Welcome to the Prison Talk Online Community! Take a Minute and Sign Up Today!






Go Back   Prison Talk > FOR FAMILY & FRIENDS > When the Relationship is Over...
Register Entertainment FAQ Calendar Mark Forums Read

When the Relationship is Over... This forum is about discussing your thoughts, feelings and issues now that you and your incarcerated (or formerly incarcerated) loved one are no longer together. (This forum is NOT for bashing - please read the rules before posting.)

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #26  
Old 03-20-2017, 01:24 PM
MizzyMuffling's Avatar
MizzyMuffling MizzyMuffling is offline
Registered User
Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: NC & Germany
Posts: 1,490
Thanks: 1,318
Thanked 1,743 Times in 852 Posts
Default

If I'd be me I would leave the whole situation and be by myself for a while and let the others deal with this mess. Way too much drama and uncertainty for my taste and everything and everyone seems to work against you. Not healthy whatsoever.
Take a few steps back maybe and take care of yourself and clear your mind. You seem to be in the middle of a homemade drama.
__________________
Follow your heart but take your brain with you...
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to MizzyMuffling For This Useful Post:
Sponsored Links
  #27  
Old 03-20-2017, 02:20 PM
hisgurl2012's Avatar
hisgurl2012 hisgurl2012 is offline
"what*u*give"
 

Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Texas
Posts: 165
Thanks: 82
Thanked 88 Times in 58 Posts
Thumbs up

Quote:
Originally Posted by Texas EZ Mom View Post
My heart is breaking. I don't know what to even do. he got out on the 8th and I thought things would work for us even with the parole issues. I really thought he had changed. He had me fooled. He told me over and over that he loves me, but the truth of the matter is, he "has love for me" but he is not IN LOVE with me and he probably never was. He told a friend of mine that he was still going to move up here with me and help me get on my feet, but that for long term, he is not staying. That's what she said that he told her. I have 2 children who are 9 and 6. I can see them getting attached to him, just to have him leave us. I don't want his help. I wanted him to love me the way that I love him. He may not even be capable of love. I don't know. Of course he is denying saying any of this. I am torn. Why would she lie to me? Why would he lie to me? Everything he has, I bought him and without me, he has nothing. But I still was not good enough. I am so tired. Mentally exhausted. I tried. I really tried. I put so much into this these past years, and I don't know how to let go. I just want to go lay down and cry, but my daughter is so emotional right now, she is 6, and I cannot do that to her. I am silently going crazy in my head. I need help....

After 4yrs of standing by my man when he went down in 2012 and funding his ass the whole time I found out he had been lying to me bout so much shit. It took me a few months of knowing to even leave him bc i loved him so much. I did like some suggested and cried my eyes out every time I was alone. But you have to look out for yourself and your kids. Now though my life has never been happier. By listening to him and not talking bout the things she said he did, men will always give there own self away and the funny part is they don't even realize that their ratting out themselves. Me, I had to have proof bout my man's lies before I left.

I'll keep you in my prayers!!
__________________
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to hisgurl2012 For This Useful Post:
a.rare.love (03-20-2017), BearsLadyBear (03-21-2017)
  #28  
Old 03-20-2017, 06:51 PM
jadah jadah is offline
Moderator

PTO Moderator 

 

Join Date: Jun 2005
Location: Mississippi,USA
Posts: 1,969
Thanks: 2,398
Thanked 2,608 Times in 1,062 Posts
Default

First off- i am so very sorry you are dealing with this. Secondly, BREATHE.
Now-Why is your son's girlfriend the authority on your husband? The conversation is an A-B conversation. Your son's girlfriend sounds like she is a pot stir-er and needs to be left alone. In the mean time, we are all here to listen and support.
__________________
"One of the casualties of [prison life] is the numbness of the heart"- Man on Fire

"
There is no question that in virtually all circumstances in which people are doing things in order to get rewards, extrinsic tangible rewards undermine intrinsic motivation." the New Scientist (12th April 2011, pp 40-43)

" Every life you touch, every fear or pain you ease, every loved ones' heart that you ease the burden from is the reason you are here."
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to jadah For This Useful Post:
David (04-09-2017)
  #29  
Old 03-20-2017, 07:27 PM
JustBeingMe67's Avatar
JustBeingMe67 JustBeingMe67 is online now
Registered User
 

Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Oregon
Posts: 5,178
Thanks: 741
Thanked 1,484 Times in 737 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Texas EZ Mom View Post
He is over 2 hours away. I tried to get her to go to Houston with me to talk to him on Sunday and she would not go....
He tried to call her on 3 way and she did not answer the phone. He cannot drive until he gets his driver's license back, plus he is on a monitor, so he cannot come up here and she will not go there with me...
It appears that if he is willing to confront her and she is avoiding it, SHE is the asshat here, not your husband.

I really hope you can spend some time thinking about all of this and get some resolution from it....it surely is more drama and high school than I would deal with.
__________________
Be Real, Be You
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to JustBeingMe67 For This Useful Post:
fiat_nox (03-24-2017)
  #30  
Old 03-20-2017, 08:01 PM
a.rare.love's Avatar
a.rare.love a.rare.love is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: California
Posts: 709
Thanks: 3,432
Thanked 404 Times in 299 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by hisgurl2012 View Post
After 4yrs of standing by my man when he went down in 2012 and funding his ass the whole time I found out he had been lying to me bout so much shit. It took me a few months of knowing to even leave him bc i loved him so much.

I did like some suggested and cried my eyes out every time I was alone.
But you have to look out for yourself and your kids. Now though my life has never been happier.

By listening to him and not talking bout the things she said he did, men will always give there own self away and the funny part is they don't even realize that their ratting out themselves. Me, I had to have proof bout my man's lies before I left.

I'll keep you in my prayers!!
Yep.. Same here, chica. Proof is where it's at, as we all can assume anything we want... But, without a proof in hand, they will keep lying or the whole "
You're crazy, or "what you mean?" lmfao
Always thinking we will never learn what's really up. A dis-loyal man always show his true colors
and some sooner than others. But it will surface usually. I would just laugh and focus on me,dump him and not look back.So glad that we all can laugh at things now looking back at my own horrible relations of the past,.I still am doing better than any of the ex's and i love that.

Feel GREAT to be able to look back and laugh at it,knowing as yourself, WE are "better off!" and i agree with all i've highlighted above. (Only IDK> i did not cry much)but i do think it helps those who need to let it all out, 1 tear, after tear, but i was the type who will insta-bounce back after the initial shock/and or initial "i'm gone. as i would want to stay, but knew better, in like 1 hr., i was not going to go through in life with a guy who sure was not worth it, no matter how much i did love him/or assume i did anyhow."Not worth it. .Life too short.
__________________
True/Real love wins each time.

Lead with your MIND and NOT with your heart."
-
#CountingTheDays2017_OurLongAwaitedHomecoming will be so beautiful.Praise God..
-


Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to a.rare.love For This Useful Post:
BearsLadyBear (03-21-2017)
  #31  
Old 03-20-2017, 08:08 PM
a.rare.love's Avatar
a.rare.love a.rare.love is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: California
Posts: 709
Thanks: 3,432
Thanked 404 Times in 299 Posts
Default

[quote=Texas EZ Mom;7610332]
He had me fooled.
-

He told me over and over that he loves me, but the truth of the matter is, he "has love for me" but he is not IN LOVE with me and he probably never was.

He told a friend of mine that he was still going to move up here with me and help me get on my feet, but that for long term, he is not staying.

That's what she said that he told her. I have 2 children who are 9 and 6.

I can see them getting attached to him, just to have him leave us. I don't want his help.

I wanted him to love me the way that I love him.
He may not even be capable of love. I don't know
.



----------



He does not appear to be chica, capable of loving/being IN love with you, and you seemingly are a wonderful woman. I pray you're realizing this. He told you he is not loving you/nor do he believe he was ever IN LOVE? That would be all i would need to hear. I highlight the part above for a reason, as you're not able to make a man or woman love you as much or like you're clearly loving this man. Has to happen naturally and he has advise you, "i don't think i was EVER loving or IN love with you."He said this to you." You're a great lady. Cry it all out,and look at the much bigger picture. MAYBE this is a blessing in disguise,before you're wasting any more time.Not sure what was/is going on with the "friend." But i hope you're going to yes think of the kids,and YOU first, and foremost.
Thirty years is a very long time, but thank god you're still having time to find some 1 who will "love and not only love but care and be IN Love with you for the wonderful lady you're in life, and not have to deal with such... .God bless you. Hugs and blessings your way tonight.
__________________
True/Real love wins each time.

Lead with your MIND and NOT with your heart."
-
#CountingTheDays2017_OurLongAwaitedHomecoming will be so beautiful.Praise God..
-


Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to a.rare.love For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #32  
Old 03-21-2017, 01:38 AM
WeepingWillow's Avatar
WeepingWillow WeepingWillow is offline
Southern Fried Site Moderator

PTO Site Moderator 

 

Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,559
Thanks: 2,603
Thanked 2,410 Times in 944 Posts
Default

Sad that she won't talk to the two of you together. It wouldn't really be the holy grail of drama ending because, let's face it, a desperate liar will lie to the face of the person in the room who knows better, but sometimes you can tell by the body language and attitude of the people involved.

I don't know that her refusing to talk about it would instantly make me think "Well then SHE'S the one lying!" But no one has yet to provide any proof. He conveniently deleted his texts and she conveniently is in too moral of an outrage to go any further into it.

So I'd just keep it in my back pocket and move on for now. You'll know if he loves you and really wants a life with you. Not because he says it over and over again, but because he shows it over and over again.

But y'all need to try to reign this chaos in if you have any chance of making it. No one should be this smack in the middle of your relationship to cause this much drama in 10 days.
__________________
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to WeepingWillow For This Useful Post:
fiat_nox (03-24-2017), sidewalker (03-22-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #33  
Old 03-21-2017, 04:36 AM
Psychocandy's Avatar
Psychocandy Psychocandy is offline
98% mean :)
Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: UK
Posts: 2,211
Thanks: 1,580
Thanked 4,032 Times in 1,417 Posts
Default

Your sons girlfriend sounds like a wrong un. She tells you that you wont be having anything to do with your son...if you dont believe the shit she is talking...that tells you all you need to know about her she is a manipulator wouldnt believe a word she said. And you need to be showing your son what a liar he is involved with.
__________________
Mrs Mroch
Just like the sunshine after rain
I'll come
To be with you will save the day
'Cos I know
When I'm with you again
You just steal my heart away


Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Psychocandy For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #34  
Old 03-21-2017, 05:32 AM
Texas EZ Mom Texas EZ Mom is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,042
Thanks: 59
Thanked 821 Times in 367 Posts
Default

[quote=a.rare.love;7611009]
Quote:
Originally Posted by Texas EZ Mom View Post
He had me fooled.
-

He told me over and over that he loves me, but the truth of the matter is, he "has love for me" but he is not IN LOVE with me and he probably never was.

He told a friend of mine that he was still going to move up here with me and help me get on my feet, but that for long term, he is not staying.

That's what she said that he told her. I have 2 children who are 9 and 6.

I can see them getting attached to him, just to have him leave us. I don't want his help.

I wanted him to love me the way that I love him.
He may not even be capable of love. I don't know
.



----------



He does not appear to be chica, capable of loving/being IN love with you, and you seemingly are a wonderful woman. I pray you're realizing this. He told you he is not loving you/nor do he believe he was ever IN LOVE? That would be all i would need to hear. I highlight the part above for a reason, as you're not able to make a man or woman love you as much or like you're clearly loving this man. Has to happen naturally and he has advise you, "i don't think i was EVER loving or IN love with you."He said this to you." You're a great lady. Cry it all out,and look at the much bigger picture. MAYBE this is a blessing in disguise,before you're wasting any more time.Not sure what was/is going on with the "friend." But i hope you're going to yes think of the kids,and YOU first, and foremost.
Thirty years is a very long time, but thank god you're still having time to find some 1 who will "love and not only love but care and be IN Love with you for the wonderful lady you're in life, and not have to deal with such... .God bless you. Hugs and blessings your way tonight.
He didn't tell me that he does not love me or that he has love for me. That is what he said to her, if it is true. I don't know. He is still telling me that he loves me and wants to move up here with me.
Reply With Quote
  #35  
Old 03-21-2017, 05:46 AM
BearsLadyBear BearsLadyBear is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: USA
Posts: 86
Thanks: 198
Thanked 140 Times in 49 Posts
Default

Tex,
His actions will prove just how much he loves you and how serious he is about you and the relationship.

Just sit back, stay patient and watch his actions.
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to BearsLadyBear For This Useful Post:
choclgs (03-21-2017), Cutepixie (03-21-2017), David (04-09-2017), miamac (03-21-2017), MizzyMuffling (03-21-2017), patchouli (03-21-2017), Sarianna (03-22-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #36  
Old 03-21-2017, 08:54 AM
AndyS AndyS is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Jun 2016
Location: Texas US
Posts: 765
Thanks: 909
Thanked 1,325 Times in 499 Posts
Default

Why are you allowing this woman to dictate your relationship? I think if you were a new poster the responses would be a lot different. Tell her to stay the hell out of your relationship..if your son won't talk to you because if it he needs to grow up. It would be a cold day in hell before someone told me what to do with my personal relationships blackmail or not.
Reply With Quote
The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to AndyS For This Useful Post:
choclgs (03-21-2017), David (04-09-2017), Dobbie_Elf (05-17-2017), fiat_nox (03-24-2017), LifeTraveler (03-26-2017), patchouli (03-21-2017), Sarianna (03-22-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #37  
Old 03-21-2017, 04:49 PM
Silenus Silenus is offline
Registered User
Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Jan 2017
Location: California
Posts: 105
Thanks: 25
Thanked 99 Times in 53 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by BearsLadyBear View Post
Tex,
His actions will prove just how much he loves you and how serious he is about you and the relationship.

Just sit back, stay patient and watch his actions.
^^This. All this. No matter who has an unwelcome opinion on what - he will show himself soon enough. If he wants a loving relationship with you he will do just that. Words are nothing w/o action.

As for everyone else. Damn, they need to gtfo and stay out. All of their he said she said bs is gas on the fire. You said you brought her into this - then take her out. She is letting her words effect you in exactly the way she wants. She is controlling your emotions and thoughts and you are letting her influence you enough to place more confusion in an already tough situation.

You gotta consider yourself and your kids. Ultimately these are the only people that matter. You say that he said he wants to move up with you and help you get on your feet...then what? You deserve a clear answer on then what. If you don't want him to be around knowing he'll just leave after you're on your feet then that's your decision. Don't keep him around bc you don't want to lose time you invested in your relationship or that you want him to love you like you love him. If you wait for that to happen then you could be waiting a loooong time. Do you want to wait for him to love you back like you want? How long are you willing to wait for that to happen? Realistically. Weeks, months....years? Or are you ok with being lukewarm loved and him being around? Honestly, it's not the best way to show a healthy relationship to your kids. Just shows them it's ok to settle. That it's ok to be maybe in love just to hold on to an emotional investment. Saw my mother date a guy who said he was getting a divorce from his already separated wife....well guess what he didn't. Oh and he lied and was still living with her. Her strung her along for over a year. She was so hurt, angry and devastated when she found it. Settling for just ok is never a good way to live life. You deserve all the love shown to you and more with words and actions.

Last edited by Silenus; 03-21-2017 at 04:52 PM..
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Silenus For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #38  
Old 03-23-2017, 07:19 PM
Texas EZ Mom Texas EZ Mom is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,042
Thanks: 59
Thanked 821 Times in 367 Posts
Default two week update

He got out 2 weeks ago yesterday. I thought my world would change and it did, but not like I thought. I have not heard a word from him since Monday. He locked himself out of the phone I bought him and lost the receipt. He wanted me to wire him some money to buy a new phone. I was willing to buy the phone and Walmart site to store purchase it. He had a fit at me and called me STUPID and other names, and hung up on me. He text me and told me "I just don't care anymore" and that was the last I heard from him.
I ended up in the ER with my blood sugar so high my meter would only read "HIGH" which means over 500. My dad died at 520. I was scared. Chest pains. Hard to breathe. I text his sisters when I left to go to the ER on Monday night, and I have yet to hear from his ass. He has shown me who, and what, he really is.
Revenge time....lol. Naw...Well, maybe. Hit him where it counts. Past Child support in the amount of a little over $40,000.00, which I was willing to write off with the Attorney General's office since we were back together. ha. not anymore. Call me mean, but he played head games and he played with my heart....
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Texas EZ Mom For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #39  
Old 03-23-2017, 08:05 PM
miamac's Avatar
miamac miamac is offline
Site Moderator Gone Mad

Staff Superstar Winner PTO Site Moderator 

 

Join Date: May 2013
Location: ORnativeAZresCAtied
Posts: 7,550
Thanks: 9,698
Thanked 12,542 Times in 4,861 Posts
Default

I'm sorry. Take care of your health and emotional well-being. Put some time between this and acting on your feelings so you can be sure it's what you want to do/say.

Big hugs and prayers your way.
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to miamac For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #40  
Old 03-23-2017, 09:43 PM
BearsLadyBear BearsLadyBear is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Sep 2016
Location: USA
Posts: 86
Thanks: 198
Thanked 140 Times in 49 Posts
Default

Tex, the best revenge is to walk away with your head held high even when your insides are in pain.

Don't stoop to his level by going back on your word and seek child support (after you agreed not too) unless you honestly need it.

You are hurt and real angry at him. Don't make haste decisions out of anger.

Sending you hugs.
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to BearsLadyBear For This Useful Post:
fiat_nox (03-24-2017), patchouli (03-24-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #41  
Old 03-24-2017, 01:35 PM
Heismyman Heismyman is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Brenham Texas
Posts: 548
Thanks: 185
Thanked 153 Times in 53 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Texas EZ Mom View Post
He got out 2 weeks ago yesterday. I thought my world would change and it did, but not like I thought. I have not heard a word from him since Monday. He locked himself out of the phone I bought him and lost the receipt. He wanted me to wire him some money to buy a new phone. I was willing to buy the phone and Walmart site to store purchase it. He had a fit at me and called me STUPID and other names, and hung up on me. He text me and told me "I just don't care anymore" and that was the last I heard from him.
I ended up in the ER with my blood sugar so high my meter would only read "HIGH" which means over 500. My dad died at 520. I was scared. Chest pains. Hard to breathe. I text his sisters when I left to go to the ER on Monday night, and I have yet to hear from his ass. He has shown me who, and what, he really is.
Revenge time....lol. Naw...Well, maybe. Hit him where it counts. Past Child support in the amount of a little over $40,000.00, which I was willing to write off with the Attorney General's office since we were back together. ha. not anymore. Call me mean, but he played head games and he played with my heart....

You get that child support. NEVER EVER let a parent off the hook for taking care of their children. CS should never ever be forgiven, that has nothing to do with the relationship between you and him. Your kids deserve that support.
(I could go on forever about CS, LOL)

You take care of yourself. Actions speak louder than words. Your kids need you, he doesn't. Let him make his own way. You will be better off in the long run.
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to Heismyman For This Useful Post:
liveweyerd (04-26-2017), patchouli (03-24-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #42  
Old 03-24-2017, 10:59 PM
fiat_nox's Avatar
fiat_nox fiat_nox is offline
batshit crazy
 

Join Date: Nov 2016
Location: here and there
Posts: 1,120
Thanks: 1,709
Thanked 964 Times in 511 Posts
Default

Oh Tex! My heart's crying for you Sending SO many hugs your way!!

Lady Bear speaks the truth.
Living well IS the best revenge.
I walked away from a marriage 30+ years ago with zilch. No, it didn't make sense to anyone else. But I refused to get down in the mud with him [and his family.]

Rise above it. It's very satisfying.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to fiat_nox For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #43  
Old 03-26-2017, 12:32 PM
WeepingWillow's Avatar
WeepingWillow WeepingWillow is offline
Southern Fried Site Moderator

PTO Site Moderator 

 

Join Date: Nov 2014
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,559
Thanks: 2,603
Thanked 2,410 Times in 944 Posts
Default

I am so, so sorry Tex. I know your heart is broken and I wish I had the power to fix it.

I think you need your back child support, but not for revenge. Because your kids deserve it. I don't know how old they are, but there's college and cars and sports and dances and weddings and all the other big things when it comes to kids. And child support can help with all of that. But it's not something that needs to be done now out of emotion. You can get to all that nitty gritty later.

For now, take care of yourself <3
__________________
Reply With Quote
The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to WeepingWillow For This Useful Post:
Critter07 (03-30-2017), liveweyerd (04-26-2017), miamac (03-26-2017), patchouli (03-26-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #44  
Old 03-26-2017, 01:13 PM
NewTexGal NewTexGal is offline
Registered User
Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Sep 2014
Location: Texas
Posts: 508
Thanks: 446
Thanked 743 Times in 339 Posts
Default

First you've got to take care of your health so you can take care of your children. I hope your blood sugar is back in check.

Collecting child support from him if you were together might not make sense. In our house my husband and I combine all assets, so me collecting an old debt from him wouldn't change a thing financially. He'd write a check to me from the joint account and then I would deposit it back into the joint account.

But your situation is different. Collect the child support when you are in better shape medically and emotionally. Do not collect it out of revenge, but because you are rightfully, morally, and legally owed the money.

I'm so very, very sorry you've been hurt.
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to NewTexGal For This Useful Post:
liveweyerd (04-26-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #45  
Old 03-28-2017, 07:42 PM
Crazychick12 Crazychick12 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2017
Location: Cali
Posts: 88
Thanks: 584
Thanked 52 Times in 34 Posts
Default

It's odd he'd confide that in someone close to you that would most likely pass it on to you. If he knows he's bailing after long deep down,why deny saying it. One of them is drama and a liar to boot. One positive you will get no matter how it feels now Is you'll now know one or both of their true colors and can move on with your life . Hugshope you get down to the bottom of it all if you haven't already (I still need to finish reading all the replies).
Reply With Quote
  #46  
Old 03-28-2017, 09:06 PM
nimuay's Avatar
nimuay nimuay is online now
Super Moderator

PTO Super Moderator Pumpkin Hunt Participant 2014 Easter Egg Hunt 2013 - Participant 

Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: new york
Posts: 22,835
Thanks: 4,687
Thanked 26,619 Times in 9,702 Posts
Default

I'm guessing that two weeks out and faced with so much turmoil, he's just shutting down. You're doubting him and someone else he trusted has shafted him, along with all the normal readjustment woes and willies. I feel for him!

That said, Boy, do I feel for you! You are in such pain, and I get the reasons. But I'm pretty sure you shouldn't trust your son's girlfriend about anything at all. Sounds like she's a real witch. If you haven't alienated your son, then why should she have the power to say you can't talk to him again? Who died and made her boss?

Step back and get as much perspective as you can. Step back from your broken heart and see as clearly as you can. You may not need to keep distrusting your husband, and that would be all the relief you need. If you let that little worm of distrust keep growing, though, then you are swallowing the poison she fed you and letting it spread. (Mixed metaphor, I know, but I'm tired and can't make that come out quite right.)
__________________
You'll know you've created God in your own image when He hates all the people you do.
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to nimuay For This Useful Post:
Critter07 (03-30-2017), sidewalker (03-31-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #47  
Old 03-29-2017, 09:57 PM
nomireatras nomireatras is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: too far away
Posts: 719
Thanks: 243
Thanked 730 Times in 326 Posts
Default

i know it is difficult for you but the best advice I can give you is to take your time. Let yourself settle down, let him settle down and deal with him directly. keep your son's girlfriend out of your business and if your son decides to stay with a woman who disrespects his mother, then so be it. You can't change people all you can change is yourself. Concentrate on your kids and keeping them safe, both mentally and emotionally as this drama unfolds. Try to keep an open mind to your man and let this whole thing play out before you make moves that can't be taken back. This is grown man and grown woman stuff you are facing now and things like this can't be rushed. I wish you well and my heart goes out to you as you live this heart-wrenching pain.
__________________
Your Joy Is Your Sorrow Unmasked
Reply With Quote
The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to nomireatras For This Useful Post:
Critter07 (03-30-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #48  
Old 03-30-2017, 09:30 AM
lulu's Avatar
lulu lulu is offline
Been here forever
 

Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Tx.
Posts: 9,966
Thanks: 76
Thanked 326 Times in 52 Posts
Default

I WILL lean how to maneuver this site again sheesh
I am sick of hearing women that stood by these men and are left shortly after they come out or never heard from again.. I'm really getting pissed at the disrespect of these men.

unfortunate this happened more then people realize. it is a shame,,

how ever, I wrote an article many years ago, well actually my penal wrote that one, about prison mentality. It actually helps us understand what it is for them once they are out. if you do a search on my name, the article should come up

I am however so sorry this is happened to you..
__________________
many hugs
lulu
Reply With Quote
The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to lulu For This Useful Post:
joybubby (04-07-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017), Texasflower08 (04-10-2017)
  #49  
Old 04-01-2017, 06:13 PM
Texas EZ Mom Texas EZ Mom is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Texas
Posts: 1,042
Thanks: 59
Thanked 821 Times in 367 Posts
Default His New Girlfriend

Well, he has a girlfriend and we are most definitely over. He had her text me last night and she threatened me and he also threatened me, in text messages. I have had enough of all of this, more than enough. I am now thinking I should take the information that I have (the text messages, a few letters, and a piece of information that I have that I can prove what he has been doing) and take all of it to the local police because I am scared of him. he is involved in some things and I have information to prove it. He already told his parole officer that I will be calling her because "I am evil" and will try to get him put back in prison. He is definitely the same person he was and had me fooled into thinking he had changed. He manipulated me and used my love for him as if it were some type of weakness. I want to get a restraining order to keep him away from me and my children.
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to Texas EZ Mom For This Useful Post:
Spazzout (04-24-2017)
  #50  
Old 04-01-2017, 06:23 PM
patchouli's Avatar
patchouli patchouli is offline
PTO Administrator

PTOQ Editorial Team Member Staff Superstar Two Time Winner Staff Superstar Winner 

Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Kentucky
Posts: 36,163
Thanks: 35,823
Thanked 28,496 Times in 13,311 Posts
Default

PO's have heard it all and can often see through BS. I'm sure your ex telling his PO that you are "evil" made the PO's spidey senses tingle. If you feel you need a Protection Order, by all means go get it. Don't even worry about what he /she says or thinks. F 'em. Take care of you, your kids....and also go file for that child support.

I'm so sorry things turned out this way....my heart is breaking for you
__________________
July 2017 PTOQ is Now Available!
Print & Share
Click Here
Reply With Quote
The Following 9 Users Say Thank You to patchouli For This Useful Post:
AndyS (04-01-2017), AussieAngel (04-02-2017), Critter07 (04-02-2017), KobeDeuce (04-01-2017), liveweyerd (04-26-2017), Quetz (05-03-2017), Sarianna (04-02-2017), sidewalker (04-02-2017), Spazzout (04-24-2017)
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Told 60-90 days for visit. Then 30 days for glassvisit now 45 business days HisQueen531 Texas Prison and Jail Visitation, Phones, Packages & Mail 5 07-28-2016 08:31 AM
Only 18 more days till hubby is home!! How many days left for you?? nicole90898 Texas Parole, Probation, Work Release & Community Service 11 07-08-2011 10:23 PM
Is it 60 days or 90 days to a contact visit? Gurney Texas Prison Unit Hallwaywalker Texas Prison and Jail Specific Discussions + Lock Down Status 7 06-20-2010 06:11 PM
County Jail days equals how many Federal prison days?? cd3223 Federal General Prison Talk, Introductions & Chit Chat 2 01-27-2010 07:26 PM
just found out his county days DIDNT count for 3 prison days.... lilipettway General Prison Talk 3 06-23-2008 08:08 AM


All times are GMT -6. The time now is 06:05 AM.
Copyright © 2001- 2017 Prison Talk Online
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Website Design & Custom vBulletin Skins by: Relivo Media
Message Board Statistics