Why cheat?

[BEEC22511]

Why would u cheat on someone u say u love?
do you really have no self control?

My man always uses this when we get in an argument and he thinks ill cheat on him cuz some one that he knows "female" cheated on them

[Every dog needs a bone an every cat needs a scratch]

my God u have no idea how annoyed I get with this topic

me an my man man been.thru hell an back an now back in hell an thru it all I've been here for him he is the man I love an going to spend the rest of my life with an because I think this way in Wat state of mind will I think to cheat
None!!
I wouldn't dare to hurt him in that way I would risk losing him

(if your reading this please do not think I'm judging any one simply expressing my self an over thinking this topic)

it's understandable every one has there needs but think of it this way say u were locked up an he cheats on u
There is a possibility he won't tell you
And there's a possibility he will
Now say he tells you could u for give him how would u react to it
put your self in there shoes

I'm a over thinker
especially because my man is so.blunt an he gets me thinking with things he says
But Wat.I don't get is why would people who say they care an love some one so much an can't be without them that's there other half
Go an do the number one thing that can make u lose them for good ?

[mandarose]

No self control and no real respect for themselves...
Ive been cheated on & its not a good feeling and I couldn't do that to someone... but that's just me

Also -if you can't control yourself
Don't put your self in any position of being tempted..
Or end the relationship
Its not fair to anyone

[Klewis]

When you say why would you cheat on someone you love?

Some people do not compare sex with love. I have heard it all the time were men say that women think that when they have sex its about love, when its not about an emotional feeling at all. I have a sister, well I have sisters who have hurt me on many occassions by sleeping with someone I was dating. I asked them all the time if you loved me how could you hurt me like this. It took years and years for me to understand that they don't have feelings when it comes to sex. They are just doing it, just to be doing it. These people I feel need some real emotional help because there is something inside that is wrong. I know with my youngest sister she can sleep with anything walking. Male, female, cousin, sister's man, mama's man, etc. She has never been in a committed relationship, but even more sadder she has never been in a healthy relationship. So someone would have to look deep in to themselves to answer that question if they are one to cheat.

[Afireinrome]

I agree with klewis that its the difference between sex as an emotional thing and f***ing to get one's rocks off. There are also people who the loneliness just eats and eats at them and they go out to fix it for a night or two.
Some ladies on PTO have an understanding with their men inside, that if they do have sex with someone else, its for the body not the heart.

[LindiLLou]

Personally I am not able to separate the emotional from the physical. I will never cheat on my husband. Should my husband ever cheat on me, I will leave him. For me there is no in-between. If he cheats he will have shattered something that can never be regained 100% - TRUST. If I cannot have trust in my marriage then I have no marriage at all. For me, it is that clear cut. My husband knows this and feels the same. Fidelity is a cornerstone in our marriage. Cheating on any level means divorce.

[GuerosMama]

Originally Posted by LindiLLou

Personally I am not able to separate the emotional from the physical.

Even if a person looks at it as just "sex" with no emotional bond....that still doesn't justify it.

I think people who say they love someone, and then cheats, is really, really, confused about what they mean when they say they "love" that person. And should really examine themselves, and their "love" for that person.

[MickeyBug]

I'll never understand cheating either!!

No one is stopping a person from sleeping with as many ppl as they choose - but why do it when you are committed & in a relationship with another person ?....

I'll never understand it. And I would never cheat - I know how much it hurts!

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