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Old 06-03-2018, 05:18 PM
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I donít think wanting to learn sign language or looking for a pen pal is weird or necissarily gang related. I donít think Iíve met a convict who didnít have some grasp of the prison dialect of sign language - itís a way to communicate from a distance or without being overheard, but itís hardly a ďsecret languageĒ in there. Now if heís asking you to look up gang signs and send them in I might be worried, but thatís seems unlikely lol.
Yay thank you. I was hoping so. Iíve been tripping out all day and it was ruining my day.
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Old 06-03-2018, 06:28 PM
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I don’t think wanting to learn sign language or looking for a pen pal is weird or necissarily gang related. I don’t think I’ve met a convict who didn’t have some grasp of the prison dialect of sign language - it’s a way to communicate from a distance or without being overheard, but it’s hardly a “secret language” in there. Now if he’s asking you to look up gang signs and send them in I might be worried, but that’s seems unlikely lol.
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Old 06-04-2018, 10:19 AM
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Thank you everyone for your feedback. Really appreciate it. Glad to have some perspective
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My love did the same. He asked if I would find his cellmate a girl.
Iím thinking... no... I donít know your cell mate. The kicker is recently he asked me to call his the cell mates girlfriend.. I was like... just a few weeks ago you asked me to find him a girl. Now you say he has a girl. Which is it... he was in the shiter. Aka doghouse
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Posting a penpal ad is deff not usual. Just from my daughter being on the phone with her bio dad who is in prison, i've heard inmates shout "have her get me a penpal" .
as far as sign language, honestly it very well could be used for gang activity, but also learning sign language takes time, and it's a whole other language that could benefit him out of prison as well.
Me personally I would send it if my brother or very close friend asked for it.
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My love did the same. He asked if I would find his cellmate a girl.
Iím thinking... no... I donít know your cell mate. The kicker is recently he asked me to call his the cell mates girlfriend.. I was like... just a few weeks ago you asked me to find him a girl. Now you say he has a girl. Which is it... he was in the shiter. Aka doghouse
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Posting a penpal ad is deff not usual. Just from my daughter being on the phone with her bio dad who is in prison, i've heard inmates shout "have her get me a penpal" .
as far as sign language, honestly it very well could be used for gang activity, but also learning sign language takes time, and it's a whole other language that could benefit him out of prison as well.
Me personally I would send it if my brother or very close friend asked for it.
Good to know. Yeah I actually was talking) in a letter to him and he mentioned heís trying to stay out of any bs prison networking communication etc while heís there and doesnít want to get into any sh** so I pretty much stopped worrying about the sign language thing since then thankfully
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Oh great so I wrote to his bunky telling him what info I need to post a penpal ad. Now I’m wondering is this a faux pas for me to write directly to his bunkie? I just told him he needs to write a paragraph then give it to Eddie (my guy) to send to me so I can post an ad. I don’t know Eddie is not the jealous type but it’s his cell mate and what if he’s weird about it? Things are really good with Eddie and I right now. Maybe I am tripping. Eddie included a note from his bunky is his letter to me but I wanted to mail it separately because I wasn’t sure if there was a rule about writing 2 inmates in 1 envelope. Wish I hadn’t gotten involved in the penpal thing
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Is that faux pas to write his bunky? I was just trying to help and told him about it
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I would have just sent the message in a letter to your guy. Who knows if it will cause a problem. I guess you will find out sooner or later.
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I would have just sent the message in a letter to your guy. Who knows if it will cause a problem. I guess you will find out sooner or later.
I was going to include the note in a letter to him but I thought there might be a rule against that writing 2 inmates in 1 letter. I donít think he will be pissed off at me just wonder if it might create issues between him & his bunky or if people in there Ďtalkí. Hopefully will be fine

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I think youíre putting way too much stress on yourself. Youíre doing both your LO and his cellie a favor. Iím pretty sure you donít benefit from this at all. So if they have a complaint about how you handled it; they can find him a pen pal themselves.

Iím sure it wonít be a big deal.
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I think youíre putting way too much stress on yourself. Youíre doing both your LO and his cellie a favor. Iím pretty sure you donít benefit from this at all. So if they have a complaint about how you handled it; they can find him a pen pal themselves.

Iím sure it wonít be a big deal.
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I was a little reluctant to post about this, but my lo asked me when he first got to reception if I could help his bunkie get a penpal. He phrased it in a way that was very flattering like he told him about us and how awesome I am etc. Iím thinking maybe he showed him a photo which doesnít bother me but I was a little annoyed by the request. This kind of request is unlike him. He said his bunkie asked if I had any Ďfriendsí after telling him about me and that he told his bunkie he would ask me if I knew a girl (specific racial preference) that would be willing to write him. I ignored the request at first then I said I didnít think I could help. I wonít help lol. Iím getting worried maybe heís part of a gang thing. He also said heís Ďfound his place among the inmatesí. That sounds like it. Then a few weeks ago he asked me for a print out of sign language for the alphabet saying some inmates had been showing him the alphabet. I did send that and thought nothing of it at the time. As a rule heís never asked me for anything $ or whatver since heís been locked up or even before. He is a tough guy lol Mexican he was a pro boxer grew up in Compton his charge was assault (on a man they got into a fight) and Iíve never been worried for his safety, he can handle himself. If he is in a gang I guess that could be good because they look out for each other he has protection. The request for a bunkie really annoyed me though. So itís the bunkie request that seems odd and if heís being asked to do stuff? No phones heís in reception still (been a month) and waiting for my visitor application to be approved. I am new at this too first guy (and last) in prison and his first offense


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So sweet chica, when the guys tell the "other men about us woman."I tell mine though be "careful doin' that though." Alot of snakes out here, ya know and i think you're to do what you're most :
>Comfy wit'
and if you're not comfortable doing it, i would not, but that's just me. and i wish you with tu novio/tu hombre, ya man the best of luck with your relationship...GOD BLESS.
Hugs and Blessings. adios..
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Aw.
So sweet chica, when the guys tell the "other men about us woman."I tell mine though be "careful doin' that though." Alot of snakes out here, ya know and i think you're to do what you're most :
>Comfy wit'
and if you're not comfortable doing it, i would not, but that's just me. and i wish you with tu novio/tu hombre, ya man the best of luck with your relationship...GOD BLESS.
Hugs and Blessings. adios..
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