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Old 07-09-2018, 11:16 PM
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Default I havenít heard from my son who was transferred on 07/03/18

My 19 year old son took a deal and was sentenced to 19/23 years. Iím having a super hard time processing all of this. Itís a complete NIGHTMARE to say the least! Our hearts are broken into a million pieces! We are trying to hold ourselves together to be strong for him (heís the strongest soul I know). He completed his 30 day intake at Coffee Creek Correctional Facility. The last I talked with him was on 06/26/18, it was a short call and he said he had to go and would call me tomorrow. I have yet to hear back from him. Iíve been a worried wreck. I looked up on Telmate on 07/03/18 and he was transferred to Snake River Correctional Institution on 07/03/18. I still havenít heard from him. Iíve written him letters, sent a message via telmate and left a voicemail and still nothing. I even ordered 3 books and had sent to him via Amazon. Iím so worried! What should I do? What can I do to help him and his transition? Any advise or information would be greatly appreciated!!! Respectfully, BrittainsMom
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Old 07-10-2018, 05:59 AM
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Breathe!!


All normal for there to be no contact right off.
He will eventually get your letters. Any move comes with some time of no communication.


It will be ok.
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Welcome to Prison Talk. I hope you hear from him soon. I'm sure he will call as soon as they let him use the phones.

You may be able to call the prison and ask a counselor or the Chaplain to do a welfare check.
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Welcome! I'm glad that you've found the parent forum. I've been here awhile and I will tell you early on in this sad journey this forum was my go to. I don't post as often but I still check into read posts every day.
We mom's and dad's understand the worry and grief you are feeling. It's hard to believe it gets better but it does. I hope you will hear from your son soon, so he can put your mind at ease.
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My 19 year old son took a deal and was sentenced to 19/23 years. Iím having a super hard time processing all of this. Itís a complete NIGHTMARE to say the least! Our hearts are broken into a million pieces! We are trying to hold ourselves together to be strong for him (heís the strongest soul I know). He completed his 30 day intake at Coffee Creek Correctional Facility. The last I talked with him was on 06/26/18, it was a short call and he said he had to go and would call me tomorrow. I have yet to hear back from him. Iíve been a worried wreck. I looked up on Telmate on 07/03/18 and he was transferred to Snake River Correctional Institution on 07/03/18. I still havenít heard from him. Iíve written him letters, sent a message via telmate and left a voicemail and still nothing. I even ordered 3 books and had sent to him via Amazon. Iím so worried! What should I do? What can I do to help him and his transition? Any advise or information would be greatly appreciated!!! Respectfully, BrittainsMom
Hi Britain's Mom,

My 22 year old son was sentenced in May to 14 years with parole at 10. It's incredibly hard to deal with this as a parent, true heartbreak for our boys. In California, they only get 1 phone call per month and it took a while for him to get our letters and write back. Mail is slow as everything is read. I've gotten into the routine of writing once a week. I send along pictures, jokes and articles. I've sent books and activity books. My letters are always upbeat and lighthearted. I know my son needs that. I'll go and visit as soon as I'm approved. I'm still waiting after 7 weeks. He still has not even seen his counselor. I think the prisons are very backed up. He should contact you soon. Saying Prayers for you and your son, please feel free to contact me with a private message if you want.
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Iíve written him letters, sent a message via telmate and left a voicemail and still nothing. I even ordered 3 books and had sent to him via Amazon. Iím so worried! What should I do? What can I do to help him and his transition? Any advise or information would be greatly appreciated!!! Respectfully, BrittainsMom
You have done all the things you can do and that you should do. We parents want to do more but we are limited in what we have ability to do. Just the nature of this situation we find ourselves in.

It's early. You will come to understand those limits, maybe never like them but...keep doing exactly what you are doing. Write him, leave messages, order him books. Perfect. He will really appreciate it even if it is difficult for him to communicate that to you right now. You will get calls and mail and will figure out more things you can do as that happens.
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My son was at Snake River, that was a while ago, he was home in 2007 after about 3 years there. We now have another kiddo in Fed, but that's not what I want to say.
It was several weeks before we heard anything from him after leaving Coffee Creek. I was as nervous as you, so this is "normal" (whatever normal is!)
He WILL contact you soon. Yes, you can call for a welfare check, I think I did (it was a long time ago) we did not have all the cool technology available now, so you probably have more & better resources now days. I believe we could get money onto his books quite quickly & that at least got him stamps & envelopes, etc & let him know we knew where he was & that we were with him.

Snake River was a fairly new facility, it's out on the flat, high desert of eastern Oregon. Dry climate, not much to see compared to the place my baby is in now. (stupid children, God, we love them so much, right?) Anyway, praying you have contact soon & your heart will find it's balance as you move through. You are among some amazing, strong, wise folks here who have tread the path ahead of you, be blessed & know we are all with you.
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Default Hang in there .

When I donít hear from my boys , I call and talk with the classifications officer if that doesnít ease the the Motherís cut feeling I call the main headquarters in Tallahassee. Which I donít know the name of your main headquarters .
My heart goes out to you for sure , but you have to stay strong ,I know it is hard going through it myself .
My prayers go out to you and your son .
God Bless and Stay Strong
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Welcome to Prison Talk, I am happy you are here! I am new too, but, I feel like I have found a safe place to say what I keep inside.



It's truly heartbreaking when we don't know what's going on and can't communicate! UGH!



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Often when an inmate is transferred they are put on a probation period. No visits, phone calls, or contact with family. Sometimes it's to keep him safe and give him time to learn his 'program'. Yes, it is a nightmare not knowing if he is ok and there is so much you want to say to him. Keep praying and make sure you have money on the phone account with the number he uses to call you. Stay strong. Keep posting, you will get support here. We all understand what you are going through.
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I am in AZ and my son is here. I don't know Oregon, so you might want to check the forums for that state in prison talk to get specific advice. It took 4 weeks before I heard from my son but most of that was intake time. Here sometimes they have no phones access because of lockdown and free stamped envelopes are only provided if 90 days of no outside support and no job.

I spent the 1st month reading all the prison rules. AZ has them online. You might want to see if Oregon does. For me, knowledge and information makes me feel stronger and better able to cope.

I hope you hear from him soon.
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