Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

Marine_Wife · #51 08-08-2012, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Firebrand

I’m sure for many of us, we often think back to the last time we saw our brothers or sisters before they were incarcerated. What do you remember about them the last time you saw them out here?

The last time I saw my older brother was in the winter of 1983. We were both in Santa Rosa, California at the time and little did we know that it’d be last time we’d see each other. I went back to Dallas about 4 months later and he went to prison there in California about 6 months after we saw each other that chilly day more than 28 years ago. It was a hard time for us both. A murder he’d committed back in 1981 would finally catch up with him and in spite of the years that have come and gone, I can still see him standing in the street beside the house he stayed at during that time. For me, I would be asked to leave the state of California with the understanding that I’d never come back. I’d been in my share of hot water, as well. I was 23 at that time and Vernon was 30. As I write this, he is now 57 and I am 50. We stay in close touch and we’re both very much aware of the fact that most everyone else is gone now. Our bond is close as brothers and I’m grateful to have him.

wow this is truly sad. I am glad you 2 still hold a great relationship after so many years. Inmates need family that will always stick by their side through thick and thin. My baby brother just recently went in. It has been a month since we actually got to touch him, hug him. it is very hard for us. I am crying as I write this. I am so grateful for this website. Unless you have someone locked up, no one will ever understand the hurt and pain caused by the walls that separate you and your loved ones.

*Firebrand* · #52 08-09-2012, 11:12 PM

thanks for the kind thoughts & words. Yes, it is important to understand the world we live in as PTO members and what we each are faced with where our loved ones are concerned. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

Soudy · #53 09-21-2012, 09:19 AM

interesting post! the last time i saw my brother in the free world must have been 10 years ago! wow does the time fly! i try to keep intouch from time to time however they have relocated him numerous times and it gets even more difficult to search for him or even to stay in communication, i saw an ad somewhere with the ability to email him, i googled email an inmate and saw a site that does it for like $1.99 per email which isnt to bad, anyone have anyluck using this or similar service? but its been about 10 years since ive seen him in the free world! thanks guys

Marci59 · #54 11-19-2012, 08:01 PM

5 yrs when he was released on bail and my other siblings went to the PA citing fear for their lives..it was awful...like we were on the lamb...he eventually just went back to the county on the condition they would give my mom back her bail money! Now we are looking at many years...he will be 83 and would be 84/85 when released! I try not to resent my other siblings, I have forgiven, but can't forget what they did when he could have been out helping in his defense....God be with us all! So difficult on my mother who is 73!

abanda29 · #55 12-09-2012, 12:53 AM

The last time i seen my bro and cousin out in the free was July 6 2010 My cousin just got in from Houston and my bro came to pick him up....

Sad_Gypsy · #56 01-14-2013, 12:46 PM

Wow, you all are so strong, and I realize how lucky I am that I got the opportunity to see my brother 3 months ago living in a new place, working a good job, and paying for his own food. I suspected it wouldn't last long since it never does, but it was a great visit. We laughed a lot, and I was glad to see him happy for a couple of days.

Roluvsreik3 · #57 02-20-2013, 04:54 PM

It's been about three years since my little brother was home. He was charged with assault with a weapon. He's due home hopefully this year or 2015 he's currently at lakeview shock correctional facility in upstate New York.

tragicsister · #58 03-06-2013, 08:08 AM

The last time I saw my brother was April 6, 2012. I passed him sitting on the couch as I walked outside for a smoke. I remember being mad at him for whatever reason. He was arrested the following morning while I was at work. My mother called me frantically that they were taking him away. I didn't know what was going on, but now I do. Where he is being held there is only video visitation and it is so hard seeing him and not being able to touch him. It's been almost a year, his sentencing is March 13, 2013.

Rlsbby4eva · #59 03-06-2013, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by BigSis129

The last time I saw my brother was dinner at Outback Steakhouse about 6 weeks before he was arrested. I was supposed to drop by and pay him back some $$ I owed him, and a few minutes before I left he texted and told me to wear something decent because he was taking me to dinner. I have 4 kids, so that was an enormous treat!

But the best part was just hanging out with him and being goofy. It's tradition for us to grab coloring books and turn the Word Find into a cutthroat competition. Slip crayons into each other's drinks. Trade colorful insults. Complain about our parents. Talk about our cats.

You know, I had no idea just how ridiculous we are until I just typed that all out and re-read it lol

He's one of my closest friends and I miss him so much.

This one was a funny one.
hope all is well

jrhelv2022 · #60 04-08-2013, 11:54 AM

MyHi I'm new to a lot of this. I saw my brother last 15 months ago at our mom's house. Him and his girlfriend had just told our family that they were expecting their first child. I was excited because I just had my daughter and this would be her first cousin. My brother and I grew up very close to our cousins and were expecting the same for our kids. 2 days later my brother committed the crime that landed him in camden county jail for over a year & now arrived in Yardville nj where he's eligible for parole in may 2022. His daughter will be 12. I'm still in shock over this I think bc even though I visited him for the last year in the county I still can't seem to wrap my head around him being gone for so much & so long. My heart breaks for him. I got my first letter from him today since he's been transferred to garden state youth correctional facility. I can't help but feel some sort of guilt bc I am older and feel this weird responsiblility towards him. How have some of you come to terms with the fact that a sibling will be absent for a number of years?