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MyBookins · #26 07-31-2012, 07:59 PM

(iceony) I was pretty much in the same position only that my bf isnt mwi but my mother and I have never gotten along and this was just one more reason for her to bash my life decisions in order to mask her lifetime of mistakes as much as it hurt I chose to walk away knowing that she would never come around to the idea because even before him its like she hated to hear of anyones happiness so I did what I always do "i prayed" and I moved on and what do you know 2 years later out of nowhere I get a phonecall from ol' grumpy gills herself asking how he was and how things were going with his appeal. Mind u it was a really awkward conversation but nonetheless she was putting in effort

I wish u the best!!!

Iceony76 · #27 08-06-2012, 04:00 AM

J&Loct15

That is what I have done also. Pray and let it go. I would have to trust that God will work everything out in the end. I'm just over the whispers, judgement, and stares, that was once an alright family dynamic. I just have to see what happens when I move away...thanks for responding!

Iceony76 · #28 11-14-2012, 10:54 AM

Update: it's been six months and my father has not spoken to me since my mom told him that I have a MWI. Since then I've been dealing with some health issues and he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. My mom says I'm dead to him. That makes me sad. The holidays are coming up and I always spend it with my fathers side of the family. Now half of them stopped speaking to me. What I'm hurt the most about is that he never heard my story. All his info come from my mother and she's never really spoke to me about my guy. What she knows she's twisted around and told my dad. Thi I a mess.

Taywifey · #29 11-14-2012, 05:09 PM

This situation is similar to minds, I have been with my man for almost 4 years now and I'm almost 30 years old and my mother know about my man being in prison, and she doesn't approve of it, because she feels he is taking advantage of me financially, because I guess she think guys in prison are giving us all the good words we want to hear so they can con us into giving them money. After being with an inmate for almost 4 years I'm nervous because he has been in prison for 8 years and he has been in this negative environment for so long I wonder how will adjust to the outside world and how are relationship will surivive through the adjustments. My man's family is supportive of our relationship. I was thinking if my man only motive is trying to take advantage of me then wouldn't his family not know anything about me and would he constantly keep me behind close doors. God help us and guide us where you think is right for us. I want my family to respect and support me but if they can't then I have to accept my family not being in my life. GOD HELP ME!!!

Iceony76 · #30 11-14-2012, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Taywifey

This situation is similar to minds, I have been with my man for almost 4 years now and I'm almost 30 years old and my mother know about my man being in prison, and she doesn't approve of it, because she feels he is taking advantage of me financially, because I guess she think guys in prison are giving us all the good words we want to hear so they can con us into giving them money. After being with an inmate for almost 4 years I'm nervous because he has been in prison for 8 years and he has been in this negative environment for so long I wonder how will adjust to the outside world and how are relationship will surivive through the adjustments. My man's family is supportive of our relationship. I was thinking if my man only motive is trying to take advantage of me then wouldn't his family not know anything about me and would he constantly keep me behind close doors. God help us and guide us where you think is right for us. I want my family to respect and support me but if they can't then I have to accept my family not being in my life. GOD HELP ME!!!

I'm with you. I pray everyday that (1) he gets out (2) he sticks to his goals and stays out of trouble (3) he stands by his word to me. This is a big sacrifice that I am willing to make. He even know that. It is all in Gods hands. It's going to be a big adjustment for him and for me to be used to if it comes down to it. Ultimately my family made their decision about me already. Blessings to you and your honey!

Iceony76 · #31 02-16-2013, 07:25 AM

Update..... My dad came around and is now speaking to me after 10 months. We are on the mend however we haven't spoken about babe at all. I don't talk to my mom about him because she doesn't want to have anything to do with my relationship (really sad). I'm happy that my dad and I are trying to work things out. I missed him terribly. My mother and I just need some distance. We have always been strained and the news of my relationship has made it much worse. There are other issues with her that has made everything overall difficult so, when the time comes and he and I are finally together, she won't see that much of me. Sad...but I have to live my own life.