The getting to know you questionnaire

[officeremily]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Lol well that is what they called my at the jail I worked at when I met my fiancé!

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
That is a picture of us when he got out the first time! I was taking him home!

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
He is my fiancé!

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
All together... About 12 on and off. More on than off really.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
2 years this time I think

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Honestly... Guilty.

7. What are the charge(s)?
Parole violation, breaking or entering, theft, and burglary.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Arkansas

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
As often as I can!!

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I like to write him before bed every night. It helps me sleep. Otherwise I just focus on taking care of our baby.

[ArabPiscesBone]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

I'm Algerian, I'm a Pisces, & my nickname is Bone.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

Valentine's Day 2012

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

BF

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

Only 9 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

4 and 1/2 months

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

IDK I wasn't there.

7. What are the charge(s)?

Possession

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

PA

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

3x a week

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

PTO!

Sent from my HTC EVO 4G using PrisonTalk

[MANDI.LICIOUS]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

Mandi Licious is a name my hubby gave me when we were MWI

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

Its a tattoo I got on myfoot last night it says im his ride or die bi@&h

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

I have a hubby 3 BILs friends and pen pals in prison

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

This bid he has been down almost 8 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

If everything goes well my hubby will be in a HWH in 10 months

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

Guilty as Convicted

7. What are the charge(s)?

Conspiracy to posses with intent to deliver Marijuana

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

South Carolina

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

Havent seen him in some time but will be visiting in June

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

I go out on long walks on Saturday mornings with my ipod play all our songs come home cry in the shower then get dolled up n have a girls day get my nails n toes done n my hair

[Aaron's Gurl]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
my user name is my fiances name and im his gurl!!
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
its a pic of us!!!
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
fiance
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
5 long years
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
2 yrs!!
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
GUILTY AS CHARGED
7. What are the charge(s)?
agg robbery- what happens when you are on drugs
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Arkansas
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
every Sunday from noon till 4pm
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! I write him every day and we talk every day!! I also get on this site for support!! I love yall!!!
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[imnluv]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

Im in love

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

Hopefully a change will come & my baby will b able to get out sooner

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

Hopefully soon to be fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

16 long years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

About 40 something (i hate to even think about it

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

Idk. I wasnt there but he says hes innocent & i believe him with all my heart.

7. What are the charge(s)?

Murder

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

VA

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

I don't/can't (mwi-c/o & inmate)

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

I really dont. I pray about it a lot. Thats all i can do. & hope that one day we'll be able to have a life together out here.
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[imnluv]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

Im in love

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

Hopefully a change will come & my baby will b able to get out sooner

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

Hopefully soon to be fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

16 long years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

About 40 something (i hate to even think about it

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

Idk. I wasnt there but he says hes innocent & i believe him with all my heart.

7. What are the charge(s)?

Murder

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

VA

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

I don't/can't (mwi-c/o & inmate)

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

I really dont. I pray about it a lot. Thats all i can do. & hope that one day we'll be able to have a life together out here.
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[missb302]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

My nick name and Birthday

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

We are both Pisces

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

Boyfriend/Fiance/best friend

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

Well he has been in county for 3 years and 4 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

hopefully none trail starts this month

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

Innocent

7. What are the charge(s)?

Murder

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

NJ

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

once a year

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

Talking to his mom, writing, long drives or walks with friends

[GuerosMama]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

My son's skin is white, and his grandparents and dad call him guero.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

The Lord is my savior, and without Him, I could not walk this walk.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

He is my love. My fiance, my son's father, my best friend

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

2 years and 8 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
2 years and 5 months

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

guilty

7. What are the charge(s)?

Battery with a deadly weapon

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
NV

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
When I have the money. I try every month but sometimes its 6-8 months between our visits

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
Reading good books, focusing on becoming closer to the Lord. Focus on bettering myself as a person, and attaining the goals I have while he is there. Music, Music, Music.

[passionpersian]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
I'm Persian and I'm a very passionate person.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Just a pic of me.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
He is my boo!

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
4 1/2 years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
Mere weeks!

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Guilty, but it's complicated (isn't it always?)

7. What are the charge(s)?
Agg. robbery

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
The great state of Texas! :: sarcasm ::

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Monthly

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
Just being here on PTO and knowing that all of you understand!

[143forever]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
143 stands for i love you, hence 'i love you forever'

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Its a picture of myself.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
Ex, sons dad.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
2 years, then out, one year then released out from bootcamp. Now back in. So few years on and off for the last while. Smh lol.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
Hes not sure yet.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Guilty.

7. What are the charge(s)?
B&E, fleaing and eluding, parole violation, and unlawfully driving a vehicle is a possible charge depending if they make him sit what he got out early for last time.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Michigan.

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
I don't.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
No, hes been in and out of my life so much it just feels normal now.

[sheediesel]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
My nickname

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Pic of tattoo: can't lose the feeling- me and the bf got matching ones after I had a seizure and lost my memory.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
His gf

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
100 days ishhh

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
Ped is dec 2 max out is 2014

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Guilty.

7. What are the charge(s)?
Vop (orig possession from 07) vop(orig distribution from 09) falsifying drug test (used fake pee for a drug test while on drug court)

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
New jersey

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Used to visit every week when in county but am not allowed now that he is in craf waiting for him to be transferred to jones farm so we can have visits again

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I write draw paint and take care of his daughter. I'm on medical leave so I'm supposed to be relaxing but that really just keeps my mind racing.

[shaunna]

1. Can you please explain your user name? Mine isn't creative - it's just my name lol

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) It's a photo of me and my bf

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? My boyfriend was incarcerated (we are MWI) but he has since been released

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? he was incarcerated for 7 years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? He was released last year end of November, he gets released off home confinement at the end of this coming week

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? Possession of a weapon

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Was at Louisianna

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Not as often as I like as we are on other sides of the world (He's in Memphis TN and I am in Western Australia) but I am counting down to our next visit for Independance Day & my birthday - 40 more sleeps to go!

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share While he was still in prison I was lucky as we got to email eachother everyday adnI also wrote letters/cards and sent him plenty of photos

[NatesGurl]

1. Can you please explain your user name? My LO's Name plus Gurl

2. Can you please explain your avatar? It's a heart w/ wings my LO calls me his angel (If you don't have one, why not?)

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? Boyfriend / sort of fiancee

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? 5 1/2

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? less than a year

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? Burglary

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Indiana

9. How often do you visit your loved one? every two weeks

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! Listen to music, send lots of emails to him, send cards w/ letters, phone calls every other day and visits :-)
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[NatesGurl]

Originally Posted by shaunna

1. Can you please explain your user name? Mine isn't creative - it's just my name lol

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) It's a photo of me and my bf

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? My boyfriend was incarcerated (we are MWI) but he has since been released

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? he was incarcerated for 7 years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? He was released last year end of November, he gets released off home confinement at the end of this coming week

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? Possession of a weapon

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Was at Louisianna

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Not as often as I like as we are on other sides of the world (He's in Memphis TN and I am in Western Australia) but I am counting down to our next visit for Independance Day & my birthday - 40 more sleeps to go!

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share While he was still in prison I was lucky as we got to email eachother everyday adnI also wrote letters/cards and sent him plenty of photos

Congratulations on your upcoming homecoming :-)

[Scotties_Girl21]

Originally Posted by doe

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Self explanatory lol

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Pic of my baby (:

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
Girlfriend, Soulmate.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
Almost 4 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
46 days and a wake up!!

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Guilty.

7. What are the charge(s)?
Felony probation violation.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
North Carolina

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
As often as I can, only once so far!

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

School, and keeping or communication open as possible.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

[InmateLover67]

1. Can you please explain your user name? UM, it pretty much explains itself

2. Can you please explain your avatar? It's a flower I got off the internet somewhere

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? Fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? Not even a year

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? As little as 6 months and as long as 10 months

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Yes, he is guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? DWS/REV DUII

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Oregon

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Twice a month

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! Remembering that with each new day, he is one day closer to being home.

[Adamsmom94]

Originally Posted by doe

1. Can you please explain your user name?
adamsmom94 my sons name and year he was born
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
i dont have an avatar as idk what it is or how to make one..comp.illiterate//lol
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
He is my youngest son
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
he has been awaiting trial for 15.5 months now
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
we have noooo idea what will happen
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? innocent he ws with another kid who committed the crime but it was self defense

7. What are the charge(s)?first degree murder

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?Massachusetts

9. How often do you visit your loved one? once a month as he is far from my home and i dont have a car right now

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

The serenity prayer, i also ask God each day to b by his side and (sounds corny)I ask God each nite to tuck him in for me and give him a big hug and kiss

[shortybaby52491]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
my nick namme was shorty in high school and my babys birthday

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
a picture of me and my baby in malibu

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
my fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
has been in prison for 3 weeks but was in county for 9 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
5 months if everything goes good!!! crossing my fingers

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
guilty

7. What are the charge(s)?
possession of a controlled substance with a intent to sell

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
california

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
i used to visit him everyday in county but now since he is in prison i can't havent been approved to visit yet =(

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
stay strong and just remember we are one day closer to you comming home

[mlksgirl2011]

Can you please explain your user name?
his initials and year he got locked up

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
His favorite picture of me

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
my fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
Aug. 9th will be a year

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
Hopefully 9 months of he can parole of with goodtime

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
guilty

7. What are the charge(s)?
Aggravated battery

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Illinois

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Once every three months.. wish it were more though

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
A strong support system and great communication skills

[johnnysgirl1225]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Johnny is my babys name.. and im his girl.. pretty obvious huh?! lol and 1225 is for december 25th... our anniversary.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Just a pic of me!

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
Love of my life

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
Hes only been in County for 50 days... feels like a life time though!

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
We dont know yet..

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Hmm... thats a hard one to answer. He could be guilty or innocent.. i wasnt there when it happened.

7. What are the charge(s)?
theft

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Texas

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Cant right now

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I listen to the playlist I made for us... and I focus mostly on my kids and work to keep my mind off it all. When I get real down I read his letters expecially my fav parts!!

[Iceony76]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Last 3 letters of my last name and last 3 letters of his name.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
It was a Collage of pictures of him and I. Now it's a "loving an inmate" picture.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
He's my boyfriend.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
17 years.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
9 months.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Innocent

7. What are the charge(s)?
A felony

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
NY

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
I've been in NY twice and I've seen him 4 times.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

I like to keep myself busy, talking and writing to him helps. Socializing with my close friends and family is a great way to not feel so alone.

[mrs.ketchup]

Originally Posted by doe

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Its my boyfriends nickname an im his mrs. :-)

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (if you don't have one, why not?)
its my man! Our son! An me!

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
Boyfriend!

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
10 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
2 months in an 2 yrs parole

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
Guilty!

7. What are the charge(s)?
Possession of drugs!

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Texas!

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Now, not much to far away.. But he will be back close to me in a few weeks to finish his time then i will visit every weekend!

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

talk to him everyday! At least once but knowing him more like 3 or 4 times :-)

[MYpatL]

Can you please explain your user name?

His name
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Photo of US

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
my fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
Almost 5

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
10

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
guilty

7. What are the charge(s)?
Robbery w/ weapon

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Michigan

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
haven't yet-still waiting to get approved for visits

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
Friends and children that support ME!

[mooshy]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
My dad used to call 1 or both of us "Moosh", usually when he was getting impatient! I just chose Mooshy from out off the top of my head.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
It's our cat eating the cut flowers as usual.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
He is my pen pal.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
Over 20 years.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
Forever - he's on the dr

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
No comment.

7. What are the charge(s)?
No comment

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
California

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Never, we just write.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison?
No, I never knew him outside.

[Mrs*Axeslinger]

Originally Posted by doe

1. Can you please explain your user name?

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

7. What are the charge(s)?

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

1. It's part of our "couple alter egos" lol....He earned the nickname "Fraenkie" after I watched him one night in the wee hours of the morning tearing apart an electric guitar for parts to put on another (and he's done this several times since lol)- I told him he was like the Frankenstein of Guitars......MY nickname, "Rocksie," he gave to me because in his words I "develop a rock star persona when I'm performing"....idk lol......Eventually I gave "Fraenkie" a last name- Axeslinger. (slang for guitar player)

2. My avatar isn't anything special, it's just a picture of me lol

3. He is my fiance

4. He's been down (this bid) 8 months

5. (See ticker lol)

6. He's guilty as hell....I know, I was there lol (charge- absconding from parole)...Original charge was Attempted Burglary, and he's guilty of that too

7. (Refer to above answer)

8. He's serving in NY state

9. I visit every chance I get, which unfortunately is only about every 2 months

10. Strategy?? I don't know if I'd classify any coping mechanism as "strategy," it's not like we're playing Battleship
I guess I would say my best defense against nervous breakdown?.... Optimism....and believe me, I had to completely re-wire my brain to allow this haha.....Not unlike "Fraenkie" does with a Fender