He's Incarcerated and I'm Grateful for the Little Things...

[Patty]

Grand gestures, big surprises, and that thing I've ALWAYS wanted aside - it really is the little things that draw us together over and over and over again.

I'm grateful that even though he's in prison...

• He asks about my friends and PTO and in general things he doesn't have to concern himself with but does
• He gets excited just because I am
• He prays for me
• He actually tells me in the card he sends why he chose it if it has an abstract meaning (weird I know but we are weird, LOL)
• He is content in our relationship and makes me feel the same

I'm sure I'll come up with more, those are just a few off the top of my head. Please share the little things that your incarcerated husband/boyfriend does that you are grateful for.

[queenlynch]

He knows just when to grab my hand at a visit.

He gives me kisses on the phone when I tell him what I did to love myself that day.

He loves himself as best he can, and shares what he did with me when he can.

He pays attention to my body language to the point where I no longer have a functioning "poker face" with him.

He talks so much about me and him to anyone who he feels safe to share with that the guards know me before they meet me.

He never lets me forget that I am worthy of all the things I ask for in this world.

He lets me take care of his heart, and trusts me enough to be open with me.

He handles me with care when I need him to, and gives it to me real, always!

He just never gives up!

[Mrs. Happy]

I am grateful that he writes me such beautiful letters.

I am grateful he has a positive attitude, more positive then mine.

I am grateful that I can lean on him for emotional support whenever I need to.

I am grateful that he has faith in the Lord.

I am grateful for all the strength the Lord gives me to continue on with this journey.

I am grateful that inspite of this difficult time that we are still able to laugh and enjoy eachother at our visits.

I am grateful to be his wife and proud that he is my husband.

I am grateful for that sparkle in his eyes and for all his love. <3

[nicenjazzy]

Great thread Patty!! (yours always are!!)
I'm grateful..
for being able to share any and everything with him and know that he understands and doesn't judge
for being able to hear the smile in his voice when we talk and the twinkle in his eyes when we see each other
for the way he shows his love on the phone regardless of how many are standing around listening or picking on him (yeah tough guy can get mushy lol)
for the fact that he can hear my mood in my voice no matter how hard I try to hide it and how if I'm down he won't stop until he makes me laugh and it goes away

[Patty]

Can't believe I forgot this one...

He'll watch a whole "girly" tv show because he knows it is something I might watch or would be sorry I missed then he can tell me about it, LOL.

(Might sound crazy but if you saw his pics (some in my profile page) you'd see he's not typically a "girly man kinda guy" LOL)

[JuliusGirl]

I'm grateful that he says I love you anytime during the midst of conversations
I'm grateful he's thoughtful & always calls to make sure I made it from our visits okay!
I'm grateful that since I came along he's actually LIVING & not waiting to die.
I'm grateful we NEVER use "goodbye" it's always "see u later" or "talk to you later"
I'm grateful he was a willing to confide in me when he hadn't confided in anyone else
I'm grateful he still keeps me on track when I start to derail
I'm grateful he decided to try this thing called LOVE!
I'm grateful that he knows he has a GREAT woman on his side
Ladies.... I could go on FOREVER about this MAN, he's the sugar in my ICE COFFEE

[queenlynch]

Been thinking about this more...

I'm grateful that he sees us in everything he does.
I'm grateful that he loves the ones that don't know him but judge him, simply because I love them.
I'm grateful that he puts God above all.
I'm grateful that he supports my membership on PT.
I'm grateful that he loves as deeply as he does.
I'm grateful that he wants to wear overalls when he gets out just to be closer to my dad (whose uniform is overalls, and refuses to come meet Rufus).
I'm grateful that he loves his mama like he does, because we have that in common.
I'm grateful for the times he wipes the snot from my nose and the tears from my cheeks in a crowded visiting room.
I'm grateful for way he watches infomercials and tries to get me to buy the things he thinks would make life easier, or me happier.
I grateful for the way he takes his time doing everything.

OK, I could go on, but I'll stop, and bask in others' happiness for the duration.

Thanks, Patty.

[BFAV4EVER]

Fantastic idea Patty ... LOVE the positiveness!!!

I am grateful for ...
the love I see in his eyes and read in his letters
the fact he always listens and supports me
his "get your ass in gear" lecture when I need it
his horrible singing voice, singing to me "She's Everything"
how appreciative he is for even the littlest thing I do for him
the unique opportunity to experience old time romance and courtship that his bids have allowed us to have.

I love him, I love him, I love him!!!!

[Bigbirdsgirl83]

I'm greatful God found a crazy way to send me my angel I'm greatful for every call every letter every smile every kiss every touch every I love u and even every tear! It's the lil things in this life we lead that mean the most.... the way he shines his boots gets lined up gets his hair braided and his uniform pressed I'm just greatful God sent me him!

[butifuloblivion]

I'm grateful that he took a chance and opened up to me when he hadn't to anyone else
I'm grateful that when he calls he always asks how my family is doing
I'm grateful for the letters he sends and the time he takes to write them out each day
I'm grateful for the way he makes me feel just hearing the sound of his voice
I'm grateful that he is a believer in The Lord
I'm grateful that he always pushes me to keep my life going ( seeing friends, going out, having fun, experiencing things) even if he isnt there to physically share it with me
I'm grateful for finding a man who knows the good, the bad, and the ugly and still loves me just the same
I'm grateful for how he takes what little money he has and buys me a birthday present just to surprise me and make me smile
I'm grateful that he has continued his education while he's been incarcerated
I'm grateful that his actions match his words and that he continuously shows me this everyday
I'm grateful that he never lets me forget how beautiful he thinks I am.
I'm grateful that he pushes through the bad times, and can make me laugh on the darkest of days

There are so many things I am grateful for that I could never list them all.
Thank you for this thread, it helps to write it out and have that tangible thought of all the things he does for me on a daily basis!

[Biznessgal2]

Originally Posted by Patty

Grand gestures, big surprises, and that thing I've ALWAYS wanted aside - it really is the little things that draw us together over and over and over again.



I'm grateful that even though he's in prison...

• He asks about my friends and PTO and in general things he doesn't have to concern himself with but does
• He gets excited just because I am
• He prays for me
• He actually tells me in the card he sends why he chose it if it has an abstract meaning (weird I know but we are weird, LOL)
• He is content in our relationship and makes me feel the same

I'm sure I'll come up with more, those are just a few off the top of my head. Please share the little things that your incarcerated husband/boyfriend does that you are grateful for.

My husband has become the wonderful man I always knew he would be. The hard road he took to get there has made him wise, grateful, and appreciative of all his blessings. He treasures me, his children, and his faith. He celebrates the date of our wedding anniversary every month of the year. He sent me three birthday cards this year.

He easily says I Love You, spontaneous, often, and from his heart. He talks about our visits for the long times in-between the next one with excitement and happiness.

I loved him before he made his mistakes, but never realized how much he would grow from having made them. I feel grateful to have this fine loving man as my soul-mate and life partner.

Blessings,

MJ

[Tookie1132]

I am grateful for the way he ..............
writes to me every day
always thanks me for doing the tiniest thing for him
tells me he loves me all the time
spends time drawing neat things for me
loves my kids like they were his own
does special, thoughtful things for me
treats me like a princess
treats me with the utmost respect
cares for me before himself
encourages and supports me in every thing I do
praises me on a job well done


Oh how I love this man. I cannot get enough of him. He is my WORLD!

[Psychocandy]

I am grateful that he...
Sent me 5 emails last night he knows Ill miss him today because he wont be able to email me today.
Gets a kick out of surprising me with flowers at work and things like that just to hear the excitement and happiness in my voice when he calls.
Tells everyone who is important to him about us.
Spent time to research my country even writing some phrases in Gaelic.
Sent me my favourite sweets.
He gets my jokes.
He understands my accent.
He makes me laugh.
And a million other things.

[RoseIsARoseIsA]

He sings "I will survive" with me.
He helps me sort out my problems.
He encourages me.
He blots the shine from my face when I get greasy.
He always makes me laugh.
He draws out Mayan glyphs for me and schools me on my own culture.
When he tells me he loves me he says it like its the first time he's revealing his feelings for me...

"every breathe that is in your lungs is a tiny little gift to me"

[RoseIsARoseIsA]

Originally Posted by queenlynch

He talks so much about me and him to anyone who he feels safe to share with that the guards know me before they meet me.

Omg! This has happened to me where I was waiting in the room for him and another inmate was with his wife and kids and he goes "hey, your Melissa huh?" I was like "yeah...? How do u know?" he goes "John won't shut up about you, I recognized u from his pictures."

[Purplegirl1008]

I am grateful for:
The way he asks me a million times what my weekend/nightly plans are
The way he says "thank you baby" when I do something for him
The way he tells me he loves me
The fact that he picked me (:
How he tells me I'm beautiful and loves me no matter what, even though I've put on a few pounds (brought up by me)
That he is coming home to ME

[sarbear831]

Absolutely love this thread!!!

I'm grateful for:
The fact the we love each other, unconiditionally no matter what.
He understands me like no one ever has and can tell by my voice, my words and my body language when something is off.
When he says "i Love you" he means it, they are not just words to him they are actual feelings.
We both know and admit when we are wrong.
We have very open lines of communication and are not afraid to talk to each other about anything!!!

There are so many more I could go on and on!!!

[bamboo'swife]

I am grateful for sooooooo many things!

But most of all, I am grateful that after 11 years almost 12 that he is STILL my best friend and I am his!

I could go on and on about the things I am grateful for regarding my husband and knowing that he is too, makes it even greater. It feels great to just be grateful period

[queenlynch]

Originally Posted by bamboo'swife

I am grateful for sooooooo many things!

But most of all, I am grateful that after 11 years almost 12 that he is STILL my best friend and I am his!

I could go on and on about the things I am grateful for regarding my husband and knowing that he is too, makes it even greater. It feels great to just be grateful period

Yeah, I really like this one! Gratitude is so good in so many ways. Thanks for the simple beauty of this post.

[Inhishands]

I'm grateful that we both try and focus on what we have not what we don't have
I'm grateful that he loves my quirks ( I have a few )
I'm grateful that we just flow, we just have always had this natural flow between us.
I'm grateful that we have a crazy out of control family, that makes US look like the sane ones
I'm grateful that we both love hard and deep, it's not a superficial love
I'm grateful that we can communicate about anything and we do.
I'm grateful that we make each other laugh so much
I'm grateful that I can hear the smile in his voice when he says "I oughtta kick your ass"

I'm also grateful to see so many count their blessings

[Forever&aDay]

He nurtures this relationship even when it's in the most fragile state.
He listens to me with his ears and his heart and lets me know when I least expect it.
He loves our kids more than anything and sacrifices to remain relevant in their lives.
He knows how to be gentle while remaining strong.
He is not afraid to let me know how much he loves me and that he is willing to fight for me.
He compliments me, laughs at me and with me.
He never misses a special day in our lives.
He understands my fears and won't let me give in to them.
He holds my secrets under lock in key.
He whispers sweet nothings in my ear.
He sings songs/recites poems about how he feels about me and what I mean to him.
He treats me like his best friend, because I am.

[D4C]

I'm grateful for little notes that just say I love you and I miss you

when he calls me his best friend

when he sings me songs.

when he reads a book just because I read it first

I'm grateful when he throws his socks on hte floor in little stupid balls because I miss it when he's gone =)

[Patty]

Originally Posted by D4C

when he reads a book just because I read it first

We do this a lot too. It gives us something new to discuss and you know I'm grateful that we are good communicators because....

Communication is key to any successful relationship.

[prophetessacorn]

I am grateful that he has faith in Jesus Christ
I am grateful that he asks me to hold him accountable
I am grateful for every letter and song he sends
I am grateful to breathe the same air he breathes
I am grateful to hear his voice at least once a week
I am grateful God is holding us together
I am grateful that God has changed his mind, heart, and spirit

[Temeron0926]

That smile he gets when he walks into the visit room and sees me........

The fact that he looks into my eyes every time he tells me he loves me.......

The way he can lighten my mood, when I am having a rough day..........

When he asks "How are you?" & I know he REALLY wants to know...........

The way he makes me laugh....................

His concern over my pain, tho he is usually in pain also............

His excitement at getting released............(it is a while, but getting closer)