Confused... MY mwi is being distant~UPDATE

[neyah1111]

I was recently let go atmy job the day before my birthday And now my mwI seem more distantMaybe it's in my mind But now he's not calling as much as you used to And really does not want to talk about it I was his sole provider And now that I can't be I feel like he doesn't want me Is it wrong to feel like that

[juss me6]

eh maybe hes trying to save money. or that also could be the case. my man knows times are tough out here and he even tries not to call so much and we arent mwi so it could be him thinking about the money situation or it could be him saying she doesnt have any money to help me anymore what do i need her for. i would seriously go with what your heart and mind tell you on that one.

[neyah1111]

Thanks my heart is confused so I just said give offs couple of days if I don't hear from him its what I think it is

[MissVal1920]

If I told him that I lost my job, then just at a drop of the hat he was like that, I would be thinking that I was being used. If it was myself, I would tell him my concerns and let him know that he should be MORE supportive of me right now, not less. If nothing changes, I would bounce. You didn't specify what your relationship was, but in thinking of my own situation (we are married) I would be furious and probably just walk away. That is not something to do to someone you love who is going through a tought situation.

[qpwings]

Time will tell what his motive is.

[slick's]

I think that if he truly cares about you he will AT LEAST write you a nice letter trying to cheer you up and telling you he will be there no matter what... If he falls off of the face of earth right after you lose your job, then you know what that means sweetie and I would go as far as saying you'd been lucky to find out NOW rather than years down the road or, worse yet, after his release!!

Give it a few more days and the answer will come to you.

Good luck and keep strong girl!!

[werewolfsgirl]

Could also just be the place. They have had a lot of changes and what not there lately. & also,what qpwings said... only time will tell.

pixy p loves & misses her werewolf

[HiZ*BaByGiRl]

Well that is how i knew my honey wasnt using me. Im all he has but he doesnt ask for a thing. He draws and hustles to get what he needs. He says me and the kids come first...hes coming home soon so he says just to spend anything i would send to him on some clothes for him.
I would write him and just ask him straight up. Never assume...if he blows up...well thats his own guilty consious (spelling?) and his way of turning it on you. If.he is a.man of understanding and isnt using you...he will underatand that you r looking out for yourself and know the possibilities and will clear the air. Either way you give him the chance to explain before making assumptions. My honey knows my concerns and y...he encourages me to be cautious!
Good luck!

[csgirlalways]

I can't say what's going on because I don't know him but if he's dropped off the radar since you lost your job, please keep your eyes wide open. I'm hoping it's not a sign of being used but don't get stuck in a bad situation. Praying for you!

[hisbabygurl2014]

Maybe he feels like a failure that he is suppose to be the man and he cannot take care of you and doesnt want to share those concerns. Or maybe he is using you. All we could do is make assumptions only YOU and HIM knw whats up. Ask him striaght up.
If i was him i would try to do everything in my power to make you happy and cheer u up and that you guys will get through this.Not avoiding you..
Like others said if it is what you think it is than its better u found out now than later.

[ilovecoffee]

My babe knows that I dont have a lot of money. He doesnt ask me for anything. i lost my job and he knew it. He asks me here and there if I have had any luck with a job. We just cut way back on the phone. He might be just akwkard about how he is to approach the situation or the bad side hes using you. I wish you the best!

[shaunna]

There is a chance that you may be paranoid/over thinking things ( I don't mean that in a rude way, just when people go through something like loosing a job it can make them more emotional) he might just be giving you some space? Are you talking to him the same amount as before?

[hisbabygurl2014]

Originally Posted by shaunna

There is a chance that you may be paranoid/over thinking things ( I don't mean that in a rude way, just when people go through something like loosing a job it can make them more emotional) he might just be giving you some space? Are you talking to him the same amount as before?

She said that he doesnt call as much as he used too...

[Southernsun]

IMO id lean towards the "not being able to help" I have bn down a bit lately due to unexpected expense myself and knew I had to tell him I couldn't help out as much this month (hrs got cut at work too to top it off) but u know when we talked I was so surprised when he said " dang baby I hate this u taken care of me stuff its suppose to b the other way around" then he had someone on the outside send me a text tone " never b alone" dang I love that man.
My point being when things are rough on us out here they feel like they can't do ' their' job to take care if us

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

[Bella#13]

Originally Posted by neyah1111

I was recently let go atmy job the day before my birthday And now my mwI seem more distantMaybe it's in my mind But now he's not calling as much as you used to And really does not want to talk about it I was his sole provider And now that I can't be I feel like he doesn't want me Is it wrong to feel like that

He probably feels bad about it and worse that he cant help u. My man is like that as i lost my job because of him. He may also be conserving his money w/ the calls. They will sometimes push u away for reasons of guilt.

[gettingthruthis]

Originally Posted by Bella#13

He probably feels bad about it and worse that he cant help u. My man is like that as i lost my job because of him. He may also be conserving his money w/ the calls. They will sometimes push u away for reasons of guilt.

I AGREE, I THINK HE WANTS TO HELP YOU NOW And can't, so its driving him crazy, so if he pulls back, he won't feel the pain, tell him something positive and try to back off a little until he gets himself in check.. did you loose your job because of him or no????

[slick's]

I AGREE, I THINK HE WANTS TO HELP YOU NOW And can't, so its driving him crazy, so if he pulls back, he won't feel the pain, tell him something positive and try to back off a little until he gets himself in check.. did you loose your job because of him or no????

I am sorry but I don't agree. Us women tend to always overthink the why's, how's, when's and where's of all the things that men do and the truth is that they are simple creatures that go straight to the point.
If they want to call you they call. If they don't want to have anything to do with you, they walk away... As simple as that.
In this particular case, EVEN if his reason to stop calling is that he is feeling bad about the situation, that would only show he is a very shelfish guy because no matter how bad he might feel, he SHOULD support her because she is sure feeling WORSE!!!

[Miss_A]

So she's lost her job and because of that he's possibly down/depressed and has pulled back because he wants to help and can't? I don't buy that. Not for one second. I would be very upset if all of the sudden the calls just stopped. Especially w/o discussing it first.

I agree with Miss Val and Slick. He should be more supportive. Even if he feels bad. And anyway, it ain't about him. It's about her.

[mrs.beautifly1]

aww grl im sorry to hear whats going on... but yea he shud be more supportiave of ur situation. wen i lost my job my man understood my tough situation and was suportive . but he never asked me to send him money he does what he has to do to get his things...but mostly he jux wants me to save instead of sending him money . good luck grl

[neyah1111]

Well here's the update everyone I received a letter and he is just stressing because he can't do for me and now he feels less of a man that he can't help me but I told him this fight will be hard but I will make it

[Southernsun]

Originally Posted by neyah1111

Well here's the update everyone I received a letter and he is just stressing because he can't do for me and now he feels less of a man that he can't help me but I told him this fight will be hard but I will make it

See when things get weird ya gotta remember men are not wired like us

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

[neyah1111]

Very very true lol

[Miss_A]

Well, good luck. Hope you find another job soon.

[ebfisherculp60]

Originally Posted by neyah1111

Well here's the update everyone I received a letter and he is just stressing because he can't do for me and now he feels less of a man that he can't help me but I told him this fight will be hard but I will make it

Although I did not post on the initial posting, I am glad that he gave you some clarity on this situation. As we all know, it's normal for a man to feel this way and they do not handle situations like we do. I would still keep my guard up a little bit and I mean a little bit, but keep your head held high and continue to fight girl!! Best wishes on your job hunt!!

[Rachel C]

Yes my man has also felt this way!!! I'm so glad that you got some clarification, I know you have to feel better!
Good luck in the job hunting I am in the same boat.blessings!!