Sexual Intimacy with your MWI?

[gnjt11]

Originally Posted by NurseL720

The intimacy that comes with sex is vital to ANY healthy relationship. I was never a fan of phone sex until I became involved with M, but those times have become something that I, WE, don't just enjoy, but cherish and are very satisfied with. I always say to him "My god, if this is what you can do to me over the PHONE..."

My man got locked up a couple of months ago, and will be in for a little over a year. We have had a pretty healthy sexual relationship before he got locked up, and over the past couple of months we have brushed up on things we want to do when he gets out. I have never had phone sex, sexted or anything like that, but the other day I just happened to be alone at the house and we ended up having phonesex and I have to say that was probably the best "sex" I have had, just to hear his voice and he explain things made it so real and I think like you said it is something I will cherish.

[Shawty2017]

Originally Posted by MizzyMuffling

Hell yes!!
On the phone, in letters and during our last visit we were able and allowed to sit really close, kiss in between, hug'n stuff... soooo soooo sweet!

Yes us too i met him while he was incarcerated on chatline and i was so horny from his voice i squirted instantly from listening to him just talk n i didnt tell him until later cause he is concieted n arrogant already but when we started man if we do what we say on phone we will be good i met him in may when i seen him my mouth dropped to floor according to him aight mayb halfway cause i seen one pic n he beefed up before i seen him since that pic and I was able to hug n kiss him n hold his hand but being an out of towner and first time in a prision and my first time meeting him i was terrifed to death but it wasnt as bad as i thought and i became comfortable before the end visit that day hoping second time is more pleasant expierence

[a.rare.love]

Originally Posted by O's Sweetheart

Other: Conjugal visits :-D - Love them!

so luck you are hola chica, wow.
and i hope you're marriage to your husband es going stronger than ever each passing day, night,and for always #happy God bless.
adios.

[Karenkmt]

Phone and video chat.

[Chaddersgirl]

Ok this may be a silly question but how do you ladies engage in phone sex with your loves? Where my love is, the phones are like in the middle of the pod/unit and there are constantly other guys on the phone at the same time and guys walking by saying something to him when we are talking. Just curious if your men have similar setup and just don't care or what?

[Hurley123]

Originally Posted by Chaddersgirl

Ok this may be a silly question but how do you ladies engage in phone sex with your loves? Where my love is, the phones are like in the middle of the pod/unit and there are constantly other guys on the phone at the same time and guys walking by saying something to him when we are talking. Just curious if your men have similar setup and just don't care or what?

My guy is in the same kind of situation...it's even hard on him when I sometimes have "frisky" talk...he's like "babe there's guy's all around me" so I have to be good. Unless I'm feeling bratty! lol He loves it tho!

[Kirin]

We get a bit kinky in letters sometimes, describing what we'd like and how it might be.

[WeepingWillow]

Originally Posted by Chaddersgirl

Ok this may be a silly question but how do you ladies engage in phone sex with your loves? Where my love is, the phones are like in the middle of the pod/unit and there are constantly other guys on the phone at the same time and guys walking by saying something to him when we are talking. Just curious if your men have similar setup and just don't care or what?

My boyfriend usually called for sexytime during times when the day room was fairly empty...like 7am. He was pretty adamant about not being interrupted by people while we talked so that wasn't a huge problem. Of course people knew what he was doing but it was an act of love haha.

Once he had to get off the phone for count mid-sexy time and the guard told him to "put that thing away" in front of everyone. He was so embarrassed lol, but he still came back to the phone so we could finish up. Stubborn butt

[Lytebryte]

Originally Posted by Chaddersgirl

Ok this may be a silly question but how do you ladies engage in phone sex with your loves? Where my love is, the phones are like in the middle of the pod/unit and there are constantly other guys on the phone at the same time and guys walking by saying something to him when we are talking. Just curious if your men have similar setup and just don't care or what?

Well maybe you can do the talking and let him listen.. Trust he will find away to say something back... lol My Guy would wait until early in the mornings when they were still asleep when he was in a POD.. It would be fun just the thought that we were trying not to bring any attention, but stil have a little fun!. LMAO 😍 I just ❤️Him...

[Lytebryte]

Originally Posted by WeepingWillow

My boyfriend usually called for sexytime during times when the day room was fairly empty...like 7am. He was pretty adamant about not being interrupted by people while we talked so that wasn't a huge problem. Of course people knew what he was doing but it was an act of love haha.

Once he had to get off the phone for count mid-sexy time and the guard told him to "put that thing away" in front of everyone. He was so embarrassed lol, but he still came back to the phone so we could finish up. Stubborn butt

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Sounds like my guy too..!

[Lytebryte]

Originally Posted by Psychocandy

Would love to know what he said to your thoughts on his sexuality

Me too!. 💭

[jumbosgirl]

My boyfriend and i take turns writing eachother "FANTASY" letters and it is seriously amazing. My boyfriend is shy so writing about it vs talking is easier for him. Either way I am thrilled

[InLuvWithALifer]

B and I get very dirty on the phone but it is largely one sided because of less than ideal circumstances. Fortunately, he has a very deep, sexy voice so honestly we have a really sort of silly thing we discuss each time and he just listens as I talk dirty back to him and cum sooooooo loud and hard. He loves it and always has a sweet, sexy laugh he breaks in to after I finish as he tells me how much he enjoys hearing me yell his name.

[InLuvWithALifer]

Oh and for the 50+ fantasies I have written to him he has written me... two?

[moonhanger]

my LO has gotten so good at writing sexual letters that when she gets out, she seriously needs to look into writing screenplays for porn films. no joke.

[Adavis17]

Me and my guy had met first when he was out and went separate ways in 15. Well the following month I was pregnant, but couldn't find him for a year till I found out where he was locked up. We got back together in 17 as he was incarcerated, but our son was born in 16, once I found out why I couldn't locate him, I got over it and we caught up. Eventually we decided to rekindle our relation and oh mmmm gee. I love this man beyond words, but I have to say I agree while sex isn't the main focus i have to say with each of us being highly sexual we love to write scenes and scenarios for when he is home, have phone sex and while I have yet to have a contact visit as he was sent to a federal prison,when he comes back to our home state next month, I am so about to making out too lol. I feel our sexual intimacy relates to how we get out our emotional and mental intimacy we have with one another.

We didn't really know one another deep enough beforehand, but I have to say I am glad that he is incarcerated so that we were able to get that with one another because the mere sound of his voice gets me worked up. I wish we lived in a conjugal state, for those ladies getting it I'm jelly lol but I know once he is home I'm done for, along comes child #2 within a month 😂

[Iárnvidia]

Originally Posted by Chaddersgirl

Ok this may be a silly question but how do you ladies engage in phone sex with your loves? Where my love is, the phones are like in the middle of the pod/unit and there are constantly other guys on the phone at the same time and guys walking by saying something to him when we are talking. Just curious if your men have similar setup and just don't care or what?

Here's how we do it. 😁 He cups his hand over the phone while talking dirty so that the guys on the other phones can't hear him (or at least, not very well). When he can get a corner phone, he has a special masturbation method. He has a hole in the pocket of his sweatpants and puts a sock over his ... member... to catch the cum and soak it up. I can't imagine getting off in a room full of people but it's been 20 years since he's had actual sex, so he manages to focus pretty well on what we're doing. I am a lot shyer than he is, still... He says some incredibly hot things to me. It's always incredibly pleasurable. 😉

[Oceansdrm]

We Have Family Visits So We Can Have Real Sex Yes Every 90 Days But At Least We Can Share That

[tabbycat007]

God, I'm SOOO glad I read this thread, because DJ and I have been getting quite flirty lately, but I've been scared of really going there, because I'm afraid DoC will go crook on us, or they will censor my emails, and they won't even be delivered to him! But by the sounds of all you girls, I'm being WAY too paranoid! Maybe it's time to up the anti in this regard..? ;-)
Thanks for sharing y'all!

[JGardner10]

I think this is an important topic for any relationship, inside or outside of the prison walls. Our brains are the most important sexual organ we have. Sharing our personal fantasies, desires, needs, are important to build intimacy.

[Ladybug98]

I haven't been with my boyfriend for that long but we have had phone sex & he even wrote me a skit lol. For me it's important because you still need that intimacy & who cares if it's on the phone or with letters. If it works keep it goin

[ILLINOIS.PAL]

I've sent out one letter dedicated to a smutty story I came up with. But, in my regular correspondence to him I'll usually add one or two paragraphs in there about fantasies I've had. I also write a smutty email usually once a week and I've sent numerous pics of me in lingerie.



As for him, he's shy so he hasn't gotten into yet, but he's written a couple lines here and there in his letters, and kinda started heading toward phone sex a couple weeks ago lol - I'm expecting a dirty letter here soon!!