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wickzfinest727 · #76 07-09-2012, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Kcouture7

When i talk to him now, its like i have my chad back. Hes not on drugs hes not doin anythin dumb hes focused on coming home.
And i know its not easy, and its gonna be hard for me to trust him again when he comes home. But the way i look at it is like this. I have just a few short years to turn my life around, for me and my boys. I started to go down a path with him that was leading me no where. And if he comes home and just goes back to the way things were before i need to know that i can be self sufficient, with or without him.

Yeah that's a good way to look at it! That's one thing I think when he comes home I don't want to lose my independence that I've learned to have since he hasn't been home I tell him all the time there's something's he has to let me do for myself even though they want to over achieve to show how much we mean an that they've changed which I love but ya I'm happy for you that you turned yourself around we all live an learn

490sndr · #77 07-29-2012, 11:30 AM

wow, that must be how my son feels also. it hurts my heart and i am crying as i type. he is brave to let u know how it really is behind bars. thanks for sharing.

wickzfinest727 · #78 08-03-2012, 09:18 AM

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Originally Posted by 490sndr

wow, that must be how my son feels also. it hurts my heart and i am crying as i type. he is brave to let u know how it really is behind bars. thanks for sharing.

No problem an yes he's come a long way he was very quiet an never wanted to expose me to the prison stuff an worry me but it in a weird way makes me feel a little better to know what he goes through an his feelings so I can some what understand!

MatchToHisFuse · #79 08-26-2012, 06:59 PM

Thanks for sharing... That's an AH-MAZING poem!

wickzfinest727 · #80 08-27-2012, 12:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MatchToHisFuse

Thanks for sharing... That's an AH-MAZING poem!

Thank you glad you like it

xanthra · #81 08-28-2012, 09:44 AM

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Elequently put. This may be an opposite approach to the 'scared straight' technique most prisons/jails use on teenagers by exposing them to angry prisoners. Your thoughts are deep and personal, where the real battle is fought. I wonder if teens read something like this from you if they would change their lives?

wickzfinest727 · #82 08-28-2012, 10:49 AM

I guess its possible! It tore me apart reading this but its the harsh reality to what they have to go to thanks for reading

justnana53 · #83 12-28-2012, 09:28 AM

Perhaps his writing is good therapy, and obviously it was very thought provoking. Wishing you both brighter lives ahead!

epicbeyouty · #84 03-06-2013, 11:54 PM

And the tears are streaming now. What a very vivid description of what's it's like in there. Not ever CO is cold hearted and uncaring. I know because I was one for a short period of time and I honestly couldn't take it. I could see it on the inmates faces and my heart went out to a lot of them. The conditions they're faces with is inhumane to say the least. And the restrictions and pressures are major over kill. And they really are just numbers. I can remember the inmates in my dorm being shocked that I remembered all of their names in my first week there. One actually told me they hadn't heard a CO call them anything but "inmate" in 3 years and thanked me for it. Broke my heart.

Thank you for sharing. My love has been in for 8 years with 5 more to go. He tells me when I say something he isn't familiar with and he reminds me he'll have a lot of adjusting to do. My job is to be there for him and help him. I needed to read this, to remember.

Candy4U · #85 03-07-2013, 12:32 AM

Thank you for sharing this with us.

myheartistaken · #86 03-27-2013, 07:50 AM

Thank you for sharing. My friend has been in prison since we were 16. We are 41 now. My heart breaks for these men and women.

PoppasLady1217 · #87 04-03-2013, 07:11 AM

Wow that really just brought me to tears. It hurts to know the man I love has to endure so many things, more mental and emotional than anything esle but nonetheless horrible!!

Lina0527 · #88 04-03-2013, 08:20 AM

Thanks for sharing as heartbreaking to know how much prison breaks down our loved ones instead of building them up.

marie8899 · #89 04-07-2013, 11:05 AM

Please tell your man he is already an excellent writer. I almost couldn't read it all because I know it's true from talking to my son and seeing how he is when he first comes to the visiting room--tense, checking to make sure no one can hear us or is watching us, harder attitude. I have to respect his survival skills in there, but I also worry about what prison will do to him over 6 more years. Even worse for those who are in a SHU and/or those who have longer incarcerations.

No one really can tell another what their loved one is enduring, as has been said before. I am grateful to hear accounts of what my son is probably dealing with, so that I can be more understanding of his reality right now and when he gets out. That's why I think visits and phone calls, when possible, are so important, because I have a way to remind him of who he really is, of his humanity, and that he is loved.

cmsb · #90 04-07-2013, 11:23 PM

Thank you for sharing...and thank him! While everyone's journey through their time is different, it helped me to realize just a little more some of the trials and tribulations that my Love may or does have to face. It made me ponder what he thinks at night. And it makes me realize how much one of my letters really means to him even if its all full of what I cleaned in the house, made for dinner or sharing a joke one of the kids said. It is still an escape.