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ShanaMoore · #51 10-11-2011, 12:24 AM

I only worry about his mental state really. He was diagnosed bipolar but he hasn't had medication or any episodes of any kind since he's been in. It's been ten months. Hmm O.o we will see oh and him getting written up. I know he can take care of himself if a fight breaks out.

Klewis · #52 10-12-2011, 09:20 PM

I worry about my Fiance' because his dad died in prison due to a illness. I worry that the system will always be on a power trip and my Fiance' will keep getting denied.

Heliba · #53 10-14-2011, 09:30 PM

You need to add one more option to your poll that says 'All of the above!'

pbbowden11 · #54 10-14-2011, 09:36 PM

i worry the most about his temper. although in the last year he has calmed down ALOT and is focused on coming home, i still worry. i dont know about the rest of u ladies with "short-timer" but since he's been under a year some of the other inmates have tested him. he lets most of it go (except for one incident when a comment was made to him about me being outside of his race and some other things that degrade women in general)

pbbowden11 · #55 10-14-2011, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Klewis

I worry about my Fiance' because his dad died in prison due to a illness. I worry that the system will always be on a power trip and my Fiance' will keep getting denied.

LOVE LOVE LOVE your response!!

nahautl · #56 10-16-2011, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by WildCherryNikki

I'm just a worry wart and worry about everything and anything. I'm like this about ppl I love on the outside too. I just pray he comes home healthy and on time. This is a very tough situation to be in for all of us and takes a lot of strength. I wish everyone health and the patience to endure this rollercoaster we are on.

This really is a rollercoaster. I am only on day 11 and I am sometimes finding it hard to keep the strength. I just break down and cry.

reesiegirl34 · #57 10-16-2011, 10:12 PM

I worry that even though we try our hardest to keep our connection and love thru letters and phone calls, it won't be the same when he gets out.. which is pretty damn soon! I have hung strong for so long and that's what scares me the most. My insecurites I know but it still remains esp if I don't hear from him thru letters. I missed his call tonight and I'm kicking myself in the a** because I had to pee and didn't take my phone. It sounds ridiculous but its true.. I live to hear his voice sometimes..esp after a bad week.

jordans girl · #58 10-22-2011, 05:34 PM

i dont worry about him being hurt/ mistreated by CO's that much, he can handle himself and knows most of the people at the young offenders hes in anyways

because we argued alot and were on& off for the few week before he went in im worried that this time out will make him see he doesnt love me, then again it could show him that he ;loves me alot more than he thought or maybe im just being stupid and he loves me irregardless like he always said he did

since this is his second time, in the same youth offenders, for the same offence im deffinatley worried about him getting worse and "picking up tips" in the uk it seems that jails and youth offenders are just places to form criminal contacts and share ideas!

im worried about who hes corresponding with cause im just an insecure person, i do that when hes not locked up aswell tbh...

not too worried about mental helth as hes done it before, he can do it again

all i know is this best be THE very last time he's there!

tnjmontoya · #59 10-22-2011, 05:59 PM

My worry is about when he is released. We didn't commit to each other and decide we were going to get married until after he was arrested. He's in New Mexico and I'm in Ohio and our plans are for him to transfer his probation up here after he's released. He'll be in a halfway house right after he's released. I'm just afraid he'll change his mind and decide not to come up here. I can't go down there because of custody issues with my children's dad and also I have a VERY good job here. His kids are down there but they are older than mine are and his ex wife has pretty much kept him out of their lives. He told me the other day that one of us was going to have to sacrifice being close to our kids and that he's already been forced to do that anyway and that he just wants to come up here and have a fresh start with us. It's all very sad. The distance makes things so hard. If I had realized I could love him so much and he could love me, I would have asked him to move up here last year before he could get into trouble again. All the trouble he's in now is because of his ex and he just needs to get far far away from there! We were the best of friends for the longest time but I never imagined him making the commitment to move up here for me, so that always held us back. If he knew I worried about this so much I'm sure he'd tell me I'm being silly, but I can't help but worry!

Of course I worry about the fights in there. He could hold his own and then some, but in that environment there are so many loose cannons you never know what can happen...

TX Newby · #60 08-17-2012, 10:06 PM

I worry about whether or not he will "get it" this time or not. Will he really decide to stay clean when he gets out and stay within the law? I worry about his attitude cause sometimes from his letters it doesn't seem like he gets it. For example, I want him to take advantage of his time in there and try to get into a drug program? He says that they are a living hell and he doesn't want to spend 6 months or ?? messing with that shit. To me, I would want to do whatever I could to help myself, and it worries me that he doesn't want to make the effort to change his life. He has given me mixed messages saying he will do what it takes and will never come back there, wants to have a "normal" life and be productive, but what the hell, if he doesn't even want to take advantage of things that may help him, what does that tell me? That's what I'm worried about. I worry about the guys that he hangs out with in there, are they just romantacizing the drug world.I worry about whether it is worth it for me to wait on him and see. I have guys that want to take me out that I could and that have productive lives with good jobs, etc, but I'm in love with a man that is in prison that doesn't seem to want to do what is necessary to prepare himself for change. Then I worry about the future. I love him and he is a good man, but he seems to waver. Sometimes, it sounds like he is humbled and other times, he is so angry. If anyone has similar feelings or advice on how toget through this, please respond. Thanks

PugsleyBabygirl · #61 08-18-2012, 09:00 PM

I Worry about how he is doing with the drugs. he is going on and off he is clean now but ... it is a matter of time... that is how i feel and it ... it will be bad i just know it

leeannev · #62 08-18-2012, 09:17 PM

I worry about all of the above daily.Currently he is in need of surgery due to torn rotater cuff (I still have no idea how that happened) and it probably will be another month before he gets it and he is not getting anything for pain. He is locked down 23 and 24 hours a day so I dont worry about other inmates too much. And I have to say,I appreciate women who are willing to write inmates they never met and have seen on tv or whatever but everytime it happens to us I feel a little unnerved by it.I want him to talk to people on the outside as much as possible no matter who it is because I feel different rules apply when you have been sentenced to the death penalty but Im a woman it does make me uneasy when women do that.Asfar as I know he tells me everytime.

Babii214 · #63 08-18-2012, 09:53 PM

Mine was how he is treated by staff. From what he says some of the guards are at all good people. He had even broke a finger playing basket ball but because "who was working" he couldn't do anything about it. He said they would put a charge on him and say he had got into a fight resulting in his finger breaking. Race does play a part. He's Hispanic and the guards that are white give him a hard time. But I guess that's just the way prison life goes.

StayShort · #64 08-18-2012, 11:32 PM

I worry about how his time will effect him. He was so young going in (17) & has the chance of parole at the age of 42. I just dont want him to get lost in all things prison & remember there is a real world out here. I try to keep him grounded and remind him to come back to me when things go wrong. To make me his center and it seems to have helped so far as he has stayed out of trouble for over a year.

.random.person. · #65 08-19-2012, 01:57 PM

Mostly worried about him getting into fights...

He has a hard time just walking away from people who want to start trouble- plus it's kind of hard to "walk away" now anyways. But he's been doing a lot better these past couple of months.

femmefatale76 · #66 08-19-2012, 02:19 PM

His heart condition. He's had 2 open heart surgeries. He still needs his 2 other valves replaced...he is only 29.... Scary stuff.

Also about fights...something going too far on either end.

Every day I worry

forever&always

benignneglect · #67 08-19-2012, 05:21 PM

In California to many inmate die in their cells calling for help.

My worry is that he will get sick when his celly is at work or fall off the bed. he has bad knees so i worry he will fall and hit his head

And I definatly worry about prison politics and his position in all that.

Just want my daddy to come home healthy and whole.

Mrs. Happy · #68 08-19-2012, 05:27 PM

Prison politics, him getting in trouble catching another strike and never coming home. He already has two stikes so this is it. He can't afford to eff up again.

Ms Catt · #69 08-19-2012, 08:04 PM

I worry bout my guy cause he's at fire camp fighting fires, But I'm also proud of him for doing a great job

Psychocandy · #70 08-21-2012, 05:00 AM

I worry about his physical health and the pathetic medical care in there.

**Nieves915** · #71 08-22-2012, 08:04 PM

I dont worry about him getting into fights, my husband is respected by many, I dont worry about other women writing, cuz if they do thats all it is, I dont worry about his love for me deminishing because we are soul mates,,,, i do worry about his emotional state. i worry that he will give up and just say F&^% IT, and not care anymore. I want him to look in the miror and see what i see when i look at him, but he doesnt.... he has made mistakes,,, hell we all have,,, his more than most yes,, but I kow my husbands heart. I worry that time will take its toll on him and that he will decide that his life isnt worth fighting for anymore,, that is what i worry about.

Edelle · #72 08-27-2012, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by tnjmontoya

My worry is about when he is released. We didn't commit to each other and decide we were going to get married until after he was arrested. He's in New Mexico and I'm in Ohio and our plans are for him to transfer his probation up here after he's released. He'll be in a halfway house right after he's released. I'm just afraid he'll change his mind and decide not to come up here. I can't go down there because of custody issues with my children's dad and also I have a VERY good job here. His kids are down there but they are older than mine are and his ex wife has pretty much kept him out of their lives. He told me the other day that one of us was going to have to sacrifice being close to our kids and that he's already been forced to do that anyway and that he just wants to come up here and have a fresh start with us. It's all very sad. The distance makes things so hard. If I had realized I could love him so much and he could love me, I would have asked him to move up here last year before he could get into trouble again. All the trouble he's in now is because of his ex and he just needs to get far far away from there! We were the best of friends for the longest time but I never imagined him making the commitment to move up here for me, so that always held us back. If he knew I worried about this so much I'm sure he'd tell me I'm being silly, but I can't help but worry!

Of course I worry about the fights in there. He could hold his own and then some, but in that environment there are so many loose cannons you never know what can happen...

I know exactly how you feel. When he was arrested, I never committed to anything, nor did he. Now he is coming out in a year with the expectation that we can pick up where things left off 7 years ago... and I am not sure that I can do that. There is so much to consider. I live in NV, and he and all of his family are in Florida and Puerto Rico..which is where we met and I lived there for 12 years.
I have a life now here in the west... and really good job also and the support of MY family which is what I never had there.
I want to believe that it is possible... though experience tells me to go with my gut on anything and everything. The thing is.. .this time there is no clear instinct surfacing.
Any way- thank you for sharing and I wish you the best.

peach.m-o-o-n · #73 09-05-2012, 06:34 PM

My worries are his physical well being and health. Although I am confident and have no worries that Chris can take care of himself with CO's and inmates, I do worry about him being harmed/killed in riots. His last month in Beaumont was spent in lock down back in 2010 because of a brutal Black vs. Mexican riot. He had planned on going out to the yard to work out but had decided instead to go to the music room to jam out. He told me the next thing he knew, there was a black guy stabbing a Mexican in the face over twenty times right outside the glass door. He is white, but since he's worked outside for mostly all of his life building homes, his skin tanned to a Hispanic tone. Had Chris been out there in the yard, he wouldn't have come home because of his skin color.
Another thing is his severe asthma. I just worry that the Health Department there will take their sweet time renewing his inhaler when he runs out. I'm afraid he'll have an asthma attack or whatnot. That's just me being a worry wart, though.
Other than that, I try to keep him on a positive note each time we talk. I hate to dwell on anything depressing because while I can forget about it through work, school or our coming baby, he's stuck there with just his mind.

Nocigarettes1 · #74 09-07-2012, 08:22 PM

I worry about his spirit being broken. That's my biggest concern. He's a fighter but it's been one rough haul. He has 20 months left of 3 years.

HisNDNgirl · #75 09-10-2012, 10:50 PM

I worry about his health cuz he got some broken bones when arrested (just been 2 1/2 weeks) and he only just got results from the X-rays and still waiting for them to be fixed (which will now includ being re-set). And he is hypoglycemic. He needs to eat ALOT. thankfully he is good at poker and that is helping him get extra food.