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Old 12-18-2005, 04:22 PM
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Im just curious to how many here are waiting on their man coming home, in ten years or more??? Its an awful long time, and what is helping you getting through it??? Do you think it will be worth the long wait???
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Old 12-18-2005, 04:38 PM
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my husbands on death row, so that may be beyond 10 years. to stay strong i write alot visit, pray and just do things with my family and friends. i have to keep carrying on with my life but somehow some way i try to make my husband an everyday part of it. oh believe me i have a lot of hard days but knowing i have him by my side helps me get thru it....
and is it worth it??? yes it is. i love him to death, hes my husband, best friend and soul mate and id rather live in his world than live without him in mine.

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Old 12-18-2005, 04:42 PM
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My boyfriend is also on death row, but hopefully his conviction will get thrown out and we can be together.
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Old 12-18-2005, 05:10 PM
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My husband has served 6 years of a 25 year sentence, he goes up for parole next september.
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Old 12-18-2005, 05:21 PM
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My Husband Has 3yrs Until Parole At That Time It Will Be Almost 8yrs He's Done 12 Out Of His 30-60yrs Is It Worth It Sometime It Is Sometimes Its Not Really When They Act Like A Baby And Want Thier Way It Gets Hard To Even Get Along With Them How I Get Thru The Tough Times Now I Just Come Here To Pto And Talk To My Pto Sisters!!!!
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Old 12-18-2005, 05:34 PM
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I am one of those waiting my boyfriend was given 12 years with 85%. So in general he's looking at 7-9. Its been three years. I'm not going to lie its hard. But love will conquer and all it can do is make the relationship stronger. What helps us are the cards, letters, visits and phone calls. And it is worth the wait. True love doesnt come along much. And I will wait till the end of time for my baby. Thank you for the question it helped me remember that it is worth the wait.

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Old 12-18-2005, 05:47 PM
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Mine got 15 and at 85% that would be 12.75 years. Yes I am waiting and he is worth the wait. He has only been gone 7 months, so we have a very long time to go. I could move on like my famly and friends say that I should, but I know I will never find another man like him, and I don't want to, so I don't see the point in hurting us both by trying to.
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Old 12-18-2005, 06:14 PM
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The guy I have been writing to for a pretty good while has a long time to go.. and so far nobody has been supportive of my decision to stick by him. He has just recently told me he loved me, and wants to know if maybe we could take it a step further, and I love this man, its just he has a very long time. And I just want to be realistic, as realistic as my feelings are there is a thought in my mind that maybe this could not work.
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Old 12-18-2005, 06:30 PM
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My partner got min 8yrs max 14yrs. So I hope he gets parole!!! Like everyone else has stated yeah its hard somedays and then you get his phone call, letter or visit him and it makes you smile and your ok again.
We have only done 2 1\2 years so we have a while to go.
The two sayings I repeat to myself that remind me its ok are
I would rather live in his world than live without him in mine!
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They can't keep him forever now!
It is hard to explain to people why wait, Yes Yes Yes it is worth the long wait, You ever have someone complete you and you didnt even know you were not complete? We have been apart of each others life for 10 years now and I have always seen him to be a part of my life. Get what I mean?
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Old 12-18-2005, 07:17 PM
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We have thirteen and a half more years to go. Unless they pass the parole bill for federal prisoners. Most of the time it doesn't bother me but I think this time of year is by far the hardest. I missed him most when I was decorating the house, and now all the family events. I'm going to visit for New Years so that's the only thing that is keeping my spirits up.
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My husband received a 22 year sentence. We have 16 years left. Some days are harder than others.
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Old 12-18-2005, 08:06 PM
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my boyfriend has been down for 12 yrs so far out of his 30 yrs sentence so im waiting for him and days are harder than others especially around the holidays.. you know his son is graduating from 8th grade in may.. getting ready for high school that is where a dad should be . his first appeal was denied in 98.. but thank god i found this site with all you great girls to talk to .. to get through the nights with.. thanks for ALL listeing at times.. when the nights are rough..
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Old 12-18-2005, 08:34 PM
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My husband is serving 30 years at 85%. He's been in almost 6 years. He's not eligibale until 2015 for parole. I get thru by writing, having wonderful friends and most of all having a relationship with Jesus Christ. I have up and down days, but i am making it thru. My husband and I pray all the time together and you know what...it makes our relationship so much better.~~~Brandi
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Old 12-18-2005, 09:32 PM
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My boyfriend has already done 6 years and was released and is now facing 15 years or more. I totally think he is worth waiting for. i love him so much and could never see myself with anyone else. it is really hard but I get to see him at least twice a week and talk to him on the phone.
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Old 12-18-2005, 09:36 PM
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Tristan got 3-20 years. His first chance at parole is 2008 so hopefully its the earlier date.
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Old 12-19-2005, 06:34 AM
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My husband has been down 3 years and 3months, and we still have 10 years left to go.
I get through everyday knowing that I have to be strong for the two children that we have together. Not only that, but I love my husband more than life itself and to me he's worth waiting for.
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Old 12-19-2005, 08:35 AM
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I'm waiting however long it takes. He's been down for nearly 11 years so far, with his mandatory release being in 2017 unless parole is granted sooner (HOPEFULLY much sooner than that!).
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Old 12-19-2005, 08:37 AM
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He's been in since 2003....parole is up 2019...mandatory release 2052. So I'll be here for QUITE SOME TIME!
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My husband has 10 more years to go and he's worth the wait. It's very hard but I do manage with family, friends and writing. I do see him weekly so that's a blessing.
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Ray has 40 max, 20 before parole and we are 15 months in. I'm doing it with him because I cant imagine life without him anymore.
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Old 12-19-2005, 08:38 PM
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My guy has served 13 of 90 with his first chance at parole in '07. I met him in '01, things got personal after a few years. I held out that long. At first no one was supportive, I heard all the usual, "What can he do for you?" "He's using you." etc. You are the only one that can decide if it is worth it to take it to the next level. It is hard. Anyone that tells you otherwise is fooling themselves. I have found it to be worth it and more.
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Old 12-20-2005, 05:16 AM
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In 1998, my husband was given 50 years (which is a 25yr sent. our state) He has been given credit time for education, but even still, barring our legal tries at this point, he could possibly still have a lot of time to do! I am committed, I know the road that lies ahead and I am not at all scared. It's worth it!
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Old 12-23-2005, 06:55 PM
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my husbands been down for 19 years and counting....we've been together for 10....i pray that he makes parole soon!!!!
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I have been married to my man since the beginning of this struggle. When he comes home it will have been 13 years- there is no parole or early release. What has made the time easier for me is having a full life and setting goals and acomplishing dreams My husband encourages me to take care of me and spoil myself. I work my ass off so we can have a good life and a future, I feel it's up to me to live for both of us. Most of the time, I feel my life is complete except for having him here in the flesh, I have learned to accept what is and is not within my control and focus on the things that I can change to make life better for all of us.
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