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Old 04-26-2018, 03:50 AM
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My girlfriend hasn't responded to the last two letters i wrote her and she doesn't call as much as she use to. I visit her every sunday and can tell she loves me. She told me sometimes she doesn't feel like talking to anyone. I am worried I'm losing her.
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Old 04-26-2018, 04:18 AM
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Give her time and space and don't panic. She's in a totally different environment than your are and her days look much different... She's dealing with a ton of stuff so don't apply pressure in any way... be open and honest in your conversation but what none like is someone (girl or guy) that's insecure.
If you can't stand the "heat" get out... But tell her how this makes you feel but expect nothing.

And from your other threads/postings I can see that she's only in for a short time (compared to some other sentences) so really... get a grip and don't be panicky
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I wouldnt worry about it too much just give her some time.Prison is a depressing place she may well just feel really down and she needs some time to clear her thoughts.
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I just read another thread if she's on lockdown then yeah she might be depressed. Prison sucks no one knows until they are locked up how it is, so saying you do doesn't help the person locked up. But I know I'm very moody at times I hate to talk about stuff if I'm not in a good mood she probably has a lot going on in her head she's also on short time and that creates a ton of stress. Just chill and be the loving guy you have been.
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I know how it feels to be locked up. I was. It sucks. Especially when you deal with depression already. Not saying she is but could be. Lockdowns suck especially when they take away phones etc. Keep writing to her and visiting. Your head can get all jumbled in there trust me. She needs you to remain strong
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I totally understand its a lot harder for her than me. I just miss her so much and wish i could do more for her.
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The depression and boredom can make inmates depressed and lethargic. Make sure you write often and stay upbeat.
I am sure this phase will pass.
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Can you get creative and send her countdowns. I make them on the computer with silly clip art. 5 months until I get to hold you again! 4 months etc etc.

Also, talk future plans. Nothing to heavy. Send vacation spots and pics. Things to look forward too.
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My girlfriend hasn't responded to the last two letters i wrote her and she doesn't call as much as she use to. I visit her every sunday and can tell she loves me. She told me sometimes she doesn't feel like talking to anyone. I am worried I'm losing her.
I had a joke when Dee was in prison that if I received a letter it was a pretty good year.

They go through ebbs and flows. All you can really do is be understanding of that fact and let her come to you when she's ready or feeling up to talking. Chances are good that she'll come around.

Sorry to hear she's going through this. Unfortunately there's nothing we can really do other than just be there when they're ready to talk more.

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I totally understand its a lot harder for her than me. I just miss her so much and wish i could do more for her.
She's lucky to have you. Hang in there.
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I totally understand its a lot harder for her than me. I just miss her so much and wish i could do more for her.
Do what you can for her. She won't expect more and she'll appreciate everything.
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It's going okay. I'm just really sad and lonely. Thank you for asking. How are you?
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Has she written you back? Do you still visit every Sunday?
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She hasn't written but she called and i still see her on sundays.
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It's going okay. I'm just really sad and lonely. Thank you for asking. How are you?
Well I'm good thanks for asking. This is a very sad and lonely life, it's very hard and on some it's worse. I hated it when my husband was locked up I missed him so much it broke my heart over and over. I'd never do this again, that's for sure. I waited years and honestly if I had to do it again I think it would kill me. But my husband is gone and I won't ever get involved with anyone in or out who does anything illegal again. Be good to yourself and remember this will end!!!
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So sorry to hear that, you seem like a nice woman.
Thank you for him I'd have waited forever, he got sick and passed away after he got out of prison.
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I totally understand its a lot harder for her than me. I just miss her so much and wish i could do more for her.
Your response brings this to my mind: don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm...

You didn't put her there, she's got to put her big-girl panties on now and plow through it... and you... man up
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My girlfriend hasn't responded to the last two letters i wrote her and she doesn't call as much as she use to. I visit her every sunday and can tell she loves me. She told me sometimes she doesn't feel like talking to anyone. I am worried I'm losing her.
Watch corey wayne on youtube he has advice for every relationship situation. Worked for me
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My girlfriend hasn't responded to the last two letters i wrote her and she doesn't call as much as she use to. I visit her every sunday and can tell she loves me. She told me sometimes she doesn't feel like talking to anyone. I am worried I'm losing her.
t sounds fucked up to say but they choose to not call alot of the time. The way i proved that was she kept giving me those excuses & made me seem crazy until i put the pimp hand down and said fuck u im gone and get 3 calls a day ever since no days without for 2 months but she used to supposedly be in "lock downs" every other day smh what happened to those? & if she acts like shes leaving u no matter how hard it is DO NOT send letter or jpays and it might take a couple weeks but she will be back even better. They just try to see if your still weak to chase her. Gotta stay in alpha mode 24/7 u gotta be a man for her be her rock not her sensitive GF. Sorry but u see what im tryna get at?
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Sorry but u see what im tryna get at?
Yes, you're saying that you treat your gf who struggles with bipolar disorder with your "pimp hand" and expect that to turn things into a healthy, loving relationship.
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