Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

missGeo · #1 07-31-2012, 10:23 AM

I have been viewing a lot of posts looking for information. I can relate to
many of your stories so I decided to register. I am quite hesitant about putting
things this sensitive online, but I just can't believe that my son is in prison.

I am from Michigan. My son is 19 and was sentenced to 15 months in prison
under HYTA. He was a freshman in college, he had to withdraw from all his
classes, lose the tuition.. all of it, he was 2 weeks away from finals. He just
started a new job that he really liked and paid well- lost that. Needless to say, I am very sick, sad, and obsessed with this. It breaks my heart and I just want him home. When I wake up, if I sleep, I can't believe it and think this is just nightmare. I am sure you are all feeling the same unbelievable pain.

1bird2 · #2 08-01-2012, 07:57 AM

Wecome to the family missGeo, I'm so sorry for your pain. I know that when things are so fresh and raw it is hard to see your way through....but you will get through this. I know, the timing is just horrible...that would certainly add to the pain...but in time, things will settle down and you will find your "new normal"....nothing you EVER wanted to find....
I looked up HYTA (because I had no idea about that)....and that sounds like something to be thankful for in this nightmare....and it is important to find ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you can to be thankful for in this messed up system we are tangled in.
Please do take the time to read the "sticky" 7 stages of grief at the top of the forum...it helped me a great deal.
We do feel your pain...and we do care. I hope you will stay close to us....and allow us to walk with you on this tough journey. You will find much love, encouragement, understanding, HOPE and many prayers. It will not always feel the way it does today...it will always be painful...but this too shall pass. Your son sounds like he has a lot going for him....and success is still available! He will make it! ... and so will you!
Stay with us!
Love and prayers,
XXOO

KidzMom · #3 08-01-2012, 10:30 AM

A bittersweet Welcome to you missGeo. RAW - RAW describes the - PAIN - DESPAIR - DEVASTATION - ANGER - INTENSE INCREDIBLE LOVE for your son - so intense that you would never believe you could feel love so deeply (for me this love is almost deeper than the feeling of love when you first looked upon your child at birth).

Just last night I was talking to my family...it has been 1 year for us now and we still cannot believe this is happening to us....

Your entire family's life has changed forever - the old normal will never come back ...it takes a while - an entire river of tears - to even BEGIN to feel like you can make it through this horrid mess but we will be here for you!

missGeo · #4 08-01-2012, 02:04 PM

Thank you. I know we will never be the same, but maybe, just maybe something
good will come out of it. I may never know. (Like he will realize what that girl and
her family really are -- Bad News!)

missGeo · #5 08-01-2012, 02:13 PM

Thanks 1bird2, Yes, this too shall pass. Just like this cold, cold world..
I do have things to be thankful for, for one finding a forum like this.

"The call" could have been worse, the police could have been calling me to tell me
he was in a fatal car accident. I still have him, I can talk to him each day. I get to
see him every week, because he is only 56 miles away.. All those things can be
viewed as positives. (I am straining to convince myself of this at the moment).

RaRi · #6 08-03-2012, 02:33 PM

Hello missGeo welcome to PTO. Finding this group has helped me a lot in dealing with all this. I was especially happy to read your last post, finding the positive in this sad situation is a huge step in the right direction. It took me a lot longer to be thankful for my Blessings but once I was able to count them I felt much much better! Know you are not alone in this and there are people who care and understand.

wickit · #7 08-04-2012, 12:40 AM

WELCOME TO PTO!
I can hear the pain in your words and I am so sorry! We are here for you!
Please look through our other forums for more support and information!

ford123 · #8 08-05-2012, 07:57 AM

Haven't seen it yet, but you will hear this alot...."BREATHE"...It does get better...try not to get to overwhelmed...Can't change it...Got to live with it...Keep coming back here, it really does help.
welcome, sorry you have to be here.

LoyalMom · #9 08-05-2012, 09:53 PM

Yep, My Dear, I can relate to everything you said! Such a shock to suddenly find yourself in a world you only occasionally heard about and then suddenly, you are in it! This forum has saved my sanity. No One I know has ever been in my situation and no one I know can relate. The ladies on this site will support you, help you, and encourage you to endure. I think us Mother's suffer more than our children because we are so connected. God Bless you and your family. "Jesus, I trust in You". That has become my mantra. LM

bumblebee37 · #10 08-08-2012, 03:51 PM

I can sure relate to this post. Even years after my son was found guilty, paid his debt to society and it all seems like a horrible nightmare to me these days I still find myself crying. What a waste of a life my son had.
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