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Old 01-10-2018, 06:53 AM
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Default Addressing Mail "Mr." (Inmate's Name)...or "Mrs," or "Ms?"

Folks, this may be (in "our" world of life and death situations) a very trivial thing to ask. I'm not known, on Prisontalk, for asking those kinds of questions anyway (as some of you know)!

I'm addressing my daily letter, to my LO, and wondered if the mailroom would hold an envelope addressed to "Mr." (Inmate's Name)...or "Mrs," or "Ms?"
One of the things that incarcerated people feel most, from what I've read, is that they are less than human. Would addressing them by such a title be a "no-no?" Self-esteem can be a very powerful coping mechanism and I'm just wondering?

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My Mr has never been in Federal, always ky state prison, but I have always addressed his mail to Mr. xxxxxxx #555555. And for the same reason that you stated
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I think the letters will be delivered with Mr/MS/etc. The unknown factor is always how the mailroom CO is feeling that day.
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It never even occurred to me that adding a common honorific could cause a problem when addressing a letter to an inmate.

I still can't wrap my mind around that. Really?

I have a number of penpals, and I address ALL of them with either Mr. Mrs. or Ms.
99% of my letters get through! I have had one or two letters that apparently got 'lost' but I suspect that they were tossed for some reason other than how I addressed the envelope.

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I always write Mr and then my penpals name and number and I have never had any problems.
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I always write Mr and so far no problems Its not something i thought about before.
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Folks, this may be (in "our" world of life and death situations) a very trivial thing to ask. I'm not known, on Prisontalk, for asking those kinds of questions anyway (as some of you know)!

I'm addressing my daily letter, to my LO, and wondered if the mailroom would hold an envelope addressed to "Mr." (Inmate's Name)...or "Mrs," or "Ms?"
One of the things that incarcerated people feel most, from what I've read, is that they are less than human. Would addressing them by such a title be a "no-no?" Self-esteem can be a very powerful coping mechanism and I'm just wondering?

Thanks!
I guess the reason I asked this is because I've heard about how prison guards try to demean inmates. Wasn't sure if this would go against that type of behavior (on the part of the CO)?

I appreciate all the responses and am inclined to start addressing my letters as such!
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I always write Mr. on the envelopes. My pen pal went out of his way to tell me he likes it. No one said anything about it.
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Thank you everyone. I had been wondering about this.
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