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calicat25 · #1 08-08-2012, 06:23 PM

My MWI for the last 15 months transferred unexpectedly a few weeks ago. I haven't heard from him since then. I assumed it was orientation and waiting fir his property etc. I got a call from his former cellmate. I assumed he was given my number so he could tell me what was going on with my guy. Well he asked me if I was I loved ....or was in love with so and so. He said be honest. I said yes I was in love with him. He said wow really I didn't think it was like that and I lived with the guy. He basically led me to believe he had other women taking care of him..writing etc but never actually said that. He said that's for you two to work out and he doesn't want to be the one to say anything but.....think about it and gave examples for me to now over analyse. He said he gave me your number didn't he.....that should tell you something. Then asked if he can call me from time to time or if I wanted to write him and be friends.
So this was my biggest fear. I had even discussed it with my MWI and said just be honest and if its just help or mail etc you want just say that but don't be one of those guys in prison I hear about. So my mind is racing and feel foolish if this is true.....any thoughts suggestions or words of wisdom to get through this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for letting me vent atleast. If I tell any friends...I will hear "told you not to get involved with a guy in prison ".

Miss_A · #2 08-08-2012, 06:30 PM

Girl, I wouldn't believe a thing his former celly said! All he's trying to do is come in between you and your MWI so that he can take his place. If your MWI hasn't given you any reason to doubt him, then don't start now.

Klewis · #3 08-08-2012, 06:34 PM

First of all I would not believe nothing this guy said and maybe that makes me a fool but there is always reasonable doubt. How you know your guy did not give this guy your number to call you to let you know that he had left and to give you a message. Then how dumb of this guy if it was true how dare him ask you right after if its okay if he call from time to time. Like what is he trying to do jump on where your guy left off. I mean that shows just how trifilin he is right there. A better approach would have been just to tell you what he needs to tell you and then maybe wait a month or so and then call you back and then ask you that, not that I would say yes to him then either. I would look in to this more maybe pull your guy up and find out where he was transferred and write him and ask him whats up with his foolishness. I am so sorry your going through this because 15 months is a long time. I hope you figure out something soon.

MKatrinaToo · #4 08-08-2012, 06:44 PM

Do. Not. Believe. the. Celly. I would not tell the celly ANYTHING--YOU ask the questions of celly; don't you answer HIS. Let the celly run at the mouth--he will reveal himself, if he hasn't already.

I know this is a tough situation--one or both--could be running game. I cannot offer advice other than that--I am sorry.

Use your head, intuition and heart.

Good Luck

**OffenderNoMore** · #5 08-08-2012, 06:50 PM

Please do not believe the former celly. To tell the truth is sounds like the game a lot of the girls I was locked up with used to play. Their friend would leave them the number to call family and instead of doing just that, the celly would try to hook up with them instead. Chances are that is what this joker is trying to do. Follow the advice of the others before me, try to locate your man and tell him what's up. See what he says because quite bluntly, that was a line of crap if I have ever one and I have heard a whole lot of them.

tyreens_wifey79 · #6 08-08-2012, 06:59 PM

Don't listen to what the celly is saying. Jmo he's just trying to get in between

rainweaver2002 · #7 08-08-2012, 07:03 PM

Don't listen to the celly; he could just be running his mouth. 15 months is a long time. Try and find out about your MWI. Good luck!

MissVal1920 · #8 08-08-2012, 07:14 PM

I've seen the same scenario on here a few times and 99.9843% of the time, the celly is running game to get what he was gettin'. Wait to talk to your man.

tripsgirl · #9 08-08-2012, 07:56 PM

Ohhh girl been there went through that.
I can't tell you that the guy isn't telling the truth - cause he may be - but at the same time don't be so quick to listen.
My man had his 'friend' call me to tell me that he had left county to go to reception... the guy ended up tellin me that my man was talkin and writing to other girls and that he talked shit about me. Then all of a sudden this dude was calling me EVERY SINGLE DAY. That's how it starts - they wanna 'warn' you and look like the good guy.. then they start callin everyday.. then they want you to start sending money. THEY are the users.
I ended it after that phone call - never answered another one of his calls again and talked to my fiancee about it.

**tee.dot.q** · #10 08-08-2012, 08:12 PM

The thing that bothers me about posts like this is how easily some people are swayed against the person they are supposed to be in love and in a relationship with.

Some stranger tells you something that your automatic reaction is to assume that person is telling you the truth? It seems to me that perhaps you didn't have much trust in him all along.

I'm not saying dude is lying or telling the truth - I don't know that. But I do know that before you jump to conclusions that you should be having that discussion with your man.

Best wishes.

Lotus4him · #11 08-08-2012, 08:31 PM

OMG!!! Girl do not listen to the celly! He had easy access to your LOs personal property. They sometimes keep their phone book under the bed and he most likely got your number out of it without him knowing before he transferred if he transferred. Are you sure he had transferred? Check the BOP site and it will tell you were he is at as far as what facility. Also you can call the facility and check on him and see if he is 'ALRIGHT' because you have not heard from him in a while. All you need to do is have his name and register #. Go off your intuition and gut feeling. Dont trust what another inmate is saying. It doesnt sound right. He could be in the SHU and it takes a minute for them to get there personal property to them which can give the celly time to access anything he may have had out unsecure before they took him. Also if this was the case he could have told him to call you to let you know what is going on. When my baby went to the SHU it was unexpected out of no where and he called me somehow and said he was under investigation and he didnt know why and swore he didnt do anything but he could only call once a month, no email, and his phone book was under his bed so if anyone called me to let him know asap. So I would advise you do a little checking before you get all upset and loose it. You control your relationship-you loose control when you allow others to enter in. Best wishes hun and pm me if you need assistance.

missdebbie92025 · #12 08-08-2012, 08:37 PM

When my son was in Arizona his celly was being transfered to another prison and he stole my sons girlfriends address and wrote her told her all kinds of lies.what he didnt know was she was locked up to. My son had no idea until i told him.the letter was sent to her mom.my son now rips up her address so no one can get it.dont believe nothing until there is proof.just my. Thinking is he is not telling the truth if he is trying to hook up with you after one call.he got balls.trust in your man.

Missdebbie. Sent from my DROID2 GLOBAL using PrisonTalk

Critter07 · #13 08-08-2012, 08:51 PM

One of the oldest tricks in the book, girl. I wouldn't give it any credence whatsoever. It would still be nice for you to have an explanation from you man as to why you've not heard from him but I highly doubt it's because of what the former cellie has told you.

calicat25 · #14 08-08-2012, 09:23 PM

He did get transferred to a new facility..I found that out when I went to visit him and they said he got moved a couple days prior. That's why I assumed that the cellie was calling to say hey he got transferred unexpectedly ..feels bad missed your visit etc...that sounds like what my guy would do. That's why I talked to him when he called. I really do think my guy would have been honest with me if things were over. I found out he is in the infirmary it the new place which SCARES me now. Not even sure he will get the stationery..letters and postcards Ive already sent there. I will be a wreck until I talk to him. They said they cannot tell me why he is in the infirmary because he would have had to sign a consent for that.

Psychocandy · #15 08-09-2012, 08:31 AM

So one word from a stranger and your thinking the worst? Come on where is the trust?

pjnjclyn · #16 08-09-2012, 08:40 AM

I think that you should talk to your MWI first before you do anything. There are times that the celly will do things so you can go to him and do for him what you are doing for your LO. It is so sad when people are jealous of what you have. I hope that he will call you soon and you can get everything straightened out.

Rachel C · #17 08-09-2012, 08:56 AM

I'm not saying what the former celly isn't telling the truth but should you just dump your bf before you get your facts straight? IMO no you shouldn't. Let me also tell you this if the guy is genuine he wouldn't have had hit on you by asking if he can call you. I PROMISE you that he doesn't have your best interest at heart. It wasn't his place to do that to begin with. I would proceed with caution but dont jump the gun quite yet. Good luck girly, I'm rooting for this all to be a misunderstanding and that you and your guy can work through this.

InmateLover67 · #18 08-09-2012, 09:22 AM

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Originally Posted by calicat25

My MWI for the last 15 months transferred unexpectedly a few weeks ago. I haven't heard from him since then. I assumed it was orientation and waiting fir his property etc. I got a call from his former cellmate. I assumed he was given my number so he could tell me what was going on with my guy. Well he asked me if I was I loved ....or was in love with so and so. He said be honest. I said yes I was in love with him. He said wow really I didn't think it was like that and I lived with the guy. He basically led me to believe he had other women taking care of him..writing etc but never actually said that. He said that's for you two to work out and he doesn't want to be the one to say anything but.....think about it and gave examples for me to now over analyse. He said he gave me your number didn't he.....that should tell you something. Then asked if he can call me from time to time or if I wanted to write him and be friends.
So this was my biggest fear. I had even discussed it with my MWI and said just be honest and if its just help or mail etc you want just say that but don't be one of those guys in prison I hear about. So my mind is racing and feel foolish if this is true.....any thoughts suggestions or words of wisdom to get through this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for letting me vent atleast. If I tell any friends...I will hear "told you not to get involved with a guy in prison ".

I would never listen to another inmate! Get more information before you conclude anything.

I hope you find out this is not true....if it is, lesson learned, move on and enjoy setting and acheiving goals for yourself.

Peace~

calicat25 · #19 08-09-2012, 01:05 PM

I dont plan on dumping my guy and its not that I dont trust him. I didnt mean to come off like that. Its just this is the first (and only) time Ive been involved with someone in prison and this is still all new to me. He used to speak well of his cellie and always told me he was a good guy. I do believe my guy would be honest with me and I wish I hadnt even taken his cellies call now. But the guy now has my phone number and address and ABSOLUTELY I dont trust HIS ex-cellie and DONT want to form any type of relationship with him. If he tries to call again I will NOT be accepting his call and IF he tries to write I will send back the mail. As soon as I hear from my guy I plan on telling him what happened because he trusted this guy.

Damask8 · #20 08-09-2012, 06:44 PM

This whole situation is really crazy, and from the sound of it all, maybe he is telling the truth, maybe hes not. But for him to call and try to find out if "you're in love with his ex cellie" and then try to get with you, bothers me.

I don't blame you for being weary of this relationship and believing everything you hear, thats all we base things on, after 15 months or 1 month.

Just tread lightly.

juss me6 · #21 08-09-2012, 07:13 PM

Well honestly I would be cursing your mwi out and asking why in the hell the celly had your number to begin with that's a big no no. My man even rips my address off the envelopes and rips it in little pieces. Id be damned if some other man called me.

Miss_A · #22 08-09-2012, 07:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Damask8

This whole situation is really crazy, and from the sound of it all, maybe he is telling the truth, maybe hes not. But for him to call and try to find out if "you're in love with his ex cellie" and then try to get with you, bothers me.

I don't blame you for being weary of this relationship and believing everything you hear, thats all we base things on, after 15 months or 1 month.

Just tread lightly.

Damask, things like this happen ALL THE TIME. I've been a member of this site for close to 6 1/2 years and I can't even begin to count how many times I've seen threads like this one. The ex celly is running game. Plain and simple.

Lotus4him · #23 08-10-2012, 10:53 AM

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Originally Posted by calicat25

He did get transferred to a new facility..I found that out when I went to visit him and they said he got moved a couple days prior. That's why I assumed that the cellie was calling to say hey he got transferred unexpectedly ..feels bad missed your visit etc...that sounds like what my guy would do. That's why I talked to him when he called. I really do think my guy would have been honest with me if things were over. I found out he is in the infirmary it the new place which SCARES me now. Not even sure he will get the stationery..letters and postcards Ive already sent there. I will be a wreck until I talk to him. They said they cannot tell me why he is in the infirmary because he would have had to sign a consent for that.

Im sorry to hear that he is in the infirmary. I pray he gets better. Now you know that there is more to the story and why he hasnt been communicating with you. I feel like the celly knew this. Sadly only family can see him so you will have to pray and wait. Block that celly from calling and you may look at changing your number after you speak to your honey. Best wishes and you and your LO are in my prayers. Big Hug

Lotus4him · #24 08-10-2012, 11:03 AM

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Originally Posted by calicat25

I dont plan on dumping my guy and its not that I dont trust him. I didnt mean to come off like that. Its just this is the first (and only) time Ive been involved with someone in prison and this is still all new to me. He used to speak well of his cellie and always told me he was a good guy. I do believe my guy would be honest with me and I wish I hadnt even taken his cellies call now. But the guy now has my phone number and address and ABSOLUTELY I dont trust HIS ex-cellie and DONT want to form any type of relationship with him. If he tries to call again I will NOT be accepting his call and IF he tries to write I will send back the mail. As soon as I hear from my guy I plan on telling him what happened because he trusted this guy.

Sounds like a plan to me, but keep in mind that your info has been compromised so after you speak with him you may look at changing your number. Best wishes

niuyoricanpr · #25 08-10-2012, 12:21 PM

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Originally Posted by calicat25

My MWI for the last 15 months transferred unexpectedly a few weeks ago. I haven't heard from him since then. I assumed it was orientation and waiting fir his property etc. I got a call from his former cellmate. I assumed he was given my number so he could tell me what was going on with my guy. Well he asked me if I was I loved ....or was in love with so and so. He said be honest. I said yes I was in love with him. He said wow really I didn't think it was like that and I lived with the guy. He basically led me to believe he had other women taking care of him..writing etc but never actually said that. He said that's for you two to work out and he doesn't want to be the one to say anything but.....think about it and gave examples for me to now over analyse. He said he gave me your number didn't he.....that should tell you something. Then asked if he can call me from time to time or if I wanted to write him and be friends.
So this was my biggest fear. I had even discussed it with my MWI and said just be honest and if its just help or mail etc you want just say that but don't be one of those guys in prison I hear about. So my mind is racing and feel foolish if this is true.....any thoughts suggestions or words of wisdom to get through this would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for letting me vent atleast. If I tell any friends...I will hear "told you not to get involved with a guy in prison ".

Dont believe a word, its all lies. I know of a lot of gf n wives went thru this same situation, including me. Don't write or accept any phone calls from him. They play these games. Be blessed!