MWI - Am I moving to fast??

[tabathapope1]

Originally Posted by frostwoman1954

If he'll cheat on her with you, he'll cheat on you with someone else.

Michele

I totally agree with that.there is an old saying "once a cheater always a cheater". He sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.now maybe I'm wrong maybe him and his girl having problems.maybe he does like u.maybe him and his girl are gonna break up.maybe he will chose u.or maybe he trying to play u both and maybe u ain't the only two women he playing.but his saying he got a girl and asking for stamps and his moving so quick with u is throwing up some red flags to me big time. And I wouldn't want to be the other woman(and that is what u are) and I wouldn't want to be his girl and have him cheating on me with u.bad karma girl. I think ur setting yourself up for a heart break.my suggestion leave him be and move on. If u chose to continue talking with him do so as a friend and don't send him money or stamps or nothing. If he is using u or trying to he will get tired of being in friend mode and try to push u for more and try to guil trip u if he is trying to use u and u don't send him money and stuff he will give up and eventually stop talking to u because he ain't getting what he wants.if he really likes u however he will be your friend and take things slow and respect ur decision to move slowly.if he is not using u then the money and stamps etc that he may ask u for that u say u can't give him won't matter because he won't leave because u don't hand shit out to him like that.but a user will leave when he finds out he ain't gonna get it his way. U need to be careful with this. I don't like this situation your in at all.be careful because u know what they say "if u play with fire you will get burned"

[sarahas]

it may "feel like it's true" right now..but wait for another girl to come around and see how true it is...I think it's awful that you would even persue this knowing he has a lady.. and honestly if you do persue him knowing this..you deserve the heart break and everything else that comes with it

[reginaM]

Honestly from expirence .. let him go cause its going to be a heart break .. i meet a guy while he was locked up talked soo sweet to me said all the right things got out we hung out a couple times only kissed once cause my heart told me hes hidding something turns out he had a gf i had no clue yeah a lil diffrent from you situation but same thing i would say .. anyway long story short i had him on the right path once we stop talking he went back to her and now hes locked up for 2yrs cause of her so yeah stay away not worth the heart break

[ahora2012]

Originally Posted by onelostlibra

Hi everyone I new here and honestly never thought I would even entertain the idea of being with someone who is locked up. But here goes my quick story. My sister introduced me to the brother of her bf they are both away. We talk to each other every day/night for the past couple of weeks but its feels like its been longer since we met. We already talk really deep convo's with each other. ONLY PROBLEM is he has told me he has a woman but he really likes me and wants me to be everything LIKE my man. Sad part is I'm really falling for him already he says the right thing and really hasn't asked for much except for stamps.. He sent me the form for visitation .. ARGH! I don't know what to think I don't want to be used but I feel he's true .. He's down for 4 more years. so I guess time will only tell .

he said he has a girl? so hes cheating on her with you - and make no mistake - IT IS EMOTIONAL BETRYAL. aka cheat. he is lying to her - which means he is lying to you - why do you want to mess with a guy who is locked up and has a girl?
dont go any further - you deserve much better!

[BrandonsBabe]

Are you kidding?
Okay, first off, he's talking to you all day and night, but he has a woman? Well, when the Hell does he talk to her? It's only been a few weeks? Come on, he's playing you more likely than not. My guy has never so much as asked me for stamps. In fact, he didn't want me sending him a birthday gift, he wanted me to save my money...AND WE'RE ALREADY TOGETHER. That's the easiest way for a guy to get you-asks for little things first. He may be honest, but I doubt it, and if he is, that is still SO disrespectful to his girl. If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you.

[Just Jen]

So, you like that he says all the right things, but do you even care if he means a single word that he says?

Don't come here crying telling us how much of a POS he is... you already know that he's a POS by how he is being to his woman. But you're so special he won't do it to you once he's gotten everything from you he wants, right?

[OneOfMany]

Originally Posted by Just Jen

Don't come here crying telling us how much of a POS he is... you already know that he's a POS by how he is being to his woman. But you're so special he won't do it to you once he's gotten everything from you he wants, right?

It's the honeymoon stage. Once the hook is in, the calls will become less and less, the conversations will be more oriented towards his canteen needs and you, onelostlibra, will wonder "what you did wrong."

Don't say you weren't warned.

[chili]

Women should have more respect for each other, even for those they have never met. Onelostlibra please don't participate in hurting this woman. Being with a dishonest man is more trouble than she should have to deal with without you contributing.

[StayShort]

I was about to post then noticed this is an old thread the dates jump from 5/30 to 7/9.... No need...

[ahora2012]

onelostlibra - what did you decide? we are all hoping that you fired him!

[onelostlibra]

I am happy to say we are still together. He is no longer with this other female which I have verified through her; she is now 6 months pregnant and obviously not by him. She is also now living with a new man. So thanks for all the comments glad I didn't listen to them.. Have my first visit with my man in 3 wks .. CAN'T WAIT !!!!

[Rox73]

Originally Posted by onelostlibra

I am happy to say we are still together. He is no longer with this other female which I have verified through her; she is now 6 months pregnant and obviously not by him. She is also now living with a new man. So thanks for all the comments glad I didn't listen to them.. Have my first visit with my man in 3 wks .. CAN'T WAIT !!!!

It's always nice to see people in love and happy. Just keep an eye out because if you're a rebound or a revenge (because the other woman got pregnant by someone else) you're really not in a much better situation than being the other woman.

[Rachel C]

I haven't read everyone's responses but I will tell you this...he is having his cake and eating it too, plain and simple. If he honesty and truly has feelings for you than let him get out if his current relationship before he delves into another one.
I'm sorry because it sounds like you be genuinely have feelings for the guy but respect yourself first and foremost and if its truly meant for you both to be together than it will come about, until than though leave him be.
Good luck girly, wishing you the best.

[onelostlibra]

I feel that me and my dude are in a good situation at this point. When I met him I was just coming out of relationship myself so we're both in the same boat.. I know to be cautious with him but honestly I know that he's more worried about what I'm out here doing.. I know we started off rough but if its meant to be it'll smooth out in time ..

[benignneglect]

Imagine you were girlfriend #1, then imagine how you would feel if he was talking to another girl. He might not have any respect for either of you women but i would expect a woman (you) to respect herself and her fellow women because if we dont stick together - men like this one will walk all over us.

stop talking to him, he is a jerk and if you dont you will be even worse.

[100%skipsbitch]

Let it take it's course.. And if he has a girl already well,that's so bullshit and what's to say he don't do the same thing to you...

[slick's]

I am happy to say we are still together. He is no longer with this other female which I have verified through her; she is now 6 months pregnant and obviously not by him. She is also now living with a new man. So thanks for all the comments glad I didn't listen to them.. Have my first visit with my man in 3 wks .. CAN'T WAIT !!!!

This is yet another example of many of threads in which people ask "what should I do?" not really looking for advice but for encouragement to do something that the poster knows perfectly well is WRONG.

Besides that, ONELOSTLIBRA, you knew that you were not doing the right thing by sticking with a guy who had a girl, you KNEW you were taking part in something that was wrong all along or else you wouldn't have written your thread to begin with (I hope you never get cheated on because, if you do, I guess you won't have much space to talk shit about the other woman as you have been there done that yourself).

Regardless of how things have turned out, a honest man would never start a relationship behind his girl's back UNTIL he's done with her.
You are now justifying his and your actions holding on to the fact that this girl is pregnant of another man... Let me tell you something: you did not know that back when you decided to CHEAT on that girl. For all you knew when you made that decision she could have been a devoted and loyal girlfriend to your now man so I would suggest you quit coming back here with that triumphant tone in your words basically telling all of us who advised you to do THE RIGHT THING to go to hell because turns out this girl was cheating too. Two wrongs do not make a right and, just so you know, no matter how many excuses you make for your man and for yourself, back then you were both cheating on her!

Women should have more respect for other women.

I hope you never have to face being on the other side of the story and finding out that your man is talking day and night to another female... Although maybe you would underestand and encourage him to carry on doing so bearing in mind that you think doing that is ok, right?

Good luck in life.

[Psychocandy]

So you 'won' the cheater well done you. Hope your not back here in a few months talking about how terrible it is to be cheated on by him cause you wont find much sympathy.

[tee.dot.q]

Back and forth bickering stops now.

Any further posts irrelevant to the original topic will result it the posts removal and possible loss of PTO posting privileges.

Everyone go cool off and come back when you can play nice.

Thanks