I tried

[Seduced]

Well, it's over. I just need to figure out a safe exit strategy. Given enough freedom and support- he chose drugs and his old way of life and I can't live like that. I know that the reason he's so angry right now is because he's coming down and it will get better but it will only get worse. I won't be treated this way, I won't live with a man I'm afraid of, I won't live with a man who lies to me, I won't be called names, I won't be told who I'm allowed to have as a friend... The list goes on and on. He's crossed a line and I can't defend him or make excuses any more.

This sucks. I had such hope. Now I just hope I can figure out how to get him out and keep my stuff and myself safe at the same time

[Sheryl P.]

Yes,that does suck and I know the feeling as far as the drugs being put ahead of you.
It hurts so badly to know they could choose better and just can't seem to stay clean.
You are right that you deserve better!
I hope you call the local womens hotline and ask how you can get out and still stay safe.
I'm so sorry your hopes are lying shattered.
May your future hold nothing but good things and good people!
Huggs and prayers.

[skellerton]

So many folks here complain about it, but this is just the time when you are glad someone else comes along for him to run off with! You are right to back away slowly- ease him out and then lock the door forever. You can't do a thing about it.

[pisces317]

Originally Posted by Seduced

Well, it's over. I just need to figure out a safe exit strategy. Given enough freedom and support- he chose drugs and his old way of life and I can't live like that. I know that the reason he's so angry right now is because he's coming down and it will get better but it will only get worse. I won't be treated this way, I won't live with a man I'm afraid of, I won't live with a man who lies to me, I won't be called names, I won't be told who I'm allowed to have as a friend... The list goes on and on. He's crossed a line and I can't defend him or make excuses any more.

This sucks. I had such hope. Now I just hope I can figure out how to get him out and keep my stuff and myself safe at the same time

good for you cause no one deserves to be treated less then a hum-being,am sorry that this happen to you but am glad that your thinking about you and not what letting your heart dictate that he needs you and continue to deal with a abuser of himself and you

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by Seduced

Well, it's over. I just need to figure out a safe exit strategy. Given enough freedom and support- he chose drugs and his old way of life and I can't live like that. I know that the reason he's so angry right now is because he's coming down and it will get better but it will only get worse. I won't be treated this way, I won't live with a man I'm afraid of, I won't live with a man who lies to me, I won't be called names, I won't be told who I'm allowed to have as a friend... The list goes on and on. He's crossed a line and I can't defend him or make excuses any more.

This sucks. I had such hope. Now I just hope I can figure out how to get him out and keep my stuff and myself safe at the same time

Good for you, for standing your ground and putting an end to this vicious cycle. Lesson learned

I only hope you can move on with integrity, knowing you were better than what this relationship was offering you.

May you find happiness and prosperity from this day forward.

Peace~

[Hakimu-Rosetta]

Originally Posted by Seduced

Well, it's over. I just need to figure out a safe exit strategy. Given enough freedom and support- he chose drugs and his old way of life and I can't live like that. I know that the reason he's so angry right now is because he's coming down and it will get better but it will only get worse. I won't be treated this way, I won't live with a man I'm afraid of, I won't live with a man who lies to me, I won't be called names, I won't be told who I'm allowed to have as a friend... The list goes on and on. He's crossed a line and I can't defend him or make excuses any more.

This sucks. I had such hope. Now I just hope I can figure out how to get him out and keep my stuff and myself safe at the same time

*Hugs* With time, It will only get better. Find help and you will be able to pull through this. No More Excuses ^_^

[brooks]

RESTRAINING ORDER .

The police are not always the bad guys . You are NOT an evil witch for going to them. I HAD to. He used in the home, I (we) have 2 children. He was removed (not arrested) on a Sunday & arrested on that Tuesday for crimes comitted because he was desperate for drug money. I did NOT cause his crimes. I protected myself & my children. I WILL NOT enable, I will not allow my children to be in harm's way.

I spent the night & the next day at my brother's and running to the courthouse for paperwork to continue the Restraining Order, and on to another police station to give information to the detectives searching for him as by then he'd comitted several offences.

Yes, I was scared for months... scared that he owed a dealer who might coome looking for me or the kids as revenge, scared until he was arrested that he would come take the kids as leverage to get money (and his twisted idea of loving them..but not protecting them).

[shaunna]

I'm so sorry you are going through a hard time but I think you are doing the right thing by standing up for yourself

[hiswife1014]

Good for you in choosing to leave before things get worse, it is horrible living with someone you are afraid of. He will realize someday, maybe once again in a cell (sadly). Good luck and i hope you find peace & happiness