Are there any young girls having a relationship with someone incarcerated?

[Honeypopbee]

Im 22 years old and my Boyfriend is 30 .. i have to wait 14 years for a parole hearing! Im very hopeful lol. My advice to the young ladies struggling with acceptance from family and friends is ... we are all at the stage of our lives where we are making our own families as well as continuing our existing family relationships. Approval is not necessary, you are grown and if you're happy then everyone else should be too!

Heres to being young, beautiful and knowing what we want!

[pookiepoo]

I will be 21 on the 20th my babe is 31 its a mwi situation and we have no idea if/when she will be released

[Babii214]

I will be 22 September and he turns 34...age is only a number

[ForbiddenloveTC]

I am fixing to turn 25 in September and my bf is 41. When I first met him he was 36. I thought he was in his 20s because he looks good for his age! Can't help who you fall in love with!

[sartainme]

Im 19, turning 20 this month! & my boo is 27. we've been together since i was 17 & he was 25. Going on 3 years next month! (: We have the most precious little girl together! Unfortunately he was locked up only 9 days b4 she was born. So, of course it's been hard! But it def. gets easier! Stay busy & consumed in what makes you happy & it'l fly by. Been 18 months already! & have only about 18 more left until he comes home! We could't be more happy!

[samazing]

I am 19, my fiance 34. I was 16 when he first went to jail (different incarceration) and we were 2000+ miles apart, never even met. Our three year anniversary is next week I love this man. I would advise against young girls doing this. I know I am different than most (not that you aren't) and can handle this incarceration and the responsibility of having him home to help him with things. Most 19 year olds are looking for the next party to attend and still stuck in highschool-esque drama. I was mistaken for 26 at work today.... No one realizes how truly young I am lol. Everyone is different and we are beings of reason... We choose and we feel and we act.

[rachxmarie]

Ill be 19 next week , so far inlove with my boyfriend who has 7 years.. & he's 23. ill b 25 when he gets out , he'll be 30.... age has no limit.<3

[Ejsqueenest_03]

Originally Posted by Honeypopbee

Im 22 years old and my Boyfriend is 30 .. i have to wait 14 years for a parole hearing! Im very hopeful lol. My advice to the young ladies struggling with acceptance from family and friends is ... we are all at the stage of our lives where we are making our own families as well as continuing our existing family relationships. Approval is not necessary, you are grown and if you're happy then everyone else should be too!

Heres to being young, beautiful and knowing what we want!

Thanks. I needed that because his family is giving me a hard time

[jonmur60]

Originally Posted by Angelica.Wilson

I am 17 years old, turning 18 in July and my man is 19, incarcerated for a murder. We used to date in high school and I've always had a strong connection to him. We would ride around with each other all the time holding hands.. when he was 17 he was in juvie and I was the only person who wrote him. Now that he's in jail, we've reconnected and although we're young, we feel that there's no one else. I have a 1 month old baby by someone else and he cares for him like he's his own. Now that we wanna get married, his mom is fine with it but my mom thinks its foolish. Love has no age limit...

I am a prior inmate and a lot older than you Angie, but I can tell you that your devotion to "your man" is something that He really needs being where he is now.
You can't even imagine how much it means to Him there in the new world he is living in. Its very hard when mail call comes around day after day and they never call your name, so try to write him as much as possible, that will always give him something to look forward to. With him being very young (and you too), this time has to feel like "forever" and "ever". Time changes as you grow older and just fly's by.
I can understand why your Mom is not really for this relationship and if you try to put yourself in her shoes you will too. Parents want the best for their Kids and being married to someone that will most likely will remain incarcerated for many years to come doesn't really have much to offer, except love, but love doesn't provide real companionship when your always apart, love doesn't provide a father figure for your kid when he's not there, love doesn't pay the bills and keep you and the child secure in life financially, so its going to be very hard for you, and your mom knows this and thats why she's against this, try to understand this with an open mind and make your decisions carefully in life, thinking about your future and the future of your child of course.
Its still very important to write your man and remain there for him, whether you continue to be "together" or Just Friends" in the future, he needs your support to help him get through this. Good luck there Kid !

[DJzGirl]

I'm 36 and let me tell you, ppl still say the same things! I can understand though, when talking to a young woman who says she will stand by her man for 10 years and she is only 17. From this end it seems like she is wasting her life. In our minds, looking back, those were the years when you have fun, have fewer responsibilities, can be spontaneous, are discovering yourself, etc. And it seems that when you are devoted to a man who is locked up, that you will lose that time in your life. I'm not saying that is true, but we really do gain wisdom as we age. We ALL think we know about life and then 10 years later we look back and laugh at what we thought we knew, thinking we know something now. But, 10 years later, we look back again and laugh again. So we always are learning, gaining new experiences. And there is life experience that can only be gotten by living life. So, I think it is understandable that ppl would be concerned by a young woman being so devoted. And, if you can't see that, maybe that is a reflection of your age. That being said, I met my man when I was 17 and he was 18. A year later, I knew he was the one for me. I knew he would forever be the love of my life. Now, if 36 year old me met 17 year old me, I'd have said, "Honey, you're young. You can't possibly be so sure..." But, I sit here saying, yes. I was sure. And it is still true. We were apart for 17 years. And through all that time we still loved each other. Now we are 36 and 37. And we are engaged. He is the love of my life. Still, I can understand ppl's concerns. So I would never say you are too young, but I might be concerned. But, I've been there. And, well, I guess some of us are just blessed to find him early on. So, know that your mom is concerned about you. You are her baby and she will never stop. have 5 kids and was too scared to tell my mom about my fiance! And when I did she blew up and was sooo mad. We haven't spoken about it since. I know that she is concerned about my kids and me. And I assume that as my gets grow up, I will be just as concerned about them.

[Caitlin143]

I am 18, 19 in December, my fiance just turned 19. (:

[LOV3ULOON3Y_831]

My boyfriend at the time got locked up in 2008, sentenced to 19 years when he was 18 and I was 19 (We are a year and 3 months apart in age) He had been 18 for a month when he got locked up. We had been together about a year, we were young but loved each other with a pure puppy love, a love that remains sweet in my memory. I stood by his side for about a year after he got locked up; county visits, phone calls, letters, money on his books, spent time with his fam, everything. Things changed, my life went in another direction with me moving out of state, but the phone calls and letters didn't cease. They slowed down significantly in 2010-2011. It was a mutual thing; I didn't want to promise him something that I knew I wouldn't be able to deliver, he didn't want to hold me back. He and I still kept contact, and I always made sure he was aware of what was going on in my life, I was always honest and truthful with him. He knew of my doings, he knew I was dating and he was ok with it, we were just talking, not actually together. I think it was easier because I couldn't go visit due to my record at the time... Fast forward to 2013 and he's been down 5 years, we've been talking on the phone a lot lately, the letters are regular again, I moved back home to California, I've been putting money on his phone so he can call me every time he has phone time, I've sent him pictures... Last week he told me he loved me and started calling me baby. Took me right back to when I was 19... As a matter of fact, every time I see my phone light up with his picture on it when he calls I feel so happy and excited to talk to him. I can't wait for my visitations to get approved, my record's clear now and it seems like the timing is right for us to finally reunite in person. I haven't seen him since 2008, and in county it was behind glass, now he's at LAC and just the thought of being able to be held in his arms, kissed and hold hands gets me smiling like no other! I get butterflies just thinkin' 'bout it as I type this... People have come in and out of my life but he has remained constant. I just take it one day at a time. I love him and he knows it. I know he loves me too. I don't think the love we have for each other will ever cease...