Raising Children with Parents in PrisonFor the Parent left behind with children AND for the Children that have a parent inside. Discussion of unique challenges facing this group!
My daughter has two older half brothers from her father's previous marriage. I recently found her on FB and I'm wondering if I should make an attempt to build a relationship with her so that one day the kids can all meet. I know it's going to be tough enough growing up with her dad not around and I'm wondering if half siblings will confuse her even more :/ well I'm not sure if she would even consider speaking to me but before I even put my neck out there I wanted some opinions...
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MR. AND MRS. KIDD SEPTEMBER 15, 2012
I def think you should it really benefits all the children they get to know and.a chance to interact with there siblings something that would only be able to happen if daddy was around
I would my son is 4 months old and his father will be in prison more than half his childhood and he has 6 half brothers and sisters i try to make them be apart of there lives cause since they dont have there father they all have a part of him and bond someway somehow and have each other
Yes, my 2 (soon to be 3) have an older half-sibling. Thankfully she is already a part of our life, although it is not nearly as frequent as it used to be.
Our 1 year old has a half sister from an old relationship. She will be 9 this month. She is apart of our lives. Not as much as we like but we are not close in distant. You will all benefit from it. My daughter loves her big sister and she loves little sister. It makes us all feel closer to him.
I guess I'm hesitant because I am not sure what she has told them about their dad. they were divorced and estranged and have not spoken in about two/three years. and she is a very spiteful woman and even showed up at sentencing demanding the child support for the months he had been incarcerated. the boys were too young to even remember him and she has full custody. I would LOVE for her to know her brothers I just don't know if it will only end badly she claimed at sentencing that he had been calling her and threatening her from county jail and of course he hadn't been (phone records prove that) and I'm scared that she will make trouble for us...I guess I'm just torn.
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MR. AND MRS. KIDD SEPTEMBER 15, 2012
I think you should talk to your man and get his opinion about how he would feel about this. He knows her. My daughter is in contact with one of her half siblings and they are doing well but that could be the fact that only they contact each other. I do not speak to her mother and I told my daughter to not be talking about her dad in a negative fashion just take the time out to get to know each other. I am trying to get her sister to come down for the summer so I can take her to see her dad along with us. Hopefully it works.
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I think you should talk to your man and get his opinion about how he would feel about this. He knows her. My daughter is in contact with one of her half siblings and they are doing well but that could be the fact that only they contact each other. I do not speak to her mother and I told my daughter to not be talking about her dad in a negative fashion just take the time out to get to know each other. I am trying to get her sister to come down for the summer so I can take her to see her dad along with us. Hopefully it works.
the last time we spoke about it he told me I could try but that it would probably be a waste of time :/ i think if the kids were all older it might be easier...
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MR. AND MRS. KIDD SEPTEMBER 15, 2012
wow thats a tough call. my daughter has 2 half siblings and I know his oldest daughter's mother. we are not besties but lets just say it's a small world . I don't really run into her so I have not mentioned it, I told him that it is his place to. he wants to wait until he gets out in a few months. so we will see how it goes.
I have two beautiful daughters one is going to be 3 and the other one is bearly goibg to turn 1 there from different dads but to me they are full blood sisters no matter what....
i have no idea of ages here, but i dont think you should contact them.it maybe very upsetting to them.i as a mom would be very pissed you contacted my kids and may harm any chances of a future meeting.you want contact fb the mom. ask her premission.
i have no idea of ages here, but i dont think you should contact them.it maybe very upsetting to them.i as a mom would be very pissed you contacted my kids and may harm any chances of a future meeting.you want contact fb the mom. ask her premission.
uhm well I SAID contact "HER" not the kids. thanks for the response but that's not what i was asking.
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MR. AND MRS. KIDD SEPTEMBER 15, 2012
My soon to be newborn has a half sister, my daughter (2). Also a half brother, dad's son (12).
My guy hasn't talked to his son in years. He was 3 months out when we met, and had just done 5 years. Add on any time he hadn't seen his son prior to getting arrested. If I go on his facebook I can find his ex, but when he told her we are expecting, she said their son didn't care and hated him. He has only been in contact with her since getting out, so who knows if his kid is even aware that he is trying to get in contact with him. So I'm not sure if I should waste my time and contact her. I want to, but I have a feeling she is just going to talk shit that I even took the time to establish some sort of relationship between our sons. Even if to just invite her son to see pictures of his little brother on Facebook. I don't even want to mention that dad is busted again.
I think u should at least try...my grls hve a half sister tht is 2 weeks younger thn our youngest (sounds crazy I kno but we are n were not together lol) ive been trying but have not gotten a response or call back on it...i do copy pics of the baby n print n send em to him tho..it cant hurt all she can do is say no
Do your children have half siblings?
SEPTEMBER 15, 2012
she claimed at sentencing that he had been calling her and threatening her from county jail and of course he hadn't been (phone records prove that) and I'm scared that she will make trouble for us...I guess I'm just torn.
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