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Old 04-02-2020, 02:23 PM
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hey guys.. i know my mwi (he is 22 and i'm 24) nearly 8 months now. we are writing letters and emails all the time.. of course we also had some sexual topics. in the beginning the sexual conversations were initiated by both of us, first only via mail and then he asked me lately if i can write him a sexual letter, he also mentioned he would like to have some sexy pictures of me in it. i thought about that and sent one out last week, also with a few pictures (but without my head).. the last days he didn't even talked about anything else than sexual stuff, i got the feeling he thinks of nothing else no more. i can understand that it's not easy for him being incerated since more than 2 years at such a young age but nevertheless there should be more topics on his mind in my opinion. he also told me about other girls he had before and described precisely what he did with them etc what i didn't really asked for. now today he wrote me that he won't be able to write for the next 7 days because his tablet is taken away and he isnt allowed to go into the dayroom no more as he got caught with porn flix out a magazine. i was a bit disappointed about that.. 1. why does he have to think about all the girls he had before on a sexual base? and why does he tell me about it? 2. why does he get caught with porn flix especially now that he knows i sent him that sexual letter with pics.. and i don't even know what they do with this letter now because he didn't got it today even though the usual shipping time is rarely more than 10 days and i send it out at the beginning of last week. i have fears that they destroy the letter or do something else with it because he was already caught with porn? or do i worry too much about everything and exaggerate the situation? i'm just kind of disappointed and sad..
did you ever felt like your mwi only thinks about sex???
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Old 04-02-2020, 02:45 PM
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He's young and hormonal and can't have any of it. It's not your fault but if you feel uncomfortable with the whole thing don't do it. He seems to be a little "stuck" on the sex stuff and it's getting him into trouble.
You cannot change him, accept it or leave it. He seems to be riding this out on testosterone..
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Old 04-02-2020, 03:17 PM
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Hi there, he is young and has a high sex drive its normal for him to be interested in sex and as he is deprived its understandable that he focuses on the experiences he had in the past.
You have fuelled his fire with pictures and sex letters. Its really up to you, if he making you feel uncomfortable and you would prefer a friendship with more varied interaction then either try and set some boundaries or find another friend.
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I agree with the other posters, however one thing stuck out to me. You stated that he is talking about all the other women he used to be with and all that they used to do for him sexually. Now, to each their own, but it doesn't sound like you asked for or wanted to hear this information. It sounds like it was actually hurtful to hear or turned you off a bit. IF this is the case I would discuss this. I would suggest that you state what you are comfortable with and what you are not. It's the same as relationships out here. My guy is 7 years younger than me. Of course because of this he has more of a drive. However he doesn't tell me about all of his other partners and if they were able to keep up with that drive because they were his age. Does that make sense? I hope this helps you to figure out what you are and are not comfortable with and how you can discuss this with him and share if you felt disrespected by him sharing about the other women.
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I agree with the other posters, however one thing stuck out to me. You stated that he is talking about all the other women he used to be with and all that they used to do for him sexually. Now, to each their own, but it doesn't sound like you asked for or wanted to hear this information. It sounds like it was actually hurtful to hear or turned you off a bit. IF this is the case I would discuss this. I would suggest that you state what you are comfortable with and what you are not. It's the same as relationships out here. My guy is 7 years younger than me. Of course because of this he has more of a drive. However he doesn't tell me about all of his other partners and if they were able to keep up with that drive because they were his age. Does that make sense? I hope this helps you to figure out what you are and are not comfortable with and how you can discuss this with him and share if you felt disrespected by him sharing about the other women.
i am thankful for all the answers and i also think that all posters are right..
however its true that the topic with telling me about the girls he already had in bed is really quite strange and i definitely felt some kind of disrespected. he mostly described them by their looks (for example 'that girl was skinny and tall with big big boobs').. like who cares. i did never asked for those informations and especially when he knows those girls haven't looked like me at all (i'm slim, average height and average cup size so i always wonder why he for example has to state that someone's boobs were very big). he also always mentioned how all the girls told him how good he was sexual.. i don't know if it's maybe just an ego problem lol. i think it could be frustrating being locked up and some men have to prove their manliness through that or so.. it's the only part where he acts that immature, so i think it's a good idea to talk with him about that, thanks! you are lucky that your guy doesn't feel the need to talk about all his previous girls. i wish all the best for you both.
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i am thankful for all the answers and i also think that all posters are right..
however its true that the topic with telling me about the girls he already had in bed is really quite strange and i definitely felt some kind of disrespected. he mostly described them by their looks (for example 'that girl was skinny and tall with big big boobs').. like who cares. i did never asked for those informations and especially when he knows those girls haven't looked like me at all (i'm slim, average height and average cup size so i always wonder why he for example has to state that someone's boobs were very big). he also always mentioned how all the girls told him how good he was sexual.. i don't know if it's maybe just an ego problem lol. i think it could be frustrating being locked up and some men have to prove their manliness through that or so.. it's the only part where he acts that immature, so i think it's a good idea to talk with him about that, thanks! you are lucky that your guy doesn't feel the need to talk about all his previous girls. i wish all the best for you both.
I think you should tell him how you feel. And if he doesnt like it than that's on him.. you have the right to speak your mind at any time. Good luck.
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i am thankful for all the answers and i also think that all posters are right..
however its true that the topic with telling me about the girls he already had in bed is really quite strange and i definitely felt some kind of disrespected. he mostly described them by their looks (for example 'that girl was skinny and tall with big big boobs').. like who cares. i did never asked for those informations and especially when he knows those girls haven't looked like me at all (i'm slim, average height and average cup size so i always wonder why he for example has to state that someone's boobs were very big). he also always mentioned how all the girls told him how good he was sexual.. i don't know if it's maybe just an ego problem lol. i think it could be frustrating being locked up and some men have to prove their manliness through that or so.. it's the only part where he acts that immature, so i think it's a good idea to talk with him about that, thanks! you are lucky that your guy doesn't feel the need to talk about all his previous girls. i wish all the best for you both.
I understand exactly how you feel and this very situation caused a lot of problems for my LO and I in the beginning. I actually called a break twice because of it. I told him that I could not compete with women he had been with because i could not be with him that way. I told him that I wasn't going to compete with them nor feel like an option. That I had to be enough or we couldn't be together. I felt disrespected and like I was being compared with "ghosts." He didn't even understand what I was saying and I finally called a five-month time out so that he could figure things out. When he came back into my life, he was wonderful. He has never crossed the boundaries I set and he goes out of his way to make me feel cherished. I came to understand that he came from the streets and was 26 when he got locked up for life. He never got to mature in the usual way by learning the difference between a good woman and an easy woman. He was deprived of his sexuality at that point and, in his mind, his manhood. I opened the door for some fulfillment. Of course, your young LO is going to want to explore that with you. He gets to feel like a man again. However, you need to be happy too. You need security from him, to know that you are his Queen. Set your boundaries and hold to them. If he loves you, he will not want to hurt you. I told mine to come back to me when he had cleared his dance floor of ghosts so that we could concentrate on each other. I thought I had lost him, but he finally heard me and it was beautiful.
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