Welcome - Introductions

[honeycombed]

Originally Posted by closer2mydreamz

Hi Honeycombed i am in tx 2! welcome 2 PTO

Hi Closer. Thanks for the welcome. I don't think your story is weird at all. That episode was the most moving one yet, and the women were so real. They were tough, but they had a lot of heart. I remember one part where they were doing their one on ones, and I saw tears shining in one of the women's eyes as she talked about her family on the outside. I was so touched and felt that draw you describe. I'm glad that your inmate wrote you back.

I'm still waiting on my letter. I actually wrote her one another yesterday, just putting everything out there. How I feel about her, how I want to be there for her, how her past doesn't matter, etc. If I don't hear back, I'll just have to move on, but at least she knows the truth. If she does write me back, I'll definitely post about it.

[closer2mydreamz]

Originally Posted by honeycombed

Hi Closer. Thanks for the welcome. I don't think your story is weird at all. That episode was the most moving one yet, and the women were so real. They were tough, but they had a lot of heart. I remember one part where they were doing their one on ones, and I saw tears shining in one of the women's eyes as she talked about her family on the outside. I was so touched and felt that draw you describe. I'm glad that your inmate wrote you back.

I'm still waiting on my letter. I actually wrote her one another yesterday, just putting everything out there. How I feel about her, how I want to be there for her, how her past doesn't matter, etc. If I don't hear back, I'll just have to move on, but at least she knows the truth. If she does write me back, I'll definitely post about it.

I am just cheesing thinking about. Her tears melted my heart! I waited almost a month before I contacted her, but as soon as I wrote she wrote back about 2 weeks later. I hope you get a reply soon, I bet she will be very happy to hear from u! Keep me posted!!!

[laura147026]

Hello all... My name is Laura. My wife, I wish we could be married, is in Clark County Jail, WI at the moment. Ugh... I have to say not for long but I'm still a mess without her. I found this forum through a search for t-netix, the prison phone system. I'm trying to get calls from her on my cell phone. As it turns out, someone had my phone number before me and had an account with them with a past due balance. They are making me prove that my phone is mine. I have had this number since 12/07 and they are telling me that someone had an account with my phone this year. IMPOSSIBLE. I haven't known anyone in jail until now. Anyone know anything about the phone system??? I'm so lost.. Laura

[trick]

Welcome to PTO Laura!

[trick]

Ole retired gay fart here and yes that is really me waving in the animated photo. I introduced myself many years ago here, so I felt an update is necessary. My name is LEE.

I reside in St. Louis and I am originally from Arkansas. I've never been in prison, but I have been writing one inmate since 2004 and we are friends, nothing more. I also operate a pen pal site for gay inmates. Those are my connections and interests concerning inmates and the prison system. I always get the question why did I start the site. ANSWER: I have all this computer equipment and I wanted to do something positive.

My interests include photography, travel [can't afford it these days ], Internet, computers, staying above water financially, architecture, web design, seeking out good deals a la thrift stores, yard sales, watching movies [moving past 2,100 in watching those], politics, media.

I've vacationed in Mexico, Paris, France, Key West, Mykonos Island in the Greek Agean Sea.

I am a former print journalist who worked for numerous newspapers all located in the South. I've met or interviewed numerous governors, movie stars, 4-star generals and one presidential contender.

[Ex-Con w/Homies]

Hi there I'm new. I was locked up from Jan-Dec '10. Made lots of friends along the way and now I'm bere to support them

[Ken]

Welcome all!!!

[trick]

Welcome to PTO

Originally Posted by Ex-Con w/Homies

Hi there I'm new. I was locked up from Jan-Dec '10. Made lots of friends along the way and now I'm bere to support them

[ilovemygf1978]

Hey my name is michelle...my girlfriend is currently doing a long time in VSPW in California... It has been a long and hard road for both of us but i can say that i have found my soul mate it has been 5 long years but i know there will be an end in site to this wait. I hope to get to know others like me so it is not so lonely out here and I know i am not the only one waiting...

[closer2mydreamz]

Originally Posted by ilovemygf1978

Hey my name is michelle...my girlfriend is currently doing a long time in VSPW in California... It has been a long and hard road for both of us but i can say that i have found my soul mate it has been 5 long years but i know there will be an end in site to this wait. I hope to get to know others like me so it is not so lonely out here and I know i am not the only one waiting...

Hi Michelle Welcome to PTO, glad to have you here. This is a awesome site! A lot of nice and helpful people here.

[charlieb1488]

Greetings: Charlie here. I spent 8 years in the California Department of Corrections. Although I am gay I was closeted while in prison. I shaved my head while in county jail and when I got to prison was asked by the skinheads if I was a skinhead. I said "yes" and immediately fell in with them. It was amazing how easily it was to fit in and eventually become one of their leaders. Regardless of the outward appearance and rhetoric, many of the skinheads had no problem with gay encounters. Because I recognized that I had to stay above any suspicion I never had any sexual contact with any of the "comrades." I was even validated by prison authorities as a leader of the skins and given an indeterminate SHU term. While in the SHU I was involved in making decisions that affected skinheads throughout the CDC. Thinking back it was such a surreal experience. I have been out since 2003 and keep in touch with only a couple of the guys. I bought a house, regained my right to vote, and try to keep up on issues relevant to the prison system. I was happily surprised to see this forum. If anyone is curious about my experience or may be able to benefit from it, shoot me a message and I will make a good faith effort to answer your questions.

[Durhamguy45]

Hey everyone! I just joined this forum/site yesterday and very glad I did. A little about me: Recently decided to take the plunge and reach out to be a pen pal, which I wanted to do for a long time. I've been a little disappointed in the results thus far & reading your posts & stories have really helped! As the saying goes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the Prince, lol. After reaching out and writing several inmates ( one who decided to pass my letter on to other inmates, instead of saying he wasn't interested in being my pen pal) I have seemed to connect with one young man who has a year left on his sentence. We have been writing for four months now and his letters have gotten more open ( and longer, first only one page now four) and he hasn't asked me for a thing. We'll see how it goes He did mention in his last letter that he would like to talk on the phone sometime, but it would have to be a collect call to me.


I did have a friend in prison many years ago and went to visit him a few times. He had an addiction to cocaine and was a wild man, never stole from me but would try to borrow money, bought him food at times, etc. Long story short he was incarcerated twice while I knew him, the 2nd time seemed to really kick his ass in gear. During and after his release he got clean, had a good job, found a woman he loved and got married, now they have 2 kids. He came to see me one day and said he wanted to thank me for my visits while he was incarcerated and for my letters. His family had enough of his antics and cut him off, and my support was very helpful in his recovery. He brought me a gift and cash, saying that it was thanks for all the times I bought him food when he was down and out, and for when he tried to play me. We've lost touch since ( living in different states) but I think of him and am so very glad that he turned his life around. Oh I don't mean it to come off like I am a saint or something, lol, all the facts are true and accurate.

Again I'm so glad to have found this site and will be posting more, possibly asking questions and your opinions. My reason for wanting to be a pen pal was not looking for love or a friendship really, just to reach out and offer some support.

[Ken]

Welcome and hope your experience is a positive one. Good on you for reaching out to help and support.

[MrsDCenault]

Originally Posted by Durhamguy45

Hey everyone! I just joined this forum/site yesterday and very glad I did. A little about me: Recently decided to take the plunge and reach out to be a pen pal, which I wanted to do for a long time. I've been a little disappointed in the results thus far & reading your posts & stories have really helped! As the saying goes you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find the Prince, lol. After reaching out and writing several inmates ( one who decided to pass my letter on to other inmates, instead of saying he wasn't interested in being my pen pal) I have seemed to connect with one young man who has a year left on his sentence. We have been writing for four months now and his letters have gotten more open ( and longer, first only one page now four) and he hasn't asked me for a thing. We'll see how it goes He did mention in his last letter that he would like to talk on the phone sometime, but it would have to be a collect call to me.


I did have a friend in prison many years ago and went to visit him a few times. He had an addiction to cocaine and was a wild man, never stole from me but would try to borrow money, bought him food at times, etc. Long story short he was incarcerated twice while I knew him, the 2nd time seemed to really kick his ass in gear. During and after his release he got clean, had a good job, found a woman he loved and got married, now they have 2 kids. He came to see me one day and said he wanted to thank me for my visits while he was incarcerated and for my letters. His family had enough of his antics and cut him off, and my support was very helpful in his recovery. He brought me a gift and cash, saying that it was thanks for all the times I bought him food when he was down and out, and for when he tried to play me. We've lost touch since ( living in different states) but I think of him and am so very glad that he turned his life around. Oh I don't mean it to come off like I am a saint or something, lol, all the facts are true and accurate.

Again I'm so glad to have found this site and will be posting more, possibly asking questions and your opinions. My reason for wanting to be a pen pal was not looking for love or a friendship really, just to reach out and offer some support.

i glad you are someone support. just be careful. good luck!!

[MrsDCenault]

Hi my name is dandrea, my gf/wife just got 6 years. I dont know how i am going to do this time with her. We got 2 kids and it is driving me crazy. She was in county for 3 months and i am going insane not hearing from her. She just got sent to Rockville on Thursday. I dont knw how long it will be to hear from her. 6years is a long time with out my better worst half.

[perrychasteen]

Hello. My name is Perry and I am new to all of this. I was incarcerated for only 4 months but I feel in love, seriously. I have been communicating with my "husband" everyday since I left. We talk an hour everyday. I am in love with him. This seems crazy to me. I never thought in a million years that I would find love like this. We are still getting to know each other and are having some troubles coping. There are days like today that I think is this all worth it. Then I see his face or hear his voice. I MELT....I need some advice on all of this....can someone help me?

[Scott]

Originally Posted by perrychasteen

Hello. My name is Perry and I am new to all of this. I was incarcerated for only 4 months but I feel in love, seriously. I have been communicating with my "husband" everyday since I left. We talk an hour everyday. I am in love with him. This seems crazy to me. I never thought in a million years that I would find love like this. We are still getting to know each other and are having some troubles coping. There are days like today that I think is this all worth it. Then I see his face or hear his voice. I MELT....I need some advice on all of this....can someone help me?

Perry - what specifically is your question? What you are describing is pretty endemic to the early stages of most relationships. It's normal - can you be a little more specific with what it is you need help with?

[emilythomas]

Hi all! My name is Emily and my wife is currently in jail awaiting her sentencing on December 13th. We are in different states and well, it just sucks! It's about $20 a phone call as of right now so we only get to talk once a week (really makes you realize how much we can take advantage of modern day communication!) I am currently looking into prepaid phones where I can change the number though and it not cost me an arm and a leg. Anyways she is going to be going to federal prison from anywhere between 30 to 72 months. I am flying in for her sentencing and it just so happens the facility she will be at the day before allows visitors on Wednesdays so I am try to get a flight in where I can get my rental and go straight to see her but we have to get it all figured out first. This is the longest we've been apart....I just don't know what to think and I'm so blind in this situation because I've never even been to court for my speeding ticket I just paid those things off. Her lawyers been more than helpful though and I have full rights to the case....I just miss her and sometimes even though we have loads of pictures....sometimes I can't remember her face and it really really hurts.anyways....hello im emily....and this sucks

[newsgirl205]

Hi guys...I'm new to PTO and just discovered this particular forum today. The love of my life is currently serving 9 months in what's called an RCF (Regional Correctional Facility) in south Arkansas. Basically, it's similar to a prison, but operates more like a very structured drug rehab facility. She was in a county jail for two weeks then transferred to the RCF about two weeks ago, so we're both still new at this. We basically spent every minute together since we met, so being apart at all is driving me absolutely insane! I know 9 months may not seem like a lot to some of you, but to me, it feels like forever. I'm absolutely lost without her! She's finally settling in to her new place, so at least now she's able to call me almost every day-- assuming I can afford it, which is a whole different topic, I suppose. When she called yesterday, it was her first call without being required to be on speakerphone, so it was the first time she could really talk with any amount of privacy. She was kind of freaking out because apparently she became immediately "popular" in the new place. She's a beautiful girl with a definite "boyish" charm-- just one of the many reasons I fell in love with her. She said she's made it perfectly clear to everyone there that she's in love and very off limits, but she sounded understandably uncomfortable....and I guess, so am I. I trust her completely, but I still worry that she could find herself in an ugly situation. How do I cope with worrying about her while at the same time, find a way to manage my complete and total loneliness while she's gone?

[suko99]

Hi,

My name is Suko. My partner has just received a sentence to be served at FMC Carswell. It has come as a shock to us all although her case has been pending for some time. We (her family & friends) are very concerned about her as she is not a well person. She has a number of physical conditions including hip necrosis (degeneration of hip bones) from asthma medications, shoulder replacement which has never been just "right," as well as acute allergic asthma and cardiopulmonary disease. There is also an overlay of mental illness as she has DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder, aka Multiple Personality Disorder).

We are all new to this and naturally quite concerned. I'm trying to find out anything I can about Carswell, in particular the hospital and the kind of treatment patients receive. To be quite honest, never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be participating on a prison email forum but I am happy to see this kind of forum exists. Please if anyone has any information about this prison I would certainly appreciate your input.

Suko

[kstarling]

Hey, my name is Randy. My life partner is incarcerated at Century CI in Florida. He has til 2020. My prison has no bars but it is just as real. I'm totally committed to him and our life together. No one will ever understand the pain and ache of having a loved one in prison until they experience it. I cannot describe the feelings of loneliness and wanting that flood my being daily. I cannot even kiss him when I go to visitation for fear of retaliation on him from fellow inmates and correctional officers. No bars but in prison.

[clipclop]

I need some help finding a parole lawyer that is really gay friendly and understanding. My fiance is up for parole again next year in Texas and we are ready to get on with our lives. Thanks

[CenTexLyn]

Originally Posted by clipclop

I need some help finding a parole lawyer that is really gay friendly and understanding. My fiance is up for parole again next year in Texas and we are ready to get on with our lives. Thanks

Generally speaking, the competent attorneys in Texas who do parole are going to do the same level of work regardless of whether the client is gay or straight. And, believe it or not, even most of the Board Members and Parole Commissioners don't get the heebie-jeebies about it...I've worked with some of them in the past so they knew me both when single or when I was in a relationship.

[darkncade]

Hi, I just found this site. My name is cadence my boyfriend always seems to be in jail or prison but I love him so a little about us we are both transmen and Jay currently has 7 months before he gets out and then he has to go away for another 2 and I think that's a good introduction

[Mike1963]

Originally Posted by darkncade

Hi, I just found this site. My name is cadence my boyfriend always seems to be in jail or prison but I love him so a little about us we are both transmen and Jay currently has 7 months before he gets out and then he has to go away for another 2 and I think that's a good introduction

Welcome to the glbt forum here on Pto cadence