Am I doing the right thing?

[jazmejia]

Originally Posted by Curt'sLady

Hi everyone,

So, I have done some thinking....and I've come to the conclusion that along the way of me and my man's relationship, I've lost myself. I no longer truly love myself, and I think that while I'm stressing and worrying over him in prison I can't try for myself. I do love my man, I'll always love him til the day I die, but I can't worry for 8 more months. It's physically hurting me, I can feel it, and It's stressing me. I just want to step back, stop dating anyone, and do things for myself. I feel like being that I'm only 19, I need to find a purpose in my life before I find a man for life.
Am I being mean to him, or am I doing the right thing?

You are so strong and powerful! the very fact that your able to recognize that you are lost inwhat the situation is and need to discover your purpose and who you are is huge.your feelings will tell you to hold on and wait but believe me when i tell you that God has something better for you. i have walked in your shoes and know them very well. i was you at 19 and now im 23 and it took me this long to finally be freed from everythng that came with being an inmates wife. if you want some guidance then please message or email me at jscales88@yahoo.com. we are connected because of our situations. until then be strong and of good courage...

[Curt'sLady]

So guys, the relationship is back on actually. Long story short, I did my personal time, and realized how much we were connected. He let me have distance, and I did, and in that I realized that he is essentially my other half. We have a connection that I can't really explain, but it's something that will always bring us back together no matter what...but in my alone time, I realized that my convict is my best friend, my boyfriend, and my hero (He's my hero for being strong and taking the punishments without complaining) So, we got back together, and I'm for once really happy with where I am in life, and my own actions. He's still in jail, but we are working on how he can avoid this trouble once he get's out.

[sidewalker]

Good for you for sorting thru this.
Im gonna close this thread now that this is resolved.