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Old 01-19-2009, 02:27 PM
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Default I have kept y'all in my heart & prayers UPDATE: I received word from my son

Hello (((ALL))) I am sorry I have not been around for awhile.
Hubby was gone for 32 days over the Christmas holidays and I was so down in the dumps.
It was sometimes all I could do just to get out of bed.
I have not heard from my son since the week after Thanksgiving.
I have sent him several cards and have not recieved any replies.
I know that he is being moved around quite a bit due to trials.
But it kills me that I have not seen him or heard from him.

I hope you all are doing well and please know that you are always in my thoughts.
My best to (((ALL)))
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Old 01-19-2009, 02:41 PM
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Pam, So glad to hear from you. I was wondering what happened to you and I figured, just like you said, you were in the bed and could hardly get up. If I knew a way to come through this computer and have gotten you up, I would have. Please don't leave like that again. All kinds of thoughts were going through my head. So sorry you have not heard from your son. I know that really bothers you. Is there anyone you can call, do you know where he is located since he's moving around a lot? I'll be praying things get a little better. Hugs, Debbie
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Welcome back. Don't worry about not hearing from your son. My son is JUST starting to get Christmas cards, and his stationary packets I sent to him in NOVEMBER. Everything will be fine. Your son will get a lot of mail all at one time from you. Those CO's give mail when they have time to do it. Stay warm in Wisconsin. Take care, and God Bless.
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welkom back home Pam. you were missed. prayers n hugs go out to you

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welcome back.. I know the stay in bed thing very well... I too am waiting for letters from my son. he only writes every 8-10 weeks. I don't know why, he says it's just so boring that he has nothing to write about. He has no other outside contacts. I worry about his mental health. He has always pretty much kept to himself but this scares me. Stay strong
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I know what you are going throw.The mail is so far behind in there.My son just recive a letter I wrote him the first of last week.And that was fast.
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Thank you all for the sweet posts, it truely means a lot to me.
I did get a visit from His girlfriend today, she just popped over for the first time since this all happened.
I opened the door and there she stood, she broke down crying.
I was shaken to say the least.
We had a good talk and she seems to really care about my son, I am giving her the benefit of the doubt.
She has been in contact with him and has gone to see him a few times, I told her that if she was going to be in his life she needed to respect me and keep me the Mother updated, as You all know I have been in the dark about everything.
She said she understands that and she will from now on.
I guess he has been trying to call my cell phone, but I did not pick up, I did not recognize the number so I assumed it was a phone solicitor, she told me the number to look out for and it is one that has been coming up. So now I know and I might get to talk to him soon!!!
He has been back in county so now I can set up a day to go and see him.
Well I just wanted to up date you all,
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so happy for you that you now have become closer to your sons g/f
it can only benefit your son to have two people who love him..standing next to him.....prayers for only better things for all your tomorrows.
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I was concerned from the start of this relationship due to thier age difference, she is 10 years older than him and she was his first girlfriend after he got out the last time.
Their relationship was pretty extreme, they either were lovey dovey or mad at each other.
But I have to say that she has stuck by him as he is going through this yet again, when I asked her how she felt about maybe waiting 10 years for my son, she cried and said she has given it a lot of thought and that she loves him and will wait......
So like I said I am putting my doubts aside and welcoming someone else who cares about my son into my life.
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it's all you can do....we are not promised perfection in tomorrow...just hold on to what you have today right now.
and psssssst i am at the age where i am usually the older woman in the dating world...
most men are near dead if they are older then me...............
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I am glad you are going to get to see your son. I also understand your apprehension about gf being older,but it is good thing you two are now able to converse.
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LOL, it just feels kinda strange me being only a few years older than her (6).
But hey, if she truely loves him then I will learn to love her.


By the way..the update on my son is in post #10

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Pam, so glad you are going to give the gf a chance. She may truly love him, sounds like it. I'm like justadeb, it can only maybe help your son having all the support he can get while in there. I am about the only one that visits my son. He has asked me the last few times about why his dad wouldn't ride with me. I can see the hurt in his face. So the more that visit with your son and the more support, the better.
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Thats what I am thinking, the more that care about him the better!
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Every little thing in our live's are all connected. When he's settled, he'll let you know where he is. Until then, be glad for all the other things in your life. I've had to come to realize that because I've made my son being in prison my whole life, I'm neglecting everyone else. So I've been seeing my Dr.s, playing with grandkids, actually laughing again, etc. Chin up! He'll be okay!
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I have to laugh, my 31 yr old brought by his gal of two months to meet me last night. I was so guarded and protective of my son. it is funny, when she left I said I am not sure I like her *only said that to BF). BF said to keep that to myself so my son is not hurt. poor thing, I know she was trying so hard. mothers sure want the best for their sons! she is comign for the super bowl party sunday and I will warm up more as I investigate her more..lol
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