Would you ladies get married in prison or wait for release?

[alwayslovingyou]

Would you ladies get married in a prison or would you wait until you boyfriend/fiance gets released?

And....
Would you ladies say it's embarrassing to get married at a prison?

What's your thoughts on these questions?

I really wanna know your opinions.....
Thanks!

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by mineforever2013

Would you ladies get married in a prison or would you wait until you boyfriend/fiance gets released? No, I would not get married in a prison/jail.

And....
Would you ladies say it's embarrassing to get married at a prison? No, I would not be embarrassed, I just would not do it.

What's your thoughts on these questions?

I really wanna know your opinions.....
Thanks!

I myself would never marry inside a prison/jail, as I want that special day to be special. I am not into having a bunch of restrictions and makeshift backgrounds, along with guards watching our every move. That and having a bunch of strangers watch....not my thing. I know people say they will have a real, readitional wedding after the release, but I still would not want that day to be remembered in a prison.

To each his or her own! Now you have my opinion.....

Peace~

[billysbutton]

I personally would wait also due to the facts stated above. Would I be embarassed? No just a personal preference...good luck with whatever you choose....

[mandarose]

No I wouldn't.. we are waiting til he is released.. we discussed it, there's no rush.. and he says I deserve better than that even though we know we could always just have a bigger wedding later but he doesn't have long anyways.

I wouldn't say its embarrassing just not something I would want to remember as my first wedding. Plus I always claimed I'd NEVER get married lol now that I plan on doing so eek no thanks to a prison wedding.. (:

[Creepycupcake]

I think the wedding issue is a hard one. We have been engaged since July of 2010, while we were together on the outs. We have had big plans since day one. It's been so hard as you all know so well, being without my best friend, my other half, mi corazon. I'd give anything to spend some quiet moments alone, away from the world, and just be together. I've gone back and forth on this issue. I am in desperate need of time with him. We've discussed having a wedding while he's in, and then having a huge one when he gets out, or a big reception to celebrate on a grand scale, then we'd be able to spend some time together,alone, something we both need. Then we have discussed waiting, so we can have the day we want. I miss him so much that I am leaning towards not waiting. So, I am still stuck in the dilemma I guess...lol. I just know that his arms around me would absolutely heal me in a way nothing else could. We'll see how it goes. I feel like I'm losing my mind the longer we are apart. I pray for patience and guidance each day, as does he. God knows what he's doing, it's just my lack of patience that makes it so hard to withstand all this stuff!

God Bless all of you & your loved ones.

[leeannev]

My guy is on DR so I dont have a choice and from what I understand we will be doing it thru glass but I really dont care. At first I was taken aback and disappointed but really its all about him and I and making it official so I dont care. If I had a choice to do it on the outside I would probably wait but in every situation you need to make the most of it!

[Geauxin'KraZee]

Originally Posted by leeannev

My guy is on DR so I dont have a choice and from what I understand we will be doing it thru glass but I really dont care. At first I was taken aback and disappointed but really its all about him and I and making it official so I dont care. If I had a choice to do it on the outside I would probably wait but in every situation you need to make the most of it!

That is what I was going to mention if it were me in that situation. If my man was a lifer or on DR, then yes I would - how could I not? But my man served two years and four months and there is no way I would get married in a place with concrete walls and bars and couldn't have the things I want for my ceremony. We are planning our wedding now and though it will not be elaborate and full of guest, we are doing it the way we want- an outdoor waterfall wedding in Tennessee. Just the two of us and a minister and our two witnessess. We have our date all scheduled for.Apr,2013. We will have our honeymoon also in TN. In a beautiful cabin. We found a wedding planner and she is putting together a bouquet of my choice and a wedding cake for two. I am now buying my dress,shoes,unity candle,wedding album,etc. I'm getting so excited as I accomplish each thing on the list. I just ordered our toasting flutes, cake knife, and cake topper. So, it will still be the wedding of my dreams- Just him and I and.we.will treat our families.to a reception at our expense when we return home.

[luvsanders]

I would have a prison wedding depending on how much time my LO has...

[KOAS'girl]

We are getting married n prison but then having another wedding with family and friends after he is released

[jpgirl30]

I am kind of confused as to what I should do but the one thing that sticks out the most is the fact that I love him with all of my heart and I do want to marry him I've always wanted to u just never imagined it being at a prison and just like some of you have stated we will be having a wedding whenever he's released and my love has 15yrs so we might as well there's no one else for me and the other good thing is that we get conjugal visits so at this point I'll take whatever I can get lol!

[4_U_2_Envie]

we are getting married in prison and having a big wedding when he comes home.

[jenscott]

I finally married my man after 15 years. I did it in the prison and would do it all over again.

No, I don't think it's embarrassing. My husband actually was thrilled to know I was the only one that day ( 3 other couples got married the same day as us) that wore white, our favorite colors in sequins on my dress since we couldn't have flowers, I made a hair piece with matching ones for my daughter and best friend and boutenneres for the boys were hot glued on their shirts, and they all had decorated the car with those car markers and JUST MARRIED magnets on the back of the van. Afterwards for the remaining of the visit we had cranberry juice and sprite mixed together, cashew pieces, m&ms, and then he and I fed each other half a Suzy q all of which came out of the vending machines. Nothing was going to stop our love for one another on that day. We just turned a negative into a positive and the smile on his face ever time either one mentions it was worth all the pain and sleepless nights preparing for our wedding.

I encourage anyone who loves their mate, even behind walls, marry them. You only live once and noone can stop you from loving them.

[starlight45]

OMG! I LOVED READING THIS!! You MUST have read my thoughts, as I posted my engagement, on here, today! I really enjoyed reading this post! You have encouraged me to no end! Thank you, SO MUCH!!! NOW, I have my answer! May God bless you!

Originally Posted by jenscott

I finally married my man after 15 years. I did it in the prison and would do it all over again.

No, I don't think it's embarrassing. My husband actually was thrilled to know I was the only one that day ( 3 other couples got married the same day as us) that wore white, our favorite colors in sequins on my dress since we couldn't have flowers, I made a hair piece with matching ones for my daughter and best friend and boutenneres for the boys were hot glued on their shirts, and they all had decorated the car with those car markers and JUST MARRIED magnets on the back of the van. Afterwards for the remaining of the visit we had cranberry juice and sprite mixed together, cashew pieces, m&ms, and then he and I fed each other half a Suzy q all of which came out of the vending machines. Nothing was going to stop our love for one another on that day. We just turned a negative into a positive and the smile on his face ever time either one mentions it was worth all the pain and sleepless nights preparing for our wedding.

I encourage anyone who loves their mate, even behind walls, marry them. You only live once and noone can stop you from loving them.

[DougsCandy]

I just married my love in prison on Sunday. I wouldnt change it for the world. I love him and am proud to say I am FINALLY his wife.

[GabesWifeyBoo]

InmateLover67- You sure opened my eyes with your response. Thank you!!!


As for my opinion, I was once all game for getting married in prison. But once I sat down and thought about all I have to sacrifice on our special day, the pros just weren't adding up--to me. Especially not being able to kiss him and touch him like I could if he were getting married in the free world. And getting married with correctional officers as part of my wedding party is not how I want to look back on how my marriage began. I would go loco if I have to leave my husband behind after having such a joyous , happy, and life-changing event happen on the same day.

.....BUT, that being said, I do not judge women who have, are in the process of, or thinking about getting married in prison. Marriage is WAY deeper and WAY more sacred and has WAY more meaning to it than where the ceremony takes place. Doesn't matter where, on what date, what hour, who sits where, who wears what, what kind of flower, blah, blah, blah. Some folks get so caught up in the "ceremony" that they forget whats important: love, commitment, sacrifice, faith, til death do we part, is just to name a few of importance. It shouldn't matter where marriage takes place, what should be most important is the understanding of how important a committment you two are making standing in front of the eyes of God making a vow of forever. So, I guess I am saying, to each it's own. If you feel a tugging to get married now, do it. But if you want to wait to have a more celebratory wedding, then I say too, do it. Think about it, weigh the pros and the cons, if you are a believer, seek God for an answer. Hope I helped!! =)

[SOLin]

My man and I are getting married behind bars next month. I had to have a hard, honest meeting with myself. Asking myself, what is MOST important thing? I want to be his wife and him my husband. When it comes down to it for me and him that is all it is really about. Life is short, there is no one else for me.
I have seen so many brides on their wedding day lose it because of the details of the cake or flowers or this or that... (I'm a wedding photographer) When it should really be about the fact that you are marrying the man you love and want to spend the rest of your life with.
When he gets out will have our big wedding, with friends and family, outside (rain or shine) :-)

Just my view of things, have a great day!

[cookzgrl]

Originally Posted by GabesWifeyBoo

InmateLover67- You sure opened my eyes with your response. Thank you!!!


As for my opinion, I was once all game for getting married in prison. But once I sat down and thought about all I have to sacrifice on our special day, the pros just weren't adding up--to me. Especially not being able to kiss him and touch him like I could if he were getting married in the free world. And getting married with correctional officers as part of my wedding party is not how I want to look back on how my marriage began. I would go loco if I have to leave my husband behind after having such a joyous , happy, and life-changing event happen on the same day.

.....BUT, that being said, I do not judge women who have, are in the process of, or thinking about getting married in prison. Marriage is WAY deeper and WAY more sacred and has WAY more meaning to it than where the ceremony takes place. Doesn't matter where, on what date, what hour, who sits where, who wears what, what kind of flower, blah, blah, blah. Some folks get so caught up in the "ceremony" that they forget whats important: love, commitment, sacrifice, faith, til death do we part, is just to name a few of importance. It shouldn't matter where marriage takes place, what should be most important is the understanding of how important a committment you two are making standing in front of the eyes of God making a vow of forever. So, I guess I am saying, to each it's own. If you feel a tugging to get married now, do it. But if you want to wait to have a more celebratory wedding, then I say too, do it. Think about it, weigh the pros and the cons, if you are a believer, seek God for an answer. Hope I helped!! =)

I am so happy to read this because I was in a similar situation recently. For the past year and a half I told my boo I was down for a prison wedding because if we love each other the place didnt matter. But as it got closer and I started contacting the people I needed to contact, I started thinking. When he gets home, I want that place to be a distant memory..if we get married there, it will be our happiest memory and I don't want to start our lives as husband and wife in that hell. I don't need a big and fancy wedding, but I want it to be a new beginning for us. I couldn't imagine being sent home to spend the night alone after marrying the love of my life. "I now pronounce you husband and wife, now go back to your cell" just didn't seem fair. I just told him a few weeks ago that I want to wait, and now he thinks I don't want to marry him. What he needs to realize is that it's just a peice of paper, in my heart we are already husband and wife. I give a lot of credit to those women who are able to marry their loves in prison, it takes a strong woman to be able to handle that.

[Ejsqueenest_03]

Originally Posted by jenscott

I finally married my man after 15 years. I did it in the prison and would do it all over again.

No, I don't think it's embarrassing. My husband actually was thrilled to know I was the only one that day ( 3 other couples got married the same day as us) that wore white, our favorite colors in sequins on my dress since we couldn't have flowers, I made a hair piece with matching ones for my daughter and best friend and boutenneres for the boys were hot glued on their shirts, and they all had decorated the car with those car markers and JUST MARRIED magnets on the back of the van. Afterwards for the remaining of the visit we had cranberry juice and sprite mixed together, cashew pieces, m&ms, and then he and I fed each other half a Suzy q all of which came out of the vending machines. Nothing was going to stop our love for one another on that day. We just turned a negative into a positive and the smile on his face ever time either one mentions it was worth all the pain and sleepless nights preparing for our wedding.

I encourage anyone who loves their mate, even behind walls, marry them. You only live once and noone can stop you from loving them.

That brought tears to my eyes.... I'm planning for April and I'm extremely nervous... But I'm as ready as ever... everyone else is against it but we've been together for 8 years and have possibly 12 years before he comes home. They allow catered food there and I've purchased my wedding dress already. Only downfall is finding a cake

[Fox_Rider]

I would not get married in prison ... I have never been married ..I would feel weird doing that in front of strangers ... and knowing we could not leave and be alone would suck BIG time !! I think marriage is over rated anyway. Just a paper and the government in your biz We are very connected to each other have been for years ... Many Blessings !

[lisamarie_258]

We are planning to have a paper wedding while he's inside and then have the real wedding on the outside. He proposed once over the phone and will propose again when he's home and "can do things right." If he gets out before we can get married (time's a flying!) then we'll make in an errand one day when he's out on parole. We want to be married, to us the paper is just that, the paper.

We'll have a big wedding with our family and friends when it's time. When we can afford it. In the mean time, we'll still get all the benefits of being legally wed.

[MissinAndWishin]

YES! I love my guy with everything in me. We have both been married before so a big wedding was never even considered. We were engaged before he was incarcerated and my love has never been stronger. We are both in our early 40s and he wants to be more realistic about it. Thinking that its not fair to ask me to do this, that he got himself in there & if I "moved on" he wouldnt blame me. He is the only man I have found that I actually want to be faithful to. I LOVE him!

[evitathomas]

I will get married in a heart beat. I feel like it is about our love and not who is there. I love my man and we also will have a huge wedding once he is home. I will not be embarrassed to tell how we got married in a prison. I have came to realize that people will judge you no matter what and I and many of us are very strong individuals to do a thing as such. I say that because we have to leave our husbands the same day we are married. It is worth it to me. Having my mans last name will mean so much to me. I value marriage and not really concerned with the rest. I know once he is home we can do anything!!

[notyourordinary]

We are getting married next year. I think it will be around feb or march. But whist we are getting married while he is in prison, we aren't getting married in prison! Big YAY! LOL.
We're doing at the nearest town hall with this quaint church square and he gets a day out to do it! And the next day we get a special family visit to consumate .
Its not the way I would have chosen to do it but atleast there are positives in this bad situation!
At one point I would have waited till he was released but circumstances change.
In the end if it feels right do it!

[Iceony76]

I would definitely wait until he's released!

[Love.D]

I told my man I would marry him while he'd in pridon but he told me no. Because he wants me to have my perfect dream wedding when he's free