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Davidswifey11 · #76 08-19-2012, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by sage26

I just want to get this straight, his mom did not tell me this. his sister in law told me this and she is one your can't always know if she is lieing or telling the truth. she has a past of drug use to. but what ever the case may be the truth will come out. and i'm not giving up. not saying that i'm putting my life on hold. bc i'm not been doing things with friends. got a tattoo this past weekend. i just knw what God has showed me and what i know in my heart. but thanks for the comments the good ones and the bad ones, this site has help me so much for the 4 1/2 yrs that i have done this. i'm getting stronger as each day gose by, no its not easy for i loved that man with every fiber of my body he has a big place in my heart,no metter what he has done to me or any thing else. i have learned to forgive him and to for give my self. i cant heal till i was able to forgive this is what God wants us to do. He will relaize one day what a big mistake he has made and he has to live with that. i give him more then what any other woman would have. i stood by him lefting him up. but i have learned from all of this to. thanks ladies for being here with me.

You are right one day he will look back n think to himself how dumb he was for letting such a great woman go! I hope with each day that passes ur heart heals a lil more.

sage26 · #77 08-20-2012, 08:03 PM

this afternoon was not so good for me, i went walking and i started to think of him and missing him more then ever.i hate days like this.

hisbabyny · #78 08-20-2012, 11:06 PM

i just pray you have peace and im sure everything you are feeling is normal. just be gentle with yourself. you loved this man for over 4 years so im not sure if you could be completely over him in 2 weeks. pray for clarity, wisdom, and peace. i dont know why this happened but if he is a addict maybe he just dont even know how to face life with out the drugs? im sure it has more to do with him then it has to do with you.

sage26 · #79 08-21-2012, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by hisbabyny

i just pray you have peace and im sure everything you are feeling is normal. just be gentle with yourself. you loved this man for over 4 years so im not sure if you could be completely over him in 2 weeks. pray for clarity, wisdom, and peace. i dont know why this happened but if he is a addict maybe he just dont even know how to face life with out the drugs? im sure it has more to do with him then it has to do with you.

I dont think he dose he has been on drugs since he was 15yr old and all his past relationship on base on drugs. so i dont think he dose know how and i dont think it has any thing to do with me

sage26 · #80 08-21-2012, 06:33 PM

well i just find out on fb he is in a relationship, so i'm so hurt and i knw what yall will say. i just need some good things to say to help me through this

Klewis · #81 08-21-2012, 06:56 PM

((((hugs))))) to you. I know your hurt but at least you know the truth now and you can let go and start letting yourself heal.

hisbabyny · #82 08-21-2012, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by sage26

well i just find out on fb he is in a relationship, so i'm so hurt and i knw what yall will say. i just need some good things to say to help me through this

i say he can keep it movin' F*** Him! i know that sounds terrible but you know what? its not your fault! you did the best you can do' and dont think that woman is getting any prize!
it tells you what you need to know. im really sorry its too bad he couldnt be a man but many of these so called men like to get with a new woman to try to show off and front and play it all up like they are someone else then they really are. trust me you are the true winner here!! this is a blessing in disguise as much as it hurts

"trust me"!
you will get past this with your faith.....

n016s · #83 08-21-2012, 09:38 PM

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Originally Posted by sage26

well i just find out on fb he is in a relationship, so i'm so hurt and i knw what yall will say. i just need some good things to say to help me through this

I'm so sorry you had to find out that way. He was clearly a coward and didn't have the balls to be straight up with you. Allow yourself to be sad, mad, confused, but also allow yourself to heal. Don't waste anymore time on this low-life! You deserve the best and always remember that. He's the one who is gunna miss out on a solid woman like you for the rest of his life. Good luck! I wish you happiness!

**Patty** · #84 08-22-2012, 12:21 AM

Hopefully now you will find it easier to move on. As they say, the truth shall set you free.

Psychocandy · #85 08-22-2012, 02:39 AM

Im sorry that you are so hurt by this man. He has shown himself to you now he isnt the person you thought he was.
You deserve better Sage. Move on live your life. He threw away the best thing in his life.

vlp6570 · #86 08-22-2012, 03:02 AM

I am so sad for you. heart is hurting, after reading your posts. Keep your appointments with your councelor. be strong.

LoveMyMeche · #87 08-22-2012, 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by sage26

well i just find out on fb he is in a relationship, so i'm so hurt and i knw what yall will say. i just need some good things to say to help me through this

I'm so sorry Sage. You will get through this and you will find the man who deserves your love. Your a great woman. Let him go and open your heart to receive your next blessing.

benignneglect · #88 08-22-2012, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by sage26

I dont think he has some one else, b.c i was the only one on his list e.v where he was and the only one going and seeing him. you know you can only have one felman on the list, and yea no need to black unless he is starting to talk to girls on fb, but i really dont belive he has some one else. if so it will not last,and i'm not going to give up that easy on us, i'm like that i for give.

He already broke up with you. He can block you if he wants to. you can not let that upset you.
you took him off your page and he could not see anything except your picture, right? so why should he let you see anything on his page?
when people break up it means it is over. he has NO resposability to doing anything to make you feel better now and you need to be responsable for your own feelings from this point.
it would be nice for him to explain, tell the truth and all that but its not going to happen now. he has clearly moved on and you need to take your freedom and make the best of it.
Stalking his page looking for answers, calling him, texting him, that is gonna keep you stuck in the past. Move on and live your life for you because clearly he is not worth it.

sage26 · #89 09-02-2012, 08:29 AM

so i still have not heard anything from him. i just dont understand how some one could say they love some one so much but then leave with no wards no nothing its just so hard for me to get that. i could not do that never have been the one to just leave. i'm missing him so very much.

HardHeadedWoman · #90 09-02-2012, 08:56 AM

Sage you are not going to hear from him until he finds his self locked back up. he has made it clear its over and has now moved on to someone else. he is now in a relationship so he wouldnt be needing you now. But he will eventually.
Your not going to be able to bring him back. It was his choice. Now you have to find the hidden strength inside you (its there) and work on you.
Make friends or contact old ones. No contact with anyone related to him or his friends. Kedep yourself so busy all you can do at the end of the day is go to sleep. Its not easy losing someone we thought loved us but its like losing a loved one to death. The pain will always be there but it lessens as time goes by.
Start doing you and the rest will fall into place.

Miss_A · #91 09-02-2012, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by sage26

so i still have not heard anything from him. i just dont understand how some one could say they love some one so much but then leave with no wards no nothing its just so hard for me to get that. i could not do that never have been the one to just leave. i'm missing him so very much.

Sage, when a man is in another relationship, he doesn't typically contact his ex. I know you want him to miss you terribly and realize that you're the best thing that has ever happened to him, but that's probably not going to happen.

Have you ever stopped to think that the two of you just aren't meant to be together? There's nothing wrong with that. Doesn't make you a bad person. It's just what it is.

4ever love · #92 09-02-2012, 09:55 AM

Sage: I'm going to share a story with you and I hope it helps clarify for you.

Guy in camp, newest girl visits, sneaks in phone, money/packages and is just smitten. He gets out & she thinks he's all about her. He's not, so he lies, cheats, and starts his downward cycle again. She gets pregnant, hoping he'll change. She's chasing him pregers at the bars, other girls houses, you name it.

Fast forward - he goes in twice for PV, she's right there for him. Each time he gets out, she picks him up & he moves on. He was never prepared for a child as he's still on a roll. This last time, goes in because too lazy to walk into Court's business office to clarify some paperwork, gets warrant, back in. Now she's the only one helping him, picks him up and thinks she's just dropped him off at rehab & she's got him again. Family friends all know different. He also has a facebook. It clearly states his interest: Amanda (not the baby mama). He ain't even hiding anything!!

Is that what you want outta your life? Or would it be best for you to move forward taking good care of yourself and never looking back? Great time to do it, as he's preoccupied, making your exit easier.....

DarkAngel1962 · #93 09-02-2012, 10:35 AM

I think what a lot of women, myself included, find hard is how they can say they love you and then turn around and leave without a word. How could they do that right! Well, the truth is that they didn't love you enough or they wouldn't have done that.

Stop looking at his Facebook page, block him if you must so you can't go look. Someone once told me something and once I really thought about it, I realized it was true. He couldn't care less if you are at home missing him or crying over him. In fact, he doesn't even KNOW you are. He is not going to magically show up at your door professing his love. So get out and enjoy your life and find someone that will care for you the way you deserve. Even if you do get your wish and he comes back to you it won't be true. Is that really what you want?

Psychocandy · #94 09-02-2012, 12:51 PM

Sage....you loved him and that is the finest thing you can give anyone. You will probably always love him. He needed you for a time in his life he has moved on now. You have a lot of love to give dont lock out the rest of the world waiting for him to come back.

sage26 · #95 09-02-2012, 04:38 PM

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Originally Posted by HardHeadedWoman

Sage you are not going to hear from him until he finds his self locked back up. he has made it clear its over and has now moved on to someone else. he is now in a relationship so he wouldnt be needing you now. But he will eventually.
Your not going to be able to bring him back. It was his choice. Now you have to find the hidden strength inside you (its there) and work on you.
Make friends or contact old ones. No contact with anyone related to him or his friends. Kedep yourself so busy all you can do at the end of the day is go to sleep. Its not easy losing someone we thought loved us but its like losing a loved one to death. The pain will always be there but it lessens as time goes by.
Start doing you and the rest will fall into place.

thanks but i find out he is not seeing any one he just said that to push me away to make it easyer on him to leave me, ya'll keep saying this sometimes they are not seeing any one at all, and no i cant bring him back but if its in his will and plan God can i feel so strong about that. but wha ever the out come i'll keep praying for him and keep loving him in my heart but go on with my life, but he is not seeing any one. thanks sorry tired of hear that its not what i want to hear it just makes me more mad.

sage26 · #96 09-02-2012, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss_A

Sage, when a man is in another relationship, he doesn't typically contact his ex. I know you want him to miss you terribly and realize that you're the best thing that has ever happened to him, but that's probably not going to happen.

Have you ever stopped to think that the two of you just aren't meant to be together? There's nothing wrong with that. Doesn't make you a bad person. It's just what it is.

i know we are i knew it the frist time we meant, before he went in, its something i never have felt before and will not give up on it. i cant tell you on here the whole store or what i felt i just know.

sage26 · #97 09-02-2012, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by 4ever love

Sage: I'm going to share a story with you and I hope it helps clarify for you.

Guy in camp, newest girl visits, sneaks in phone, money/packages and is just smitten. He gets out & she thinks he's all about her. He's not, so he lies, cheats, and starts his downward cycle again. She gets pregnant, hoping he'll change. She's chasing him pregers at the bars, other girls houses, you name it.

Fast forward - he goes in twice for PV, she's right there for him. Each time he gets out, she picks him up & he moves on. He was never prepared for a child as he's still on a roll. This last time, goes in because too lazy to walk into Court's business office to clarify some paperwork, gets warrant, back in. Now she's the only one helping him, picks him up and thinks she's just dropped him off at rehab & she's got him again. Family friends all know different. He also has a facebook. It clearly states his interest: Amanda (not the baby mama). He ain't even hiding anything!!

Is that what you want outta your life? Or would it be best for you to move forward taking good care of yourself and never looking back? Great time to do it, as he's preoccupied, making your exit easier.....

wow really! that is nothing to my store i have not called nor text him i know what we had was real, i know he was real yes he left but its not the end of the world and he was never ever mean or hateful to me he showed me how to love witch i never knew how to do, showed me respect wicth i never got got from any one. i beleive in God and i know what he has showed me, i dont need bad things said to me to make me more depressed and this is making me that away, he is not married so i see it ths away if God and when he see fit and in his plans for us to be together again he will bring us together in his time, God is working on my and i know him to, he answerd a pray for me. yes i post things on how i'm feeling i'm not looking for sad depressed post. yes it still hurts b.c its still fresh out. i'm one not to give up on any thing, its in Gods haands now.

Miss_A · #98 09-02-2012, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by sage26

i know we are i knew it the frist time we meant, before he went in, its something i never have felt before and will not give up on it. i cant tell you on here the whole store or what i felt i just know.

Well, hon, when/if the two of you come back together again, continue on with your life. Don't sit and pine for him. You're only hurting yourself if you do. Don't you want to be happy and living life to the fullest on your own first?

JuliusGirl · #99 09-02-2012, 05:42 PM

WOW... This whole story(rather what u shared) sounds suspect & sounds like your better off w/o him! It's hard enough to make a relationship work, but when one loves more than the other that's definitely not a good sign! Good luck in whatever you're looking to gain from this.

Damask8 · #**100** 09-02-2012, 06:08 PM

If you truly believe that he only posted on facebook that he was "in a relationship" because he wanted to "push you away", yet he was unable to text you or call you, then you need to seriously reevaluate your trust for him.

No man is going to change their relationship status for the world to see to scare someone away. If he wanted to "push you away" all he had to do was tell you via text that he was in a relationship and to move on. You only post things on facebook that you want others to see.

And if you still believe this to be true. Then it seems as if the dummy needs some serious relationship/communication help because thats not how you deal with life. When issues arise, can you trust him to come forward or play games?

Sounds like everything from the excuses in the hwh to the relationship on fb are alll simply excuses.

If you continue to allow him to get the best of you like this, you're going to allow him to play you like a fool too. You may not be ready to cut him completely out of your life, but c'mon, you have to realize things just don't add up. He's a liar.