I personally think and believe you have got to get to know your significant other on the outside first if you’re MWI before taking any „serious steps“ while the partner is still an inmate.
There’s just no way to know, you can assume and trust and believe all you want to while doing the MWI-thing but when they come home there’s not knowing what’s going to happen. It’s none‘s fault but being locked up does something to the jailbird and you’ve got to give it time.
Being on this forum for years now I’ve come to find out that more MWI relationships don’t work once the inmate comes home than the ones that do work. It’s only a small percentage and for misc. reasons.
Just read the forum „When the relationship is over...“. It’s heartbreaking to read and I believe a lot of heartbreak could’ve been prevented. But that’s just me.
But never give up hope and never give up your needs & beliefs and don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.
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