining order becomes a permanent part of any custody and support agreement dealing with the kids.

This type of activity is the type that can lead to a termination of his parental rights, not just long stints in prison and a lot of trauma for you, your kids, and anybody else in your life.