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Old 12-11-2014, 04:24 AM
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thatss awesome! me and my mwi started calling eah other best husband and best wife, but i cant wait til its actually real one day! congrats! i hope its all you want and more!
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Today he proposed and I'm not sure where we go from here. Can't plan a specific wedding so I figure we do some bible studies together on marriage.
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Depends on the facility your LO is at. Typically (state prisons) he will need to request a marriage packet from his counselor (he'll need $ in his account for that). Then he fills out his portion, mails it to you, you fill out yours, include certified copies of both birth certs./any divorce decrees or legal name changes. Mail it back and start the approval process.

I'd suggest checking the forum specific to your LO's facility for more specific info and...

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And then start getting ahold of the paperwork you'll need for once you're married - what bank accounts are going to be joint, getting him sigantory powers for your safe deposit box, license and title changes - much of that can be done when you renew after you are legally married.

Talk with your attorney about updating your wills. You should be reviewing your wills every 5 years or with every major change of life - marriage is one such major change, so is parole.

decide now if you're going to change your name legally. Before you decide, look into the requirements for any career licensing you may have as it can be a bitch to change, and if you need to change back - after all, the name on your diplomas and degrees won't match.

Make some decisions about kids, if either of you have them. Not just telling them, but in terms of letting schools know that there's a change of name for you. Also, fill out the paperwork so that you or he can accept responsibility for a kid - like when the kid gets sick at school, or whatever else maybe relevant.

Look into your state's tax structure and credit/debt structure. Community property states can be a bitch on your assets.

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And then start getting ahold of the paperwork you'll need for once you're married - what bank accounts are going to be joint, getting him sigantory powers for your safe deposit box, license and title changes - much of that can be done when you renew after you are legally married.

Talk with your attorney about updating your wills. You should be reviewing your wills every 5 years or with every major change of life - marriage is one such major change, so is parole.

decide now if you're going to change your name legally. Before you decide, look into the requirements for any career licensing you may have as it can be a bitch to change, and if you need to change back - after all, the name on your diplomas and degrees won't match.

Make some decisions about kids, if either of you have them. Not just telling them, but in terms of letting schools know that there's a change of name for you. Also, fill out the paperwork so that you or he can accept responsibility for a kid - like when the kid gets sick at school, or whatever else maybe relevant.

Look into your state's tax structure and credit/debt structure. Community property states can be a bitch on your assets.

Otherwise, congratulations. Have fun.
California is a community property state ,which you need to be aware of.
It has given me pause on getting married, much as I love him and Jesus.

Congratulations on your engagement.

I would suggest perhaps your pastor can suggest how to do pre-marriage counseling , given the limitations of incarceration.
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Thank you all :-) So since my last post, I have sent the intent to marry letter to his counselor and in order for them to approve us he has to take a marriage counseling course on the 9th. I'm not sure how many, or if it's only the one class. I did find out that none of the chaplains at the prison perform the ceremonies. We have to hire someone outside of the prison. I have also picked out our rings :-) Photos will be posted soon! And so far, that is where we are at.
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My fiancé and I just got engaged ( about two weeks ago ) and we already heard back from the Supt. concerning our intent forms and sending out the marriage packet . I loved this man since 2009 I just wish my mother was happy for me . She DOES NOT Approve !
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I was in your shoes sweetheart. My family hated that I was going to marry my soulmate in prison. But once you block that negativity out and just keep focused on you and your man, nothing but the love you guys share will matter Congratulations sweetie
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I am in your EXACT situation. I haven't even told my father. You can't help who you love and life is too short to be anything but Happy. CONGRATULATIONS TOO YOU GIRLLYYYY be happy. You are getting MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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congrats on your engagement! me and my fiance got in engaged about 4 weeks ago, a week before Christmas he asked me to marry him in the prison! and my parents have no idea! and will not approve either. i know how you feel! but besides that, happy for the great news that your getting married! happy 2015, when do you plan on getting married? we should be married by mid to the end of next year!
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He called me tonight after we had been arguing yesterday and he hung the phone up last night. He said he realized I'm more patient and loving than anyone he's ever been with. He was like, "we're going to get married!" I was like, "no we're not... you didn't ask me." So then he was like, "I don't wanna ask you over the phone..." I was like, "It doesn't matter how you ask me. I love you regardless." Then he asked me and I said no to be funny. Oh, he was furious! LOL. But I did say yes! Yay! He goes up for parole again on Friday, so he might get to come home. But if all else fails, he gets to come home at the end of the year. I can't wait!
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Lily- thank you! I havent heard from you in a while... how are you and "best husband" doing?!

MajorsGirl- thank you. lol. I'm sure he's still mad at me for saying no.
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He called me tonight after we had been arguing yesterday and he hung the phone up last night. He said he realized I'm more patient and loving than anyone he's ever been with. He was like, "we're going to get married!" I was like, "no we're not... you didn't ask me." So then he was like, "I don't wanna ask you over the phone..." I was like, "It doesn't matter how you ask me. I love you regardless." Then he asked me and I said no to be funny. Oh, he was furious! LOL. But I did say yes! Yay! He goes up for parole again on Friday, so he might get to come home. But if all else fails, he gets to come home at the end of the year. I can't wait!
congrats i am soooo happy for you mine wont ask me he says i deserve better so i have to wait
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Oh yayyyy!! Congrats lady!!! I probably would have jokingly said no too :P but of course yes right after!!! Fingers crossed for the parole board... Keep us updated okay!?
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Oh yayyyy!! Congrats lady!!! I probably would have jokingly said no too :P but of course yes right after!!! Fingers crossed for the parole board... Keep us updated okay!?
Yea he went up on Friday... didn't get it. He was crushed. He'll end up getting out by December hopefully.
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