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KDs Lady · #1 08-09-2012, 11:16 AM

My fiancé and I have been tryin to get married its been almost 3 mos our paperwork still isn't done yet im getting frustrated with this whole process im starting to not even wanna get married anymore we have our rings already i have my outfit everything and his counselor taking his sweet time we argue about this i know its not his fault but it makes me wonder if hes having doubts even though he's always wanted to marry me even before he was locked up need some feedback

chosenmemories · #2 08-09-2012, 11:30 AM

Unfortunately getting married to someone incarcerated can be a long arduous process. It is frustrating when you want things done on your time, but the DOC works on their own time. It took us 9 months to finally get all of our approvals, interviews, etc. completed. Marriage is suppose to be for life, til death do you part right? So what is the harm in having to use your skills in patience here? I do not think it is an issue of your fiance having second thoughts. This process is out of his hands. If he did not want to get married he could have easily put a stop to the process. Try not to stress and just enjoy being in love. Your special day will get here soon enough =)

wtomatoo1030 · #3 08-09-2012, 11:38 AM

I know it's hard and it takes so long, Try to be patient and dont stress , everything will be fine!

dalesgirl · #4 08-09-2012, 11:41 AM

I hate corrections. They move at their own turtle slow pace. But i have learned to accept it and be patient. It takes time. If you trust him enough to get married,l trust him enough to get the paperwork done. Fighting with him wont change ANYTHING.

NeverDull · #5 08-09-2012, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by KDs Lady

My fiancé and I have been tryin to get married its been almost 3 mos our paperwork still isn't done yet im getting frustrated with this whole process im starting to not even wanna get married anymore we have our rings already i have my outfit everything and his counselor taking his sweet time we argue about this i know its not his fault but it makes me wonder if hes having doubts even though he's always wanted to marry me even before he was locked up need some feedback

I hope you are just venting when you say those things. Because if you are seriously having doubts about getting married because it's taking too long then maybe you need to rethink getting married at all! This is the rest of your lives...three months or twelve months shouldn't make a difference. And wondering if he has doubts because of paperwork taking too long?? These are things that are out if your control and let me tell you there are MANY more things that will be even tougher and more out of your control in your lives together as a married couple...if you don't think you can handle this then maybe you should take a step back and reevaluate things? I understand you being excited to get married but this is a minor inconvenience...marriage is NOT about a wedding date or saying "I do"...it's about the rest of your lives. I certainly am not trying to jump on you or anything, it's just that those comments struck me as strange.

KDs Lady · #6 08-09-2012, 11:56 AM

I don't have an issue with waiting i just tell him when it's done we will go from there really i'm tired of the jail theyare slow about everythingits driving me crazy im becoming a bridezilla lol im ready to be his wife already

KDs Lady · #7 08-09-2012, 12:05 PM

I get that your right its not about time or saying i do bcuz if that were the case i wouldn't.be marrying him at all im still frustrated bcuz of them not him when i said him having doubts i mean saying its his counselor taking his time or is it really him i don't believe it's him but.im not gonnalie it has crossed my mind.i also tell.him if your having doubts let me know bcuz marriage is a big deal to me the time the place doesn't.matter i would marry him anywhere any place as long as he's sure he wants to

NeverDull · #8 08-09-2012, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by KDs Lady

I don't have an issue with waiting i just tell him when it's done we will go from there really i'm tired of the jail theyare slow about everythingits driving me crazy im becoming a bridezilla lol im ready to be his wife already

Ok....it's just when you said "im getting frustrated with this whole process im starting to not even wanna get married anymore" it sure sounded different to me...Anyway, I hope it all turns out for the best for both of you and that your paperwork gets approved soon.

KDs Lady · #9 08-09-2012, 12:16 PM

Im ready im just venting but i can't help but have second thoughts even though he has never gave me a reason to i think my anxiety has my mind going a woman waits her whole life for her prince i'm excited ready to marry him i didn't say yes until i was ready he's been asking me to marry him since we were only together for 6 mos he propose to me last year on my birthday ring in all so time doesn't matter im just anxious i've never been married

ilovecoffee · #10 08-09-2012, 12:44 PM

Congrats on the upcoming wedding.

Devsgirl · #11 08-14-2012, 01:25 PM

frustrated myself! been waiting since may. we got the paperwork back etc. but when he went down to the chapel the chaplain wans't there when he was supposed to be and he was told to come down again later. Then the guard wouldn't let him. so annoying! especially since i do not live in the same state as him and i am coming out there in 3 weeks-had hoped (unrealistically) that it would all be figured out by then lol. Should've known better-the visitation process took 5 months for me to get approved. We were engaged before he went in. sucks so much. but i love him so much. always have always will <3

ilovecoffee · #12 08-14-2012, 02:16 PM

I have the marriage packet, but we dont have a date or anything, or rings, or money LMAO! Soooooo its going be awhile

juss me6 · #13 08-14-2012, 02:24 PM

Mine is getting the marriage packet he says he's asking his counciler how to go about getting it so we can get processed and get it over with lol.

KDs Lady · #14 08-14-2012, 02:58 PM

I have everything and he said his counselor finally finished our paperwork so now just waiting for it to come in the mail but my advice send the papers back and put the 10 for the notary asap you don't need money for that bcuz they are slow bur hopefully september we can get married and thanks everyone

KDs Lady · #15 08-14-2012, 03:00 PM

I know what you mean i live 6 hrs away from where he's at and they only do the ceremonies once a month where's hes at and i work and go to school full time so its hard i know