Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

LissnBeenzB · #1 08-01-2012, 09:37 PM

Don't you Sometimes wish that your man was around to fix a wrong done to you? Tonight a "friend" of ours, who mind you, has not sent one word of support or even a hello to my man since he's been gone (28 months), disrespected me tonight in front of many people. A few hours later when my boyfriend called I told him what happened and he told me, "he's lucky I wasn't there." It's driving me nuts because all I want right now is for my prince charming to jump on his white horse and defend his lady's honor! But there's absolutely zero that he can do for me.
Have any of you had similar situations where someone treated you like crap or talked down to you and all you want is for your man to be home so he could pop them?! Feeling sooo frustrated right now!!!!!

Honeypopbee · #2 08-01-2012, 09:46 PM

Lol don't we all think like this darling? Everytime I'm upset i just wish my boo was home so that he could comfort me and handle situations. But our Prince Charmings need us to be the Queen and handle it like a lady. Shrug it off girl, they disrespected Jesus Christ so they will disrespect you ;-)

**Patty** · #3 08-01-2012, 10:22 PM

LOL I want my man to come home and NOT pop anyone actually.

mandarose · #4 08-01-2012, 11:38 PM

I've felt that way recently.. I even stupidly out of anger told my ex best friends baby daddy.. that my name needed to stay out peoples mouths because he wasn't gone forever and he don't play that.. though I'd want him to handle some Jerk I rather he didn't.. because might cause him to be back where he is now :/ so that's no good nor makes sense!!?.... -_-

Klewis · #5 08-01-2012, 11:48 PM

I never put myself in a situation were I need my man to come and save me. If anything I am actually trying to work on going off on people so that when my man do come home he don't find himself in certain situations that can land him back in prison. I am a big girl so thankfully ain't no one just coming out and disrespecting me and not getting told exactly which ass cheek to kiss, but I am sure if my man was home I would handle situations a lot differently just to keep him out of trouble. I hope and pray that we never have an issue like this because in today's world there is always a fool standing by trying to see how fast their teeth can go flying. My man don't put up with disrespect when it comes to me and this is actually one of my biggest fears that he will go back trying to protect me.

nimuay · #6 08-02-2012, 04:10 AM

Not the way I think at all! I don't want anyone messing in my business, including my man. If someone has 'disrespected' me, then two things will happen. One - I will think over what was said/done and decide if it should be dealt with at all. Two - I will feel sorry for whoever did that because they don't have such a good opinion of themselves to be going around trying to climb all over someone else.

That's it. No white knight necessary. And nobody can make me think less of myself if I don't want to. My self-respect is solid enough to weather dings and dents from dingbats.

thatwiz · #7 08-02-2012, 07:27 AM

Pop someone and what? go back to jail. Very wrong attitude and not what he should be around at all-nor even your mindset. Disrespect-forget it-life is too short. Go about your business and stay away from those that cause you drama and there will be no disrespect, if you are around people who don't act that way.

Psychocandy · #8 08-02-2012, 09:11 AM

Nope I dont need or want my man to be popping anyone because of me. I can fight my own battles.

Amanda_UWW · #9 08-02-2012, 09:17 AM

I would never want my man to be put in a situation where he had to "pop" someone.. his freedom is much more important than proving a point to someone...
I don't know about you guys, but I do not want to live this life style EVER again!

Dameon's1nonly · #10 08-02-2012, 09:32 AM

I was feeling the same way last night out at Chick fil a! This old man was just being impatient and rude just all up on me basically evading my personal space and I thought "man if my baby was here this would not have ended well"! So the more I thought about it and realize why I was at Chick fil a in the first and just thanking GOD I've gotten better about my attitude so when my baby does get home I can help be an example to him and help him to work on his! So when he did call while I was still out and I was telling him about it and I'm so glad he was not there! Lord y'allto have pray for my baby! LOL!

bl6ckr0s3 · #11 08-03-2012, 05:20 PM

I completely understand wat u mean. I guess sometimes u'll have those moments. Since they r the 1s inside & we're the 1s outside, it's our own job 2 b cautious & keep others from taking advantage of us. I'm the kinda person who don't take shit from nobody. If somebody continually disrespected u & nobody was there 2 defend u that i can understand. Sometimes u can never rely on somebody b-ing there 4 u but urself. U just learn 2 hang on ur own & defend urself, in the meantime just b careful. People who r supposely ur man's friend that turn the other way, well they ain't a friend. Keep away from that person & don't even talk 2 em no more.

NeverDull · #12 08-03-2012, 06:21 PM

Early on in my man's incarceration my then husband (yes, it was a mess) hit me twice...I have known that man for 20 years and would have never thought that would happen. He didn't hurt me and I didn't call the police. About a month later I woke up to him trying to have sex with me and pushing me against the wall while I pusher back for about 10 minutes crying and begging him to stop. You can imagine how badly I wanted my man there and how utterly frustrated and powerless he felt that he couldn't protect me. But he helped me through it and things are much better now. A part of me is grateful he was locked up because I honestly don't know what he would have done. He's not a violent person at all but he's definitely strong and athletic and I know he was enraged when those things happened. The last thing I would have wanted was him in prison for a violent offense. Anyway, he did come to my rescue in a way by helping me get my spine back and stand up to my husband. He hasn't been a problem since. ;-)

LastOneLeft · #13 08-03-2012, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Patty

LOL I want my man to come home and NOT pop anyone actually.

Yup, yup!! My Ex husband blames my man on our divorce even though I served him with papers 6 months before this relationship started. I have made my guy promise me over and over that if my Ex ever tries to start something he will just walk away.....

InmateLover67 · #14 08-03-2012, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by LissnBeenzB

Don't you Sometimes wish that your man was around to fix a wrong done to you? Tonight a "friend" of ours, who mind you, has not sent one word of support or even a hello to my man since he's been gone (28 months), disrespected me tonight in front of many people. A few hours later when my boyfriend called I told him what happened and he told me, "he's lucky I wasn't there." It's driving me nuts because all I want right now is for my prince charming to jump on his white horse and defend his lady's honor! But there's absolutely zero that he can do for me.
Have any of you had similar situations where someone treated you like crap or talked down to you and all you want is for your man to be home so he could pop them?! Feeling sooo frustrated right now!!!!!

I would be pissed if my fiance was willing to "pop" someone, because that would send him back on a violation.....this is hard enough, I do not need him getting his ass into trouble, plus, he trusts me to take care of situations that make me uncomfortable....And, I do not put myself in those types of situations.....if I was, I would handle it as a mature woman and not involve him in it in any way. He would know about it, but I would not want him to step in and do something stupid.

Peace~

Purplegirl1008 · #15 08-03-2012, 07:01 PM

Oh I already know he's gonna take care of some business when he gets home. I told him a few weeks back how a friend was taking advantage of me, and he said "She's only doing that cuz I'm not there!" I know he's going to be very protective when he gets out. He may be short but I know he's gonna kick some ass when he comes home! (figuratively, not literally)

Mz*DlOc · #16 08-03-2012, 07:13 PM

Lol just had this conversation today.. Talking bout he wished he was here cause he would slap the sh*t out of a few people.. He's so crazy, it's nothing that I can't handle myself, he just hates the fact of his family being messed w over some stupid sh*t!!

Davidswifey11 · #17 08-03-2012, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Patty

LOL I want my man to come home and NOT pop anyone actually.

Lol I agree! Iam a big girl I can handle someone disrespecting me its just words... my husbands freedom means more to me then him "popping" someone cause of what they said just my thoughts

Tela · #18 08-03-2012, 08:06 PM

Nah...i understand how u feel...BUT ive thought about how I would handle sumn like this IF it happened and ive arrived at the conclusion that I JUST WANNA GET HIS BLACK ASS HOME AND KEEP HIM HERE! So I wudnt even "enlighten" him to no bullshit...ive always been a "pistol" but now considering who im about to marry...yeah gurlfriend is going to learn to "rise above" assholes "antics"..Cus shid wud get REAL...REAL QUICK! We aint tryna fugg with the DOC on no level EVA AGAIN! ya feel me?

S&F1403 · #19 08-03-2012, 08:18 PM

I don't want my husband to literally get violent with someone, but I do miss having and knowing without question that someone has my back at all times. There have been many moments when I thought, "Wow if my hubby had been here I would have never had been treated like that, or that would have never happened." But because of him and all the years when he was out on the streets and obviously inside I found my own inner strength to learn to stand up for myself by seeing how he wasn't afraid to handle situations. We meet when i was 19 and I'm 30 now and I still remember him saying, "You need to stop letting people walk all over you, you're a strong woman and I will always stand up for you but what happens if their is a time I'm not around." obviously he didn't mean he'd be in jail but hey..... now I stand up for myself if it's needed and let things go when it's not worth my time. But there have been times where I've felt uncomfortable physically around someone and knew if my husband was there it would take just one look for that situation to be resolved (he's a big guy LOL).... but until then I have to hold it down

Tela · #20 08-03-2012, 08:23 PM

Oh Klew!!! I tell ya..u slay me!! U got ur gurl ova here grinning from ear ta ear at wrk tryna NOT laugh out loud so folk dont think ive lost my marbles!! ===>> "because in todays world theres always a fool standing by trying to see how fast their teeth can go flying"... ah -Tee-hee-hee!!!! Thank you for that one! But I agree nothing overrides ya mans freedom.

LissnBeenzB · #21 08-05-2012, 06:49 AM

I think I may have used the wrong word and because of it was misunderstood. I would never want my man to get sent back to jail over hitting some piece of crap no good scum bag of a person. I just would like some no good scum of the earth people to get a good hard look at themselves and a nice dose of "you know where to go" from a 6'4 225 pound man!!

CVicioso89 · #22 08-05-2012, 11:05 AM

Meh my husband is well known and feared I try to keep a lot of the chatter from him bc I know what will happen he constantly says he's not dead and everyone will have to pay him soon. But I'd rather him just relax I know as soon as he's out they will be kissing his ass all I want him to remember is they left him when he was helpless and for him to repay them in the same way he supported many ppl in the community n he doesn't have to punch them just show them how it feels to be hungry

**LeBeau** · #23 08-05-2012, 01:13 PM

Nope.
I don't need or want my "honor " defended. (Defended against what? My integrity and honor cannot be diminished by anyone's acts but my own)
I can generally manage my own affairs just fine and strongly prefer NOT to have anyone else jump in, partly because it only adds drama and escalates any problems and partly because it would make it appear that I need protection or defending, thereby painting a target on my back if I'm out and about on my own.

samazing · #24 08-05-2012, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Patty

LOL I want my man to come home and NOT pop anyone actually.

Totally agree!! He is so darn protective... He won't allow anyone at all to disrespect me! I can be passive and just let it slide because I HATE confrontation/issues whereas he's quick to attack the problem or make it into something it totally isn't!