The feeling of being played.

[313j]

My ex and his girl broke up while incarcerated. I continue to see him and speak to him on the phone daily. Mind you she haven't seen him since he been locked up. But anyways he say he just want to remain friends with me b/c he don't want to be in another relationship while he is locked up. He said he wants to work on us to build a friendship then when he get release we can be together which sound like bullshit to me. But he don't want me to talk to other guys or date but he want to remain friends??? What kind of shit is that I feel he wants his cake and eat it too. I think he really don't want to be with me he just need someone there for him through his bid. He claim he still love me and all that other shit but I beg to differ. I just need some advice ladies I just don't like the feeling of being used and played with.

[hisbabygurl2014]

I think you already answered your question hun. he said he wants to be friends but doesnt want you dating other guys.... seems like someone isnt being fair. He wants you to be friends with him, but no title but only friendship. Look, This is what i would tell him- I would be friends with you BUt i am going to be dating and having fun with whomever i please. He can like that or not. But i think you know the answer

[Klewis]

I can see why you feel like you are being played. He is saying something good but he is making it were it only works for him. The fact that he says he does not want to be in another relationship while in prison but he does not want you to talk to other guys or date sounds to me like he wants to act like he is in a relationship with you, but yet he does not want to be in one with you. I tell people all the time do not waste time on someone that just wants to be in a relationship, but don't know how to be in one. This man is contradicting himself he can't have it both ways. You either are going to be friends and stick on a friendly path like a once in awhile hello. No money being sent and no emotional attachment or he is going to grow up and realize that in a relationship you are suppose to take the time to build a friendship. As he is locked up that is what you would be doing in a relationship. Now if he is trying to keep his options open, then you need to decide if you want to one.

[313j]

Thank you ladies for your feedback. Because I told him I'm seeing other people and he got upset. I just feel what the hell do you expect if you just want to be friends. Then told me that I'm pushing him away again b/c I'm talking to other guys. He always come up with bs saying I'm in prison I can't be there for you if you want me as your man. I told him all i need from him is love I guess that's not good enough but I know what I need to do

[La Divina]

Girl keep going with ur life you hear me!!! Cuse u are going to wait around with no set commitment and u are going to pass out on a good opportunity to meet a good man! Men like him come home and keep going with their life and fuck u over!! keep it friendly but know ur spot dont fall for foolish words... good luck

[313j]

Thank you and yes men like that are full of it

[skellerton]

Are you putting $$$$ on his books?

[313j]

No I haven't just on the phone and snacks when we see each other

[egbdf65]

Only you know the answer. What I can tell you is that my Creator is that Little Voice inside of me I never listened to.

Originally Posted by 313j

My ex and his girl broke up while incarcerated. I continue to see him and speak to him on the phone daily. Mind you she haven't seen him since he been locked up. But anyways he say he just want to remain friends with me b/c he don't want to be in another relationship while he is locked up. He said he wants to work on us to build a friendship then when he get release we can be together which sound like bullshit to me. But he don't want me to talk to other guys or date but he want to remain friends??? What kind of shit is that I feel he wants his cake and eat it too. I think he really don't want to be with me he just need someone there for him through his bid. He claim he still love me and all that other shit but I beg to differ. I just need some advice ladies I just don't like the feeling of being used and played with.

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by 313j

My ex and his girl broke up while incarcerated. I continue to see him and speak to him on the phone daily. Mind you she haven't seen him since he been locked up. But anyways he say he just want to remain friends with me b/c he don't want to be in another relationship while he is locked up. He said he wants to work on us to build a friendship then when he get release we can be together which sound like bullshit to me. But he don't want me to talk to other guys or date but he want to remain friends??? What kind of shit is that I feel he wants his cake and eat it too. I think he really don't want to be with me he just need someone there for him through his bid. He claim he still love me and all that other shit but I beg to differ. I just need some advice ladies I just don't like the feeling of being used and played with.

If you don't like what is happening then put a stop to it.

I don't believe there is anything wrong with wanting to build a friendship and not try to have a relationship while being locked up.

What is wrong with being friends with him? If you care about him as a friend, then be his friend, if you are expecting more of him than he is willing to offer you, then move on.

I would ask him why he does not want you to date other men, if he only wants to be friends? Tell him how you feel and go with what your heart tells you.

Peace~

[bl6ckr0s3]

I think it's bullshit that he just wants 2 b friends & yet still try 2 tell u not 2 b d8in other guys?? That's kinda selfish. I would tell him if he only wants 2 b friends, then he has no right 2 tell u wat 2 do w/ ur personal life cuz u guys aren't 2gether & u guys aren't 'connected'. If he wants 2 b keepin in touch w/ other chicks or something, ok then that's his business, but if he's gonna tell u that then u should tell him that he can't b w/ n-e chicks or talk 2 chicks either so that it would b fair 2 the both of u.

[pisces317]

everyone has a level of acceptance and being used this guy sounds so corny he doesnt believe he's even asking of you not to date or talk to dudes while he's only your friend the nerve of him,i would just relax and see what's going to happen cause this dude sounds like he wanna be playa playa and that's from wayback like the 90's let that zero alone your so much deserving of better