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Old 01-19-2019, 11:00 AM
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Unhappy Got a text telling me my boyfriend wants me to move on

I got a text from a stranger telling me her son is locked up with my boyfriend and he told her to tell me to move on and forget about him! I’m beyond hurt and numb!
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Old 01-19-2019, 11:47 AM
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honestly I would speak with him first and be sure this is true.. if its true I am so sorry hun.. but definitely double check the validity
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Hi I have given you your own thread so you can get your advice.
You have a received a text, but you dont know if this information is genuine.You need to speak to your boyfriend by phone, email or letter ,whichever communication you have and ask him if this is true and discuss it.
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Hurt? Because of a stranger? Oh hun, time to toughen up a bit. In this life it's not uncommon for communication to be used as a tool to mess with you. Other inmates-- jealous of your relationship, mad because our LO owe them, bored, they'll use us to stress the situation.

You need to talk to your LO, find out why someone would do this and if there's any truth to it. Don't let a stranger pull your strings.
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Your post previous to this you found out about another girl and never heard from him again. Have you been sending him mail looking for answers? This could be that answer?
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Your post previous to this you found out about another girl and never heard from him again. Have you been sending him mail looking for answers? This could be that answer?
Ahhh, thanks. I'm always slipping on my reading. Lol


This was nine days ago:
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My boyfriend and I had a rocky relationship before he got locked up. He constantly would lie and go missing for days. I also found a girls number in his phone and when I confronted him he said it was just some girl he talked to before we got back together. He told me he blocked her but I seen her number pop up over again. Anyways he wanted me to bond him out, but my intuition told me he was still talking to her. He swore I’m the only one that he’s been calling. So I messaged the other girl on FB sure enough she said they’ve been in a relationship this whole time. Every since I messaged her my boyfriend hasn’t called me. I went to go see him and he refused the visit! I am beyond hurt so we’re officially over. It was obviously he lied because he would’ve never known I reached out to her if he wasn’t talking to her like he said he wasn’t. I feel so used and hurt!
So tell me how this drama and hurt is giving you a sense of love and security? Is he just that charming in person?
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He does sound like a piece of work, so random text or no random text its time to look after yourself. Go do project you, free of all the hurt and drama. You deserve someone who values you, not someone who wants someone else.
If he has ignored you and refused a visit he doesnt want you he is showing you that loud and clear. Do not waste anymore time trying to find answers you won't get.
I know it hurts but things will get better and you deserve better.
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Sweetie, you were the side chick and you figured it out. Missing for days is drugs, married or living with someone or all of the above. Let it go!
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Yeah, I’d probably go ahead and take that message to heart. Your relationship is a train wreck. Good luck to you.
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Please move on he seems like u were just a side chick forget him he’s in a worst situation than you remember ur free and ur free from him
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Ahhh, thanks. I'm always slipping on my reading. Lol


This was nine days ago:

So tell me how this drama and hurt is giving you a sense of love and security? Is he just that charming in person?
well.. after seeing all this nevermind.. definitely time to move on.. that's too much crap from someone who is making you his second choice..
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Normally I'd say not to pay any attention to a random text, but odds are it's another woman messaging you. Whet her he knows about it or not, girl, save yourself. He's messy. He's a liar. He's a womanizer. Sorry to be blunt, but there's no happy ending here.
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I agree with what others have posted. Normally I would have said, talk to him, don't just take the text seriously. But his refusing a visit, not calling, etc. He is making it clear he is done. Save yourself any more pain. Don't even try to play a game here. Even if you do reestablish a relationship... will you ever trust him completely? Find someone who will treat you right, because what he is doing is not right.
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I'm going to concur with the advice others are giving.


He's refusing visits. He's clearly seeing other women. He's not calling.


This relationship is done.


And to boot, it sounds like he feels so bothered by whatever your efforts are to reach out that he's having strangers telling you to stop.


You need to stop focusing on him and focus on taking care of yourself.


Sometimes a person is so wrong for you that even they will tell you how wrong they are for you. When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE THEM.


Good luck. You do deserve love and support. It's not going to come from him.


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Sorry for the ill given advice on my part OP.

No advice given with good intent is ill-given, Raf's, you did fine. Hopefully OP has read through the thread and considered both her own experience as well as the input of everyone and come to a decision that works best for her
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Yes move on cause clearly he was not man enough to even approach you on the situation himself instead had an unknown person to contact you and tell you....
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Have you tried to talk to him? I feel like it is always better to hear from someone you love. I hope that you guys will be able to sort things out.
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Have you tried to talk to him? I feel like it is always better to hear from someone you love. I hope that you guys will be able to sort things out.
OP has not been back to the forum in a few weeks, but other posts indicate that she is not getting calls from him and he is refusing to come out to visits. Speaking with him might not be an option.

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Please move on he seems like u were just a side chick forget him he’s in a worst situation than you remember ur free and ur free from him


read each post prior to answering this, and PHELLY this is it, straight talk is best and real talk, and you're doin just that.

great post icam.(i couldn't agree more) yep.
I sure also wouldn't be "hurting/stressed because of a stranger." I pray by now the OP(ORIGINAL POSTER)spoke to her guy about this,

and has it resolved, life too short to play juego en vida. (games)in life...adios.
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