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Old 11-26-2017, 01:31 PM
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I have been married and faithful for 8 years I met him in jail and he wanted me to Marry him so we did and he has been incarcerated until the 15 of this month and he was supposed to get out on the 28 so he got out early and nobody told me I was the one who was supposed to pick him up but his mom did along with his ex girlfriend that she is pushing on him and he promised he would be with me when he gets out but he abandoned me for someone else and I'm in a lot of pain I feel so stupid I waited for him I saved myself for him and now what he won't even give me a call wtf I still hope that he will but idk I am going to give him some time to get in contact with me but if he doesn't I'm going to have to take him to court to get a divorce I just wanted to feel the warmth of someone who won't abandon me which was supposed to be him I have never gotten roses and never been on a date in my life I just want to feel loved and wanted.
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Old 11-26-2017, 03:27 PM
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I have been married and faithful for 8 years I met him in jail and he wanted me to Marry him so we did and he has been incarcerated until the 15 of this month and he was supposed to get out on the 28 so he got out early and nobody told me I was the one who was supposed to pick him up but his mom did along with his ex girlfriend that she is pushing on him and he promised he would be with me when he gets out but he abandoned me for someone else and I'm in a lot of pain I feel so stupid I waited for him I saved myself for him and now what he won't even give me a call wtf I still hope that he will but idk I am going to give him some time to get in contact with me but if he doesn't I'm going to have to take him to court to get a divorce I just wanted to feel the warmth of someone who won't abandon me which was supposed to be him I have never gotten roses and never been on a date in my life I just want to feel loved and wanted.
Meet a man who is in prison and relying on him to be honest with you was your first mistake. And now your waiting again for him to get in contact with you??? For what??? He gave you your answer when he got out early and his ex picked him up!!!! Go get that divorce now move on with your life don't waste on him anymore. Wow
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Don't walk - run! to the nearest court where you can file for divorce!!! He conned you, or his feelings changed over time. Whichever it was, he hasn't had the basic decency to inform you of it. So he really doesn't care about you as you hoped he did. Shame on his mom, too, for helping him cheat on your marriage.

Be rid of them all with that simple piece of paper that informs him of a divorce; DO NOT WAIT for him to contact you or think about you or care about you. Care for yourself!

From now on, you can date, you can buy yourself roses if you choose, and you can find someone who really does care about you!
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But it's hard because I'm transgender and most men look at me as a one night stand and I deserve love and happiness
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But it's hard because I'm transgender and most men look at me as a one night stand and I deserve love and happiness
Being transgender has nothing to do with finding love. There is someone out there for everyone. And your right you deserve love and happiness. You will find that but obviously not with this man. I'm sorry.
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You can even get an annulment for his fraud... he married you to have someone to keep him comfy in prison.

If you don't want men to treat you like a one-night stand, then don't be a one-night stand. You don't have to screw every guy you meet. Set some standards for how you deserve to be treated, and then don't accept less than that.
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I have been married and faithful for 8 years I met him in jail and he wanted me to Marry him so we did and he has been incarcerated until the 15 of this month and he was supposed to get out on the 28 so he got out early and nobody told me I was the one who was supposed to pick him up but his mom did along with his ex girlfriend that she is pushing on him and he promised he would be with me when he gets out but he abandoned me for someone else and I'm in a lot of pain I feel so stupid I waited for him I saved myself for him and now what he won't even give me a call wtf I still hope that he will but idk I am going to give him some time to get in contact with me but if he doesn't I'm going to have to take him to court to get a divorce I just wanted to feel the warmth of someone who won't abandon me which was supposed to be him I have never gotten roses and never been on a date in my life I just want to feel loved and wanted.
Sorry to sound rude but it sounds like you were lied to and fell for his "game". I would file for divorce whether he called me or not...standing beside him for 8 years, planning a future and he gets released and goes to Mom and his ex? Hell no to the no...not acceptable!

Kick pillows, scream at the top of your lungs, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and head to the courthouse. Never been on a date and married this guy, never having known him on the outside? Whoa...that's a tough one for me to grasp. Again, dust yourself off, head to the courthouse and move on.

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Being transgender has got nothing to do with it so please don't even think that. I don't know about the US but in the UK you would get an annulment as you haven't consummated the marriage but you need rid of that scumbag. Hold your head high and you will find someone who will love and cherish you. Quit the one night stands and love yourself. In the words of Ru Paul "If you can't love yourself, how the hell can you love someone else".
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I have been married and faithful for 8 years I met him in jail and he wanted me to Marry him so we did and he has been incarcerated until the 15 of this month and he was supposed to get out on the 28 so he got out early and nobody told me I was the one who was supposed to pick him up but his mom did along with his ex girlfriend that she is pushing on him and he promised he would be with me when he gets out but he abandoned me for someone else and I'm in a lot of pain I feel so stupid I waited for him I saved myself for him and now what he won't even give me a call wtf I still hope that he will but idk I am going to give him some time to get in contact with me but if he doesn't I'm going to have to take him to court to get a divorce I just wanted to feel the warmth of someone who won't abandon me which was supposed to be him I have never gotten roses and never been on a date in my life I just want to feel loved and wanted.
This has me so pissed off. He needs to pay. Not you, but God. And I mean a lot. Im sorry this happened. Smooches
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You are worthy, you are wonderful, you are important. DON'T let him ruin you. File that divorce, start your new life without him. It's easier said than done, but he has shown his true colors. You are in love with the man you THOUGHT he was, not the man he truly is. Don't take it as a loss, take it as a lesson.
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