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Old 12-24-2018, 10:33 PM
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my boyfriend is accusing me of lying about something on Snapchat he says that I send another man pictures of me just because one of my chat box a guy was sending me random snaps but I never replied back also heís saying that the shirts I gave him were another mans the shirts were male but I got them to sleep in them but they are way to small so I just gave them to him now heís saying he wonít marry me unless I admit it what heís accusing me of but I told him the whole truth. What do I do? I blocked him on Jailatm
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Old 12-24-2018, 10:38 PM
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How does he know what is on your snapchat? Why would you block him over a disagreement?
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Old 12-24-2018, 11:35 PM
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Did I see that you've only been with this guy four months? This is way, way too much drama for that early in any relationship.
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Old 12-25-2018, 01:03 AM
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This is very messy.
I just typed out a big rant about contraband cellphones and deleted it. However I will say, healthy communication is the key to a healthy relationship. This isn’t healthy communication. He can’t give you ultimatums, you can’t block him when you don’t get your way. I mean you can, but you’ll be miserable. You also reeaally shouldn’t encourage him having a contraband cellphone. Sorry, it’s Christmas the Chardonnay is talking, couldn’t help myself haha.
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Old 12-25-2018, 01:17 AM
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This is very messy.
I just typed out a big rant about contraband cellphones and deleted it. However I will say, healthy communication is the key to a healthy relationship. This isnít healthy communication. He canít give you ultimatums, you canít block him when you donít get your way. I mean you can, but youíll be miserable. You also reeaally shouldnít encourage him having a contraband cellphone. Sorry, itís Christmas the Chardonnay is talking, couldnít help myself haha.
Contrabands? No this is before he was locked up and we are allowed to talk to each other thru email we arenít breaking rules
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Old 12-25-2018, 01:19 AM
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Did I see that you've only been with this guy four months? This is way, way too much drama for that early in any relationship.
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Old 12-25-2018, 01:22 AM
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Contrabands? No this is before he was locked up and we are allowed to talk to each other thru email we arenít breaking rules
So to clarify... this is an argument that predates him going to prison? The snapchat stuff happened prior to him being arrested? Your OP wasnít very clear hence the confusion.
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How does he know what is on your snapchat? Why would you block him over a disagreement?
This is before he got arrested heís bringing up old stuff thatís bothering him .. I just get really defensive and angry when he accuses me of stuff when Iím the most honest girl heís been with
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Old 12-25-2018, 01:29 AM
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So to clarify... this is an argument that predates him going to prison? The snapchat stuff happened prior to him being arrested? Your OP wasnít very clear hence the confusion.
Yes prior! Heís trying to get me to admit I sent pictures to another man but I havenít and he wonít believe me, he even threatened to not marry me which I know a bluff but still itís stressful enough to be away for each other , I know we havenít been together for long and itís ďtoo much dramaĒ but we are both adults and know we want a future together.
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What do you do? Nothing. It seems like y'all have a similiar approach to problems and I'm sure things will take their natural course. Best to you.

As a side note: when you post on a forum asking for opinions, you will get them. You may not like all of them, but as our Sages say-- take what fits, leave the rest.
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Yes prior! Heís trying to get me to admit I sent pictures to another man but I havenít and he wonít believe me, he even threatened to not marry me which I know a bluff but still itís stressful enough to be away for each other , I know we havenít been together for long and itís ďtoo much dramaĒ but we are both adults and know we want a future together.
My best advice when he gets insecure and in his feelings like this, is to not combat fire with fire. Donít bite back. This is a projection of his insecurity, donít take it personally. Iíd assume heís struggling with the realities of being locked up and away from you. Reassure him, donít engage in attacking or combative language, and he will calm down. I definitely wouldnít block him, this will make matters worse. Sometimes you just have to be the calm in the storm.
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Yep. Just that. Dont argue with him over it. If you can calmly say.....we have talked about this, Ive explained it once, I dont need to explain it again.
Its all up to you what you believe to be true. I told you the truth, and you dont believe it.
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I donít read any judgment into this reply; an opinion YES, but not judgement.

Itís also an opinion I agree with.
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I donít read any judgment into this reply; an opinion YES, but not judgement.

Itís also an opinion I agree with.
Ok I had a run in with my opinion and it got deleted
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This is a support site I wasnít asking for you ur judgement
Actually, youíre asking us to evaluate your situation and give our opinion. That is judging. Just because you donít like her opinion doesnít make it bad.
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Ok I had a run in with my opinion and it got deleted
Name calling is different from sharing an opinion. It is called tact.

IMHO, there seems to be immaturity on both parts. You both barely know each other. You are learning about each other and more so now that you are in a very stressful, serious situation.

He doesnt trust you and you dont trust him. You dont like what he says,you block him and on a holiday. The block should be reserved for when you are done. Not like online where you friend or unfriend someone to make a point. It is like hanging up the phone or purposely not answering. All manipulations for control over a situation.

Unless you both learn to communicate like adults, you will be in for a hard road. You both may like the drama, look for the shoe to drop, etc. Life does not need to be that way.
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I think it is a good time to close this thread after the above post - the OP has asked her account to be closed
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