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http://www.johnhoward.ab.ca/PUB/C35.htm

http://www.prisonsucks.com/scans/IncarcRecid.pdf

http://www.csc-scc.gc.ca/text/pblct/...123/123e_e.pdf

these are interesting reads on The Long Term Effects of Incarceration, Release Outcomes for long term offenders
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Great info Mrs. G...I'm going to stick this one
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hey, great! If I find anymore I will send them to you to add!
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Thanks Mrs. G! I printed out all three articles and sending one to my Hubbie Bear. This is good stuff.
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Thanks for the info. I might have to send some of it to him. Thats good stuff.
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hello im new here . can anyone tell me how i can find any information on a release date for my son at farmington corr center at 1012 w. columbia in farmington mo? he is learning disabled so i get several different dates when he writes. [Email removed, Please see PTO Rules and Policies]
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This information is really great. I have begun to start reading through it all. My hubby goes to the board in 2 years; by that time he will have been inside for 25 years.

The one thing that always comes to mind when I read these kind of reviews is that I can't help but wonder how the impact of having support affects and effects the success rate of long term offenders once they are released. I have seen fellas with no support and those with support and I have to say that those with a solid support network seem to do just fine and those without are somewhat left out there to make it the best way they can.

So I wonder is it that the offender will fail because he has been in so long or is it that "the system" and society has not prepared him for re-entry to society?!?!?!
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Thanks For The Info . I Am Now Understanding Why My Guy Is Scared . Even Though He Says It Would Not Effect Him I Know It Will. It Worries Me To Hear Him Say Things That Would Indacate He Is Afraid While Saying He Can Adjust Fine He Wont Have A Proublem . If They Could Be Honest With Their Fears
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I wonder about that too!
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My poor angel...he has been in the SHU almost 4 years now.
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this here is really talking about those men who have served YEARS, I am talking about like 10-15-20-25-30 years and then being released. How it affects them -

My husband had once been very confident, over confident, but now that the time is so near...he has begun to face the realities of all of this time, and then being released into a whole new world, yet I think he will get his confidence back, and embrace that the fears are normal and part of the normal cycle of this life change for him.

actually, some statistics show, the longer time IN, the better off they will do, and that outside support does make a HUGE difference. A man coming home to nothing, no family, after 20 years will have a harder time than someone who has a home and a family to come home too, even if the odds are against both of them to make it out here.

I do not think the "system" has prepared them for what they will face. How could it? And society out here has pre-judgements that will affect the ex-inmate as well. I think it is VITAL for them to have support to come home too in order for them to make it.
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This is some of the info. I been looking for. My man is home now and so much has changes, I get the joy of watching him rediscover the "free world" again, and the despair of him trying to fit in to a world that now has a dark label for him. Im scared, He's scared. WE are scared
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I came across another article that is very informative on the subject. Here is the link.

http://aspe.hhs.gov/hsp/prison2home02/Haney.htm
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mnd4evr thanks for posting this. My man has done 17 yrs. I often worry about how well he'll adjust.

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mnd4evr thanks for posting this. My man has done 17 yrs. I often worry about how well he'll adjust.
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http://www.urban.org/UploadedPDF/410...ingHome_MD.pdf

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I have found all of these articles to be great and very informative; but I have to wonder about the effects of being a "long term" wife.

I was recently speaking with my sister-in-law and she is going through her own "long term" effects. Her husband was in for 25 years and he came home almost a year ago. They are still adjusting to living together. He has done things his own way for the past 25 years and so has she. Now that they are home together pretty often their ways are colliding. She also has this lack of trust of him because now he is exposed to other women, whereas inside he wasn't.

All of this made me wonder about the effects that being a "long term" wife has on us. My husband comes up for parole in less than 2 years. We have been married for 12 years. I have been living out here doing my own thing for that long. Now when I think about the possibility of him coming home, of course I am elated with the hope that he will; but at the same time I have to wonder how we will be together out here. I wonder if I am too much of an independent woman to now have someone else coming in to say "no, we'll do it this way" as opposed to my way. How long will it take for us to adjust to one another? Will this transition be a smooth or rocky one?

Just curious if anyone else has thought about these things or have experienced these things after surviving through a long sentence.
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I think about it alot...and then I tell myself....

If it was meant to be, it will be.... I know cliche but It is much better to think about what we hope for than for what could be, right? I know you believe that too Ronnie

I also wonder about what is out there written for the women who have waited 10+ years....I will only be waiting 6 when e gets out --He will have served 17) it is hard on me, I cannot imagine 10 or more....and who writes for us???? Who studies the effects it takes on us?

And how can we voice this without making the loved one feel guilty...?
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I think that we have been portrayed as the naive pitiful wives so often that no one really cares much about the effects on us because we "chose" this life. We have knowingly married men with long bids; so perhaps the belief is that we must therefore suffer all that comes along with it.
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I guess so....

someone had posted this and I thought to share it here with you...
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This section of thread came from "Ash" in "When the Doors Open and They Walk Out" thread......I thought it was so powerful and definitely applies to this group:

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"prisonwife" (which includes wives, mothers, girlfriends, sisters, and any other woman that loves a man in prison). The overview states, "she suffers in her own private prison while her only apparent crime is that seh loves a man who is caught up in the criminal justice system. Never has there been a more under-appreciated, under-supported and generally misunderstood group of women. But, don't feel sorry for her. She's successful, strong, educated, intelligent, and law-abiding. She's in control of her world and she's able to take care of herself." I think thatstatement says it all. I hold my head high to be classified as a "prisonwife".
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Wow, I have never thought about how much the time he is locked up will hurt and effect him. This brought me to tears but I am thankful for the insight. I tend to think about all that he is missing instead of what being locked up will do to him and how it will change him. God give us the strength to continue on and make it day by day.
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My husband and I talked about this very subject tonight. He asked me what concerns did I have about him coming home after serving such a long sentence (if he makes his board, he will have served 25 years). I told him that I am concerned about him adjusting to life outside of the prison. He has literally grown up behind those bars, so he is in for real "culture shock" on all fronts! I have sent him all of the articles on this subject as a way to help him prepare, as best we can, for his homecoming. I am confident that we'll make it -- One Day at a Time -- with God's help!

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Wow, I have never thought about how much the time he is locked up will hurt and effect him. This brought me to tears but I am thankful for the insight. I tend to think about all that he is missing instead of what being locked up will do to him and how it will change him. God give us the strength to continue on and make it day by day.
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We worry about this too...Don't we all? I spoke to someone the other day who had her man come home after 22 years and he is doing just fine...they are doing just fine

Think of all the wonderful things he will get to do and see!
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You are so right. My brother in law came home 10 months ago after serving 25 years and he is doing great. His wife stood by him and with him the entire time. They are just having a ball loving life and living life together! They are truly our inspiration!



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