My Lady's Ex is traumatizing my Kids!

[RLF5400]

A little history:

Well legally they may not be my kids. But I feel as if they are. And I have been a strong fatherly figure in their lives for over two years now. While their biological father was nothing more than a (please excuse the phrase) sperm donor.. They are all wonderful children,, all girls, I call them “my girls”,, ages, 15, 14, 13, and 12..

While "my girls' father spent 7 years in a federal prison. Their Mother visited him with the children every month.. But when she did time, he ignored her, found a new chick and divorced her when she was incarcerated... My girl never recovered from the wrath of this man.. That contributed to her downward plunge in life...

He never comes around and has not contributed anything for his children,, “my girls!” A least not since I've been in the picture... So he shows up with this newest bimbo this past weekend.. This new fling pulls out an 8 by 10 prison mugshot of “my girl's” Mother.. And reminds them how bad their Mother is.. Then begins to laugh about it! I was totally heartbroken. He had all the girls crying.. And if I had a mean streak in me,, I would have laid them both out!

I never lied to “my girls” about their mother. That she is paying the consequences for making a wrong a choice in her life.. We all make bad choices somewhere in our lives.. But when she returns she will make it up to you,, ten fold.. We sit down together to write letters and make home made cards for their mother. I make sure that they all have a chance to speak with her on the phone.. We are all doing this time along with Mother! All my nurturing went down the drain by these two idiots in a few minutes. I cannot conceive the harm they did. Nor understand how they can get their jollies of by doing such a cruel thing...

This journey that we've been going through is tough enough. I sure didn't need this to happen.. Don't worry ,, I'll make it up the girls. We're spending a two week traveling in my motorhome and going to three amusement parks! Two in Ohio and one in New York, with seeing Niagara Falls! And what do ladies like the best.. you got it, we're stopping at Grove City Premium outlet Mall in Pennsylvania,, and having one heck of a shopping spree! Besides Loving their Mother,, I love all of them as well! And can't wait to start our new life once Mother returns to us...

[Southernsun]

I take it these girls live with you..,legally does he visitation to just pop in? Does that visitation include having the children around an opposite sex partner? If not there's a reason to not have them around him but if so check with ur court house to c if they offer a free child advocate service that can counsel the girls and b their voice while their mom is away. They are getting to the age here in TN where I'm at that they have a legal say so in not going around him if they so choose

<3 MY HEART BELONGS TO DROOPY <3

[nicenjazzy]

You sound like a AWESOME person!!! (((((hugs))))) You are truly a rare breed and I applaud you for all you do! Southern is right, they are of the age now that they can refuse to see their biological father if they choose to. They should not have to put up with that "abuse" from anyone. You stay strong and keep doing what you do. By the way I may be 42 but you can adopt me, I love trips and shopping....just kidding

[sidewalker]

omg, what an asshat.

IN the future, I'd not answer the door if he comes calling.
wow.
Nice Dad (not)

Im very sorry that happened. I think this would be one time I'd allow the girls to tell someone to eff off. (ok I wouldnt encourage it, but if it came out of one of their mouths, they wouldnt get into trouble by me)

[RLF5400]

Thanks for everyone's concern.. I will look after my girls and make the best for them.. We're going out on my boat to see the fireworks at Cedar point tonight.. If the weather's good. If not well be watching it from the boat... We'll be staying at the Cedar point Marina,, spend two day in the park. Then take my motorhome to King's Island outside of Cincinnati for two days... Then onto Six Flags,, and Niagara Falls... Next the outlet mall for school clothes,, and some summer clothes as well. Then Victoria Secrets,, the two older girls love PINK! And they're going to pick out some sexy dresses for their Mother to have when she returns.. Don't tell her,, it's going to be a big surprise...


He only comes around when he needs something.. usually a favor or money.. Again I cannot understand how anyone could belittle his children's mother. Doesn't he understand the pain these poor kids have endured? Anyhow Mother isn't nearly as bad as the name he was calling her. I bet all this will actually strengthen the bond for their Mother....


Again legally I have no say with my girls. I have them because I want to,, and they have no where else to go.. And I sure don't want children's services taking over.. I don't want to make waves,, as my worst fear happening of loosing my girls... And this idiot may simply turn me in to get even with my girlfriend. He's extremely vindictive.. I have slid under his radar so far,, and all we need is another 10 weeks. When my sweetie comes home,, I will put my attorneys to work to make things right and protect my girls... I'm well aware of domestic law in Ohio.. And will be taking steps to keep the girls safe at arm's length from their father...


There isn't a single thing in this world that I want more than a happy family of six once my girl returns... That's what I pray for every day...

[Scotties_Girl21]

First off, God bless you for keeping the girls in touch with their mother. The "dad" (sperm donor) sounds like a real piece of work, I cannot believe he would allow his bimbo to speak down of their mother. What an idiot.

Your doing the right thing and doing the best you can to protect them from things like that and that's awesome
Sounds like they have a wonderful support system between you and their mom so keep up the good work! I wish your family future happiness and goodluck!

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

[forEvEr99]

Keeping you in my thoughts. My husbands ex is like that. She is ugly, nasty, and very vindictive. She is mad because he wouldn't marry her when she got pregnant. They were not even together and they were 16 and 17. So she hates me and him for being married. Some people are just hateful people. I just tell her God don't like ugly. Lol. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. How long does she have?

[Patty]

Those girls are so lucky that you are their dad. Have a wonderful vacation and make sure to take plenty of pictures for "Mom".

[ishookedonhim]

WoW, I almost cried. I can believe he would do something like that because my ex husband does the same type of stuff with my kids. He just hates me that much which is dumb because he moved on and got remarried. Anyway, I am very happy to see that those children have a "real dad" in their life to take such good care of them. It feels my heart with joy. Like one of the other posters said, I would happy to have a dad like you, will you adopt me lol. To me it sounds like you have your head on straight about what to do next with keeping the girls safe from there "father" so do whatcha gotta do I hope you have a happy vacation and Happy 4th

[MRS.GRIFFIN]

(((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))
I GIVE YOU THE FATHER OF THE YEAR AWARD
IT TAKES A REAL MAN TO STAND UP FOR HIS GIRLS,,,YOU MIGHT NOT HAVE DONATED YOUR SPERM,,,BUT IN MY BOOK YOU ARE THEIR FATHER<YOU ARE DOING FATHER DUTIES YOU KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK DAD AND YOU AND THE GIRLS ENJOY YOUR 4th of JULY. SENDING GOOD PRAYERS FOR AN AMAZING DAD

NOW FOR THE SPERM DONOR AND HIS BIMBO.....HE ASKING YOU FOR MONEY...WTH!!! YOU RAISING THEM GIRLS,YOU SHOULD HAVE ASKED HIM FOR MONEY. BUT I KNOW REAL DADS PROVED THEIR LOVE BIMBO TALKING ABOUT KIDS MOM, NOT COOL AT ALL. WHEN YOU SEE THEM COMING TO THE HOUSE, I WOULDN'T EVEN OPEN THE DOOR.

IM GLAD YOU LET THE GIRLS KNOW,,MOM DID WRONG AND SHE'S PAYING FOR IT.SENDING PRAYERS FOR MOM ALSO. TELL HER TO KEEP HER HEAD UP AND STAY POSITIVE SHE HAS A GOOD FAMILY TO COME HOME TO

[kevinmom]

Your a great dad and sorry your girls had to go through that. Hope you all enjoy your trip.

[RLF5400]

Returned from our trip.. And all had a great time... We started off at Cedar point on the Fourth of July. Saw the fireworks out at sea. The next two days we at the amusement park... The weather was sunny hot so I made sure the girls used sunscreen three times a day.. Being that we slept over my the boat, we were able to get into the park and hour early... Stayed till we ate lunch at Famous Dave's.. The girls sure can eat! They put away the family feast served on a garbage can lid... We all took a nap in my boat then returned when the crowd thinned out after six o'clock... http://www.cedarpoint.com/


The next day we traveled to Kelly's Island,, just across the bay.. Docked at the Seaway Marina for two days. Went into town and borrowed a friend's six person golf cart.. There we toured the island the first day, along with had dinner with some friends that live there in the summer... The next day we went swimming at the State Park on the far side of the island.. http://www.seawaymarina.com/index.html


Then we made our way to Put-In-Bay on South Bass Island and spent two days there at the Crews Nest Marina.. Having a membership entitles us total use of their facility.. My girls are boy magnets! And I couldn't keep the girls out of the pool.. They met some nice boys,, who tagged along with us when we toured the island.. It was a bit harder to get them to leave. But time was ticking on, and we needed to reach our next destination... http://www.thecrewsnest.com/gallery.html


We took my boat back to my boat house. And started off to Kings Island just this side of Cincinnati in my motor home.. On our way there we stopped in Lebanon, Ohio to eat at the Golden Lamb.. Ohio's oldest hotel.. When ever I travel the area,, I always stop by for a meal.. Good old fashion food.. http://www.goldenlamb.com/


We spent two days at Kings Island. One in the amusement park. And another at the water park.. http://www.visitkingsisland.com/


Then off to Darien Lake Theme Park. An hour or so South of Niagara Falls, New York. We camped in the campground. Spent a day on the rides. And a second day in Splash Town... I do believe that my girls finally had their fill of rides and fun in the water.. http://godarienlake.com/


Then off to spend a day in Niagara Falls New, York.. I sure wish I could take then across the boarder to Canada. Far more interesting sights there.. Anyhow we saw the falls and took in a meal at the Hard Rock.. Next time when sweetie back,, we'll cross over to Canada...


Next we went to Mill Creel Mall on Peach Street in Erie Pennsylvania. Where we shopped at the Victoria Secrets... My two older girls Love their PINK line.. They sure had a good time.. Then we all picked out some clothes for mother when she returns... Sure picked out some hot items for her.. Please don't say anything.. It's going to be a surprise... http://www.millcreekmall.net/home/index.ch2

Next we went to Grove City Premium Outlet Mall in Grove City no less... The girls picked out their new wardrobe for the upcoming school year... Along with filling in some summer items they couldn't resist.. http://www.premiumoutlets.com/outlets/outlet.asp?id=85


I have to say that the trip was a complete success.. Never a dull moment, and lots of memories to be remembered.. We kept mother abreast as best we could.. Sending off both letters, the girls made home made cards,, and emails with pictures and all ever day.. Also we made sure we sent off picturesque post cards... Mom was happy to see we had a good time.. And that we had her with us in our hearts... My girls are so wonderful... Sadly I didn't fare so well.. While I slept by myself in the rear bedroom of the motor home, or the front berth of my boat.. I felt so lonely missing my sweetheart. And that she couldn't be with us taking in all the fun... A few times my older two girls caught me drench in pain from the loss of mother.. And always said,, “Daddy needs a big family hug!” They sure know how to help heal the pain...

[Patty]

Sounds like a wonderful trip, my best to the girls and to mom!

[MRS.GRIFFIN]

Glad you and the girls had a blast