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Old 03-04-2008, 01:04 AM
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My husband is a pnm and i caught wind of female c/os working to sleep with the inmates has this happened to any one else.thats the only reason girls get jobs there. it made me so angy that i barley trust my husband any more.
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Old 03-04-2008, 06:39 AM
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I wouldn't go freaking out over something I "got wind of" if I were you, it may be BS or exxaggerated, I highly doubt that's the ONLY reason any women work there.
Second point- what does your HUSBAND say about this? Don't let a rumor ruin the trust. These relationships are hard enough. But if he's the faithful kind it's unlikely he'd fall for a CO, and if he's not, you'd have problems out here too.
It sounds like you're missing him a lot and feeling insecure. maybe communication can help...hating on some woman who's probly just trying to pay the rent and buy her kids shoes won't.
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Old 03-05-2008, 09:25 AM
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I dont believe they hire them for that either. But there are some co`s that do have affairs with inmates and this does go on alot ( women and mens prisons) Not all co`s are like that.( very few) they do go through a background check and a lot of training to become a officer --thats how they make their money as a officer( some slip up),but most are there to do their job and make thier money like that ,And what does your husband say about this to you? I would not worry about it if I were you. my husband is there in NM and I have not heard anything from him like that.
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I can tell you some women do but not all some women just end up with someone in prison. It isnt always something is always planned. trust me i know. if u have any questions pm me
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I know it sounds like im freaking out or theres no trust , i had heard the news from several people who new the female c/o i too also knew her,and its not something im making up it's real and when i knew it wasnt just gossip was when my husband himself told me at a visit that he had knew it had happened because it was at the facility where a family member is held and the incedent was happening right next to him. Ive delt with my husband being in the system for over 9 years and trust is not an issue we have. i posted this thread for the poor inmates wife that the c/o was with with her permission.
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wow for me me and tone never slept together ever and let me tell you i feel bad for the inmates wife. my prayers are with her.
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I used to work for TDCJ as a CO. I am engaged to marry the man I met there. Most of ther women officers I worked with had/have boyfriends. It happens a lot to be honest with you. I didn't go to work there looking for love, but it found me. I wouldn't change a thing either.
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You could easily get her fired. But who is to blame? Is it her? Do you think she took advantage of you husband because he is lonely and needing human touch? Do you think it should have been up to him to say no? I feel for you please don't think i am being cold or mean. If you want her fired get proof. That's what it takes.
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I don't think all female c/o's take the job to sleep with inmates. i have relatives that are c/o's. My baby has told me that they came on to him and me and him know not to go there. I don't play that s*it. I will find out if it was to ever occur, but I don't go there because it's not going to happen. My brothers have told me that they have came on to them as well but they don't mess with them because those girls be catching stuff from doing that.
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Yea for me i never sleeped with him we are together becuase we really love eachother not becuase it was a sex thing. but yea there are alot of females that do that in there and it isnt a game or isnt nice
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Seriously this might be mean but get over it. That's not the only reason women become co's. And if your husband/bf cheats on you w/ a co, then he was a real piece of sh!t and you need to leave his ass anyways.

Why are we CONSTANTLY bashing female co's on PTO?
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It is true I heard about it also from an inmate who did sleep with the c/o. It sucks and it is somethign that happens behind walls that we will never find out about. None of ur husbands are dumb enough to say that they slept with a female c/o LOL
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my thoughts exactly. that is a real piece of s$%= that would do that to a lady out here waiting and being faithful. it's time to move on for sure. he's not worth it!!!
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jordans i believe that all women that that female c/o's are like that but not all. but if this female co should be ashamed becuase when i was a co i made sure those guys behaved becuase of woemn who are waitting on them dont deserve to be treated like that at all.
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So does anyone know what facility this CO is doing her business? And has anyone heard anything further???
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i'm not gonna bash the female co's. but i am gonna say this, if they weren't there-if there were only male co's in male prisons, then this wouldn't be an issue at all-now would it? the logical thing is to send female co's to the female prisons and male co's to the male prisons. and as far as being upset at the co's no i wouldnt be upset with them. they never stood before god and made vows to me, my husband did, and if i can stay faithful to him then he can stay faithful to me. its a choice, and there is always an out even when you are lonely and tempted. so i dont buy the "it just happened thing"
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I agree with you 120%. I dont feel female cos should work in an all male facility.
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yes i know were but i am not going to say it out here.
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All I know is there have been a few and there is only one left that I know of!!! Guranteed this happens everywhere!!!
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I am just curious because to think the system would be more strict than that...I was wondering HOW can these c/o's (male or female) sleep with inmates? Dont they get caught?
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I am just curious because to think the system would be more strict than that...I was wondering HOW can these c/o's (male or female) sleep with inmates? Dont they get caught?
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They do get caught and are promptly fired the less dirty officers the happier we all are!
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Angry C'mon NMCD get wit it!!

Ok so - um yeah why the heck doesn't NMCD see that it's only right to stick only male co's in a men's facility n the same for women??
Guaranteed they have fired NUMEROUS men/women for inappropriate behavior!!

Of course, I have been in a situation where many women have come on to my huzz - those scandalous bz's. I know them by name and one has been fired for just that!!
Shoot my brother and primos have all said the same - just some insecure women.
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First of all as a female woking in a new mexico prison let me clear up that the last thing on my mind is having an innapropriate relationship with any inmate. Those women who are supposed to be earning an honest living but chose to do things they shouldnt should be ASHAMED of themselves because they give the rest of us a bad name. My one reason for being there is to earn money to pay my bills. And if i am presented with any behavior that is other the appropriate it honestly disgusts me. Females have every right to work in a prison I treat my inmates with respect no more no less and expect them to act accordingly. Just thought maybe you should know before ou go make generalizations that we arent all immoral tramps
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Alright because this thread has gone into so many levels of breach of PTO Policy I'm gonna lock it up. Please review these 2 policies below for future reference:

• Sex with C. O. and Sex in the Visiting Room Threads
Certain general subjects seem to persistently show up on PTO. Two such examples are “Sex with C.O.’s” and “Sex in the Visiting Room.” Before posting a question on PTO, we strongly encourage members to utilize the “search” function to see if the question has already been answered. If a member posts a question that has already been answered several times, the PTO staff reserves the right to post links to previous threads - where the question has been answered - and close the thread.

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