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Old 09-30-2013, 03:04 PM
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So today I come home to a letter from someone who was previously in prison with my husband ( diff facility now) okay I don't even know this person but the letter was basically telling me how pretty I am that this guy has seen my picture and yada yada than proceeds to tell me that he thinks my husband is having relations with a homosexual he was bunked with and who looks sickly and that I shouldn't be with my husband until he gets tested " he just thought I should know " than continues to tell me I could write him ba k and noone has to know. Well I don't know what to make of this or how this person even has my address. I never even thought my husband to be even remotely gay or to cross that way because of prison. Not sure how to even go about this ? My husbands been in the box now for 6+ months so we only write letters. I trust my husband but this has me all kind of weirded out?
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Old 09-30-2013, 03:15 PM
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It's down to trust your man or some stranger writing you I know who I'd be listening too but on the flip side would your husband admit it? Might go gay for his stay it happens
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Old 09-30-2013, 03:18 PM
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This guy is sneaky he has stolen your address and waited till he was away from your husband before contacting you. Would you trust what a sneak like that has got to say?
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Old 09-30-2013, 03:21 PM
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Kinda sounds funny that he is writing you now that he is at another facility....maybe cause he doesn't have to see your husband in case you mention it. Also he has been in the box for 6+ months, soooo IDK seems odd. I think the guy is probably lonely and taking a chance at you possibly writing him back. After all we are known to be emotional creatures that need to know LOL.
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Old 09-30-2013, 03:26 PM
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...I don't know which facility your husband is in, but i do know that Men get just as catty as women, ive witnessed it, it could be many variables, if i was you, i wouldn't believe this mystery person. Also, look this person up on the NYDOCS inmate locator
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Old 09-30-2013, 03:36 PM
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I've read threads like this before... Simply stated, this entire situation spells "trouble" (all caps). If he was SO concerned about your health, why did he wait to get to another unit to tell you? And if someone genuinely means "just thought you should know..." there's no need for the "you're pretty" nor "write me back blah blah". Personally, I'd bring this up to my man, if you are worried about it BUT it sounds weird all the way around & from every angle.

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I wouldn't give it a second thought. Prisoners have been stealing addresses and writing all kinds of crap for ages, believe in your husband and don't let anyone else's BS cloud your judgment. If your man is doing wrong by you it will come out eventually, without another inmate's interference.
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I agree with mrs.bug. Yes it happens, but you'll find out one way or another, and not like this... It sounds so 8th grade to me it isn't funny... If someone wanted to let you know, you would feel their concern in the letter, you wouldn't feel like he was trying to pick you up.
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I would have paid more attention to the letter if he wasn't looking to get something out of me. If he would have just said what he had to say and left it like that, then yeah I would be concerned.
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Old 09-30-2013, 06:14 PM
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I agree with everyone here...sounds like a huge load of BS! First of all, let's be honest with ourselves here. Inmates aren't typically "concerned" about others, especially someone they've never met. That alone would have me questioning this "good guy's" motives. And, like TX Angel said...if he's just wanting to warn you out of the kindness of his heart...then there's no need for the "sweet talk". This has scam written all over it. If it were your husband's mother this inmate was writing, I guarantee it would have been "your son is going to get beat up if you don't send money soon...I'm just concerned for your son's safety". Since, you're the wife...he thinks he can get in your good graces by giving such helpful information. I guarantee that if you were to write this guy back...it would NOT be long before he was asking for money. Just sayin'.
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I think it's weird also, and that he stole ur address and is on some sneaky stuff. Yes, trust ur man, but don't be naive. I would advise u 2 get ur husband tested when he comes home and 6 months after 2 be sure, and tell him exactly y. Even if it is false, it's better 2 be safe than sorry, this is not the type of thing u should play around with. I wish u the best of luck, and hopefully this is all just bs.
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HHHhhmmm. Joined today, the first and only post--and shares this with scant background? Either the OP or the ex-cellie is telling a tale.

Methinks a possible troll.


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...I don't know which facility your husband is in, but i do know that Men get just as catty as women, ive witnessed it, it could be many variables, if i was you, i wouldn't believe this mystery person. Also, look this person up on the NYDOCS inmate locator
Yeah that's the first thing I did actually!
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I agree with everyone here...sounds like a huge load of BS! First of all, let's be honest with ourselves here. Inmates aren't typically "concerned" about others, especially someone they've never met. That alone would have me questioning this "good guy's" motives. And, like TX Angel said...if he's just wanting to warn you out of the kindness of his heart...then there's no need for the "sweet talk". This has scam written all over it. If it were your husband's mother this inmate was writing, I guarantee it would have been "your son is going to get beat up if you don't send money soon...I'm just concerned for your son's safety". Since, you're the wife...he thinks he can get in your good graces by giving such helpful information. I guarantee that if you were to write this guy back...it would NOT be long before he was asking for money. Just sayin'.

Yeah I was thinking the same thing, but I'm defiantly not writing back, the more I think about it the more I'm like what kind of persons does stuff like that? Lol thanks tho will def not be replying !
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I think it's weird also, and that he stole ur address and is on some sneaky stuff. Yes, trust ur man, but don't be naive. I would advise u 2 get ur husband tested when he comes home and 6 months after 2 be sure, and tell him exactly y. Even if it is false, it's better 2 be safe than sorry, this is not the type of thing u should play around with. I wish u the best of luck, and hopefully this is all just bs.
I know I've spoken to him before about being tested prior to coming home, do the prisons test them before they release them?
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Old 10-01-2013, 07:23 AM
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HHHhhmmm. Joined today, the first and only post--and shares this with scant background? Either the OP or the ex-cellie is telling a tale.

Methinks a possible troll.

Lol I wish this was made up this was the last letter I wanted to recieve in the mail
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Thanks everyone it did sound really shady to me too, I think I was just panicking a bit when I read it.. I don't see why my husband would be "gay for stay" he's was only doing two years but maybe the time frame doesn't matter, I still want to have him tested before coming home for my peace of mind.. But thanks for all responses (:
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I know I've spoken to him before about being tested prior to coming home, do the prisons test them before they release them?
I don't know if it's b4 they r released, but I do know that they r tested while in custody. When my man comes home, we're going 2 get tested as well, even though I believe he wouldn't do that. When it comes 2 stuff like that, it's better 2 go that route. Because no guy is gonna say 2 their woman, "yea I had a homosexual relationship in prison".
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For pete's sake,i wouldn't even think another thing about it. If he had no ulterior intentions he would have said nothing about your looks,or even have wrote his return address on the envelope. Sorry this happened but i think it's BS. If you ever get more letters from inmates you don't know i'd just throw them away without opening them.
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Lol I wish this was made up this was the last letter I wanted to recieve in the mail
Well, thank you for taking my post with such good grace. Just discard any mail not from your husband.
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I'd return letters from unknown inmates without even opening them, just write "Refused-Return to Sender" on the envelope and drop it back in the mail.
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"Hey girrrrrl... you don´t know me, but you pretty....oh, and by the way...your man is sleeping around...I stole your adress...wanna write me, pretty lady?"....

...uhmm...I know where I would place my trust. Not in him.
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I think I would feel freaked out by a letter like that as well, but the bottom line is you trust your husband. I wouldn't trust the joker that sent you the letter for a second. The fact that he told you this and tried to get with you is shady. As another poster previously suggested, I would mark the envelope RTS and send it back. Take care.
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