Hi Everyone. A friend suggested this site to me. I myself am an ex-con (not new charges since 2012) But the reason I am here is my man, the father of my child. He has been incarcerated since Oct 2015. He is about to take a deal for 10 years at 85% or go to trial where his P.D. says he could get life. He just told me yesterday he plans to take the deal which breaks my heart.
He has a co-defendant who turned evidence on him but who they have on recordings admitting that she was the main person in the crime and that her whole statement against him is all lies. She only got 5 years non-violent because of her statement and I know his has his own guilty in his crimes but it breaks my heart that he is getting violent time. Our daughter will be 10 when he gets to come home.
Yeah, the first to talk is the first to walk That's how our injustice system works, that plea deals. I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through this, it isn't an easy journey. Word of advice from an old-timer? Put you & your daughter first - always. Take one day at a time, and stay busy. Go back to school. Work. Spend time with friends & family. Staying busy will help the time pass.
Thank you so much. I've actually started looking into going back to school & I work full time and am getting a promotion to management when my training is finished in 2 weeks. I just moved to Western KY from Central KY back in the summer so most of my friends are still back home but I stay in contact with them and try to visit once a month since my man is still in that area as well.
I completed a Master's during one bid and a Paralegal Certificate during another ...it really helps to have something to focus on. Matter of fact, if My Mr doesn't make parole this time, I may go for another BA in a totally unrelated subject. We'll see
One of the biggest injustices is that there really is no chance of a fair trial with a public defender.... not necessarily knocking them. They are over worked and under resourced compared to the State Prosecutor. It's not a case of innocent until proven guilty it is a case of innocent until unable to afford an effective lawyer.
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there really is no chance of a fair trial with a public defender
This blatantly false. Yes, they're over-worked and under-paid, but you're as likely to get really good PD as you are to get a really good paid attorney. You're also as likely to get a really shitty PD as you are a really shitty paid attorney. It works both ways
2024 Awwww sweetie, you've surely got a long journey ahead of you I'm glad you're staying in school. but school on top of 40-50 hours per week Don't forget to take some time for you to relax / unwind every once in a while. My thing was always Friday nights: long hot bubble bath, music loud and Bud Light, cold long-neck bottles
Yeah. I spend my only day off with my daughter. All the working and trying to get a better education is working towards the goal of giving a better future to our daughter, who currently lives with my brother. Playing with her is my big stress relief.
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Playing with you daughter is not only a stress reliever for you, but an educational opportunity for her Children learn from play and interactions with others. I'm glad the two of you have that time together!