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Old 06-18-2018, 01:51 PM
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Default So now it's in my face..how do I go on?

So now it's in my face for all the world to see that this parasite used me and used me solely for phone activation. I have tried to put myself in his situation but I can't. I can see lying out of shame or feeling overwhelmed maybe once but to OUTRIGHT deceive and lead on someone you know is ALREADY broken and sad is unforgiveable! He posted a pic of him smiling after me receiving a letter of him pleading for space as he is SO depressed he cannot function. Conversations of him with another girl on Facebook, all this other BS I never even imagined and wonder how can you just use someone and throw them away. I sent pix of me and my daughter I cannot copy and poems. I am so FURIOUS and SAD. I am sorry to vent here. I just cannot even encapsulate the pain that goes with such a deception. And no apology. All I did was look up the phone account and I apologized. Everyone keeps telling me get him busted and call that cell # from another phone but 'm above anything like this. Even for a RAID 47 like him. The photos he is putting on Facebook are a lie! He is only using black/white so one sees his true coloring. It's just wrong on all kinds of levels.
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Old 06-18-2018, 01:57 PM
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Goodness me how much more does this guy have to do before you block him from your life and move on. This is toxic and you need to come away. Use the anger you feel to give you energy to get away from this. Leave him to his facebook and games and other women .
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Old 06-18-2018, 02:16 PM
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Anger is better than depression. Block and walk away with your head held high. Be grateful you didn't waste too much time on him.

You are being directed to focus on yourself.
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How do you go on? You go on one day at a time. Fifteen minutes at a time if you have to. Just get him out of your life.
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Your kindness was exploited by a con artist. The fault is totally on him. The quicker you can put him behind you, the better it will be for your life.
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I think you should keep busy and occupy your time. Stop lurking on his Facebook as it’s not only making you feel worse. Spend time with your family and friends, a hobby, anything positive.
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Get off his Facebook and block him and anyone who might be on his friends list do you don’t see him. No excuses. Just do it.
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Default So now it's in my face..how do i go on?

Girlfriend, block this man!

I know youíre hurt and angry, but you WILL be okay. I promise.

You canít have been with this POS for more than a couple months, and it was, from what youíve said, a rebound to avoid the pain of your last relationship ending. You were in love with the idea of him, with the false image he was selling you, with the feelings he evoked in you, not HIM.

He conned you and hurt you, but the reality is heís just a blip on your radar. One day, in the not too distant future, youíll wake up and heíll be nothing but a distant memory that leaves a slightly bad aftertaste in your mouth.

Block him and focus on YOU. Focus on building a new life for yourself, free of conmen and abusers, and full of the newfound strength youíll gain from the heartaches youíve been through lately.
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Get off social media for crying out loud. Do you like the pain? Why are you doing this to yourself? This is another thread from you where you are still somewhat blaming yourself - stop this shit!! You were sucked in by a con and you've got to shake him off.
Take care of yourself and your child and realize that he USED you.
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It’s only in your face because you are putting your face deliberately in it.

Here’s a 5th vote for STOP LURKING HIS SOCIAL MEDIA.
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And if technically possible, deactivate the cell.
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Let go of being powerless. You make a choice and you make it now. Torture yourself or free yourself.you are the only one hurting yourself at this point. Once you see this, you can stop it.
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Yes, you all are right. Anyway it seems he had a girlfriend already, someone incarcerated like him. I understand I am better off but it's just the thought of how does someone DELIBERATELY lie and pretend to care when they just want something monetary? Maybe I sound naive to you. Until it happens to you, you just don't understand the heartache. I truly believe these type of guys don't truly want a good, clean, classy woman. They always go back to what they're used to. The ones who will lie with them, steal, and do every illegal thing that got them there. I'd say until they're out for a while, don't even mess with them. I'm glad I checked his Facebook that he made such a big deal of me putting him on. So I can see what he truly is. People have told me do this or that, get him in trouble-but I am a class act. I just want to get over it and not feel this immense pain and deception is all.
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Yes, you all are right. Anyway it seems he had a girlfriend already, someone incarcerated like him. I understand I am better off but it's just the thought of how does someone DELIBERATELY lie and pretend to care when they just want something monetary? Maybe I sound naive to you. Until it happens to you, you just don't understand the heartache. I truly believe these type of guys don't truly want a good, clean, classy woman. They always go back to what they're used to. The ones who will lie with them, steal, and do every illegal thing that got them there. I'd say until they're out for a while, don't even mess with them. I'm glad I checked his Facebook that he made such a big deal of me putting him on. So I can see what he truly is. People have told me do this or that, get him in trouble-but I am a class act. I just want to get over it and not feel this immense pain and deception is all.
You start with forgiving yourself for trusting and believing in someone. This will all be a blip in your radar of life. You have many more pressing issues to focus on. Turn your attention and shift focus. Life will get better the minute you choose it to be.
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I think itís great of you to take the high road. In the end, getting him in trouble wonít heal you or take away your pain.

I donít understand how people can treat others the way you were treated. I genuinely donít. But I do know you met him in prison, a place that is full of people who are there precisely for lying, cheating, and stealing for monetary gain. It wonít help you in this situation, but i donít think I would go fishing for men in that pond again if I were you.
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I hope you can move on now. You wonít get any answers from him itís best just on and leave the mess behind. Leave him and his girl to the lying and cheating. You will feel so much better when you are free of it .
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Get off social media for crying out loud. Do you like the pain?

Why are you doing this to yourself?

This is another thread from you where you are still somewhat blaming yourself - stop this shit!! You were sucked in by a con and you've got to shake him off.

Take care of yourself and your child

and realize that he USED you.


another post chica, you're so right ... Good evening, mizzy
and well said, again. I co-sign. Each word tonight.hugs and blessings.
Adios.
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You should just go on. Stop care about it. Stop waste time. Life is short. Just go out of all social, and live ure life.
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You're angry, and rightfully so. However, you're placing too much blame on yourself. He's a con man. They know what to look for in a person when they want to manipulate and take advantage. My ex took one look at me and could tell I was vulnerable. I was an easy mark. He took me for everything I had, and then some.



We have a child together, so I can't simply cut him out of my life. Right now, I'm seeing a counselor and it's been helpful. I've identified areas I need to work on to hopefully avoid making myself an easy target for him or anyone else.
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Everyone makes mistakes. You're only human. All you can do, is live and learn. Hopefully you have done both and can move on.

There are good guys out there. Lots of them.
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