Hurting in so many ways - communication breakdown with my MWI Mate

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by ahora2012

you need to focus on something else - sitting and waitng for that response is going to drive you crazy. thats what the silent treatment does - its very cruel to do that to someone - anyone - the silent treatment is a form of control. i would address that when you talk to him. yes he may need a minute to think or digest or cool off or whatever - but there is no reason why he cnat say ' ill email soon just need a minute. ' thats my opinion. its really disrepsectful. but you can decide what you will put up with and how you want to be treated - ESPECIALLY during a fight or disagreement. thats the test of a mans character. not when everything is smooth.

If I have a chance to speak to him, I will tell him exactly how I feel and I refuse to let this happen again if we agree to keep this relationship.

I agree 100%, the silent treatment is selfish and controlling. And holy hell does it hurt!

Thanks Ahora2012.

[ahora2012]

Originally Posted by RubyRed77

If I have a chance to speak to him, I will tell him exactly how I feel and I refuse to let this happen again if we agree to keep this relationship.

I agree 100%, the silent treatment is selfish and controlling. And holy hell does it hurt!

Thanks Ahora2012.

i dated a guy who used this method - it was like my heart was being ripped out - i feel you! one day i opened my eyes and realized it was torture and i was allowing him to abuse me in this manner. NO MORE! i hope youre able to stay strong, sometimes when they final call we are so relieved that we forget to protect ourself - at least i did that.

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by ahora2012

i dated a guy who used this method - it was like my heart was being ripped out - i feel you! one day i opened my eyes and realized it was torture and i was allowing him to abuse me in this manner. NO MORE! i hope youre able to stay strong, sometimes when they final call we are so relieved that we forget to protect ourself - at least i did that.

Right now, Im set on knowing he won't contact me. He's crossed all lines, respect--honesty-communication-, etc.
It feels like my heart has been kicked in my face. He's never done this in the 5 months, I guess its why it hurts so bad.

Not knowing is unbelievably sad.

[hisbabygurl2014]

Hi,
Again I am sorry your feeling this way.
But like you said that you have insecure about you are insecure about your relationship or you are insecure as a person being in a relationship? But either way look deep into why you are insecure in your relationship. Does he treat you right? does he take your feelings incondiseration? Does he respect you? And how important are you to him? Has he EVER given you any reason why you are insecure in your relationship with him? When you send him an email about how many he send out and he said "stop being insecure" That to me tells me that he uses your insecurity for his own advantage. He knows that he has your heart and so he dancing with it. Pleas evulate this relationship, because if he can call sister and if he says that your important you should be in the same step as that. He is cutting all communications with you which in a relationship you need that!!! IF he acts like this when you guys have a blow out in prison how will he act when he is home?

PLEASE PLEASE Follow your gut instincts, and those questions i asked you dont need to answer for me answer it for yourself. And also if you ever wonna talk about how my ex played the same game as your bf with me i can tell ya, PM me!

Good luck!

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by hisbabygurl2014

Hi,
Again I am sorry your feeling this way.
But like you said that you have insecure about you are insecure about your relationship or you are insecure as a person being in a relationship? But either way look deep into why you are insecure in your relationship. Does he treat you right? does he take your feelings incondiseration? Does he respect you? And how important are you to him? Has he EVER given you any reason why you are insecure in your relationship with him? When you send him an email about how many he send out and he said "stop being insecure" That to me tells me that he uses your insecurity for his own advantage. He knows that he has your heart and so he dancing with it. Pleas evulate this relationship, because if he can call sister and if he says that your important you should be in the same step as that. He is cutting all communications with you which in a relationship you need that!!! IF he acts like this when you guys have a blow out in prison how will he act when he is home?

PLEASE PLEASE Follow your gut instincts, and those questions i asked you dont need to answer for me answer it for yourself. And also if you ever wonna talk about how my ex played the same game as your bf with me i can tell ya, PM me!

Good luck!

Thanks love. Just sent you a PM. My gut instincts say don't let him go. I know, crazy.

Im so upset...

[BFFsupporter]

Originally Posted by RubyRed77

Thanks love. Just sent you a PM. My gut instincts say don't let him go. I know, crazy.

Im so upset...

"...don't let him go." Not your choice. He could email you, but he doesn't. He could call, but he doesn't. You can't hold someone who doesn't want you. If this is how he treats you, WHY do you WANT to hear from him. Don't you deserve better than this kind of treatment.

No excuses for his behavior. We all have stress and are required to continue to behave decently. Decide for yourself what kind of life you can choose to have. You can't force someone to want you.

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by BFFsupporter

"...don't let him go." Not your choice. He could email you, but he doesn't. He could call, but he doesn't. You can't hold someone who doesn't want you. If this is how he treats you, WHY do you WANT to hear from him. Don't you deserve better than this kind of treatment.

No excuses for his behavior. We all have stress and are required to continue to behave decently. Decide for yourself what kind of life you can choose to have. You can't force someone to want you.

That's what hurts the most, knowing he doesn't want me. The unanswered questions. No excuses for him, not after this.

It's unexpected and it's hard to digest.

Thank you for your input, Im trying to soak it all in.

[ahora2012]

your heart says hold on - but its clear from your writing that your head is being rational and telling you to run -
i can empathize with you - sorry it hurts so bad.
he will contact you - so you should have a plan of action when that happens. even if its weeks from now. it will get you off guard and you will be more vulerable.
work on your self - get strong and realize hwo much you are worth. dont settle. youre pricelss!!!! dont ever forget that.

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by ahora2012

your heart says hold on - but its clear from your writing that your head is being rational and telling you to run -
i can empathize with you - sorry it hurts so bad.
he will contact you - so you should have a plan of action when that happens. even if its weeks from now. it will get you off guard and you will be more vulerable.
work on your self - get strong and realize hwo much you are worth. dont settle. youre pricelss!!!! dont ever forget that.

I can't seem to run fast enough. I triple dog dare his short a$$ to contact me weeks from now. I'd rather him not then in weeks, so I say now. It hurts for sure, I've been heartbroken once before, unfortunately.

I am priceless that put a smile on my face :hugs:

Thank you for your understanding.

[hisbabygurl2014]

Originally Posted by RubyRed77

I can't seem to run fast enough. I triple dog dare his short a$$ to contact me weeks from now. I'd rather him not then in weeks, so I say now. It hurts for sure, I've been heartbroken once before, unfortunately.

I am priceless that put a smile on my face :hugs:

Thank you for your understanding.

You a strong beautiful women!! And you will get through this. I love your strength. You are priceless and he is missing out in that price. I promise you that someone will find what he couldnt see, i promise you that.

Like i said before if you wonna talk to me, PM me i got you ohh i got a song for you too!!

[ahora2012]

Originally Posted by hisbabygurl2014

You a strong beautiful women!! And you will get through this. I love your strength. You are priceless and he is missing out in that price. I promise you that someone will find what he couldnt see, i promise you that.

Like i said before if you wonna talk to me, PM me i got you ohh i got a song for you too!!

i 2nd that!!

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by hisbabygurl2014

You a strong beautiful women!! And you will get through this. I love your strength. You are priceless and he is missing out in that price. I promise you that someone will find what he couldnt see, i promise you that.

Like i said before if you wonna talk to me, PM me i got you ohh i got a song for you too!!

Thanks for the love! Loved the songs! Im finally up & out today. It was 5 months of my life, I have to keep that in mind! Keep ME in mind.

[RubyRed77]

Relationship officially over.

Im actually relieved and thankful he answered me, that's all I wanted.

The End.

[canadiangirl098]

i am so sorry to hear that did he say why he broke it off with you

[RubyRed77]

Originally Posted by canadiangirl098

i am so sorry to hear that did he say why he broke it off with you

Don't be sorry. He told me and I am ok with it. Just glad he didn't leave me hanging on.

[hisbabygurl2014]

Originally Posted by RubyRed77

Don't be sorry. He told me and I am ok with it. Just glad he didn't leave me hanging on.

I am sorry girl. At least he explained him to you, now you can move on and its his loss!

[mallafri]

Originally Posted by RubyRed77

Don't be sorry. He told me and I am ok with it. Just glad he didn't leave me hanging on.

Aaaaah, I'm sorry! At least you got closure! Be strong and one of these days you're gonna find your Mr Right!